How to Love Your Authentic Self. “You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha In our personal development-focused, life coach-dependent world, it’s all too easy to think you need to change. Not just the things you do, but who you are. It’s one thing to invite transformation for the sake of growth, improvement, and new possibilities. This type of intrinsic self-loathing formed the basis of my adolescence and some of my twenties. Ironically, I won a karaoke contest in the early nineties for singing The Greatest Love of All—yet I hadn’t learned to love myself. On most days, I kept a running mental tally of all the ways I messed up—all the dumb things I said, the stupid ideas I suggested, and the inevitably unsuccessful attempts I made to make people like me. I tell you this not as an after picture who can’t even remember that girl from before, but as someone who has lived this past decade taking two steps forward and one step back. 1. 2.
We all want validation. 10 Quick and Easy Ways to Boost Your Mood. Photo Credit When things don’t go your way, it’s tempting to grab a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, start an hours long Netflix binge, and wallow in self-pity. However, time is your most valuable resource. Don’t waste it with negative thoughts! Instead, try one of these 10 tips for a quick mood boost that will leave you feeling instantly refreshed: 1. Whether it’s a break up or a bad grade, there’s a song out there to match every emotion.
Instead, create a playlist of positive, uplifting music to turn to when you need a mood-boost. 2. Photo Credit Exercising is often the last thing you want to do when you’re depressed, but it’s scientifically proven to boost your mood. Exercise can be as simple as taking a walk or doing some meditative stretching, but also covers more intense activities, like running or kickboxing. 3. When you’re faced with a problem or challenge, it’s common to want to put off dealing with it, but this only prolongs your negative feelings. 4.
Photo Credit 5. 6. Photo Credit 7. 8. 11351ce89553730c9949ca592abf862f.jpg (JPEG Image, 500 × 624 pixels) How To Be Happy: 20 Ways To Practice Self-Love. I found that self-love is a not a destination, it's a practice. "Self-love requires you to be honest about your current choices and thought patterns and undertake new practices that reflect self-worth. " ~Caroline Kirk If one more person told me to go love myself I was going to levitate into the air and pull one of those impossible martial arts moves from Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. I was sick of it! What the heck does loving myself mean? About a year and a half ago, I almost died after a bad break-up. As I wrote about here, when I finally developed the courage to end an addictive and painful relationship, I had to live with the effects of lack of self-love. I struggled to eat, sleep, or continue my daily functioning.
I made mixed media collages, journaled, watched The Notebook five more times, cried, and called up friends to keep me company while I ate my few bites each day. During this whole time, I found places in my story where I was not present to my own life, my body or my spirit. Meditation and All Of It’s Benefits! I have had a regular mediation practice for a while now. I used to be quite regimented and wake up a half hour early each morning and do it first thing for at least 20 minutes. Throughout my pregnancy, I’ve had to shift things a bit. In my first trimester I had to eat when I first woke up or else I would be nauseous, so my meditation would come later in the day usually. In my second trimester I was so exuberant, I actually just found myself mediating and rubbing my belly all day long throughout the day. Now that I’m in my final stages, I’m trying to go back to a morning routine where I can calm my mind and relax about my upcoming delivery.
INFOGRAPHIC by Gryffin Media and Skin Energizer.com. Related posts: Back On Pointe. Adventures in Depression. Some people have a legitimate reason to feel depressed, but not me. I just woke up one day feeling sad and helpless for absolutely no reason. It's disappointing to feel sad for no reason. Sadness can be almost pleasantly indulgent when you have a way to justify it - you can listen to sad music and imagine yourself as the protagonist in a dramatic movie. You can gaze out the window while you're crying and think "This is so sad. But my sadness didn't have a purpose. Essentially, I was being robbed of my right to feel self pity, which is the only redeeming part of sadness.
And for a little bit, that was a good enough reason to pity myself. Standing around feeling sorry for myself was momentarily exhilarating, but I grew tired of it quickly. I tried to force myself to not be sad. But trying to use willpower to overcome the apathetic sort of sadness that accompanies depression is like a person with no arms trying to punch themselves until their hands grow back. Which made me more sad. Depression Part Two.
I remember being endlessly entertained by the adventures of my toys. Some days they died repeated, violent deaths, other days they traveled to space or discussed my swim lessons and how I absolutely should be allowed in the deep end of the pool, especially since I was such a talented doggy-paddler. I didn't understand why it was fun for me, it just was. But as I grew older, it became harder and harder to access that expansive imaginary space that made my toys fun.
I remember looking at them and feeling sort of frustrated and confused that things weren't the same. I played out all the same story lines that had been fun before, but the meaning had disappeared. Horse's Big Space Adventure transformed into holding a plastic horse in the air, hoping it would somehow be enjoyable for me.
Prehistoric Crazy-Bus Death Ride was just smashing a toy bus full of dinosaurs into the wall while feeling sort of bored and unfulfilled. Depression feels almost exactly like that, except about everything. What It's Like Inside the Psychological Purgatory of Depression. The following story first appeared on Your Tango. I've heard depression described as walking towards a sunset. You can see the light ahead of you, but even when you're basking in the warmth of the light, you're always aware that the darkness isn't more than a heartbeat away. That sounds pretty accurate, but what makes depression so hard for those on the outside ― and even those on the inside ― to understand, is that being depressed and being happy aren't always mutually exclusive.
People with depression can be happy, sad or funny just like anyone else. When you're having a good day, no one can tell you're depressed because the symptoms aren't as obvious as we think they should be. You might not be feeling that miserable "I can't get out of bed" type of way, but your internal dialogue and view of the world is pretty similar. These are the times I sit at my desk at work, feeling panic and claustrophobic with a need to literally go run away from myself. Those things can spark the good days.
The Sacred Hour: Rise Before the Sun. This post comes from our Australia contributor, Miann Scanlan. Follow along with her on Instagram @freepeopleaustralia When the world is still and the breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you… The outside world is still dark, stars faintly glimmer from light years away and the slightest hint of cool color blankets the night sky. The breeze is almost still as it whispers silently through the trees. Birds don’t chirp, cars don’t drive past. It feels like the world is still and the breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you. The sacred hour. Dawn is, by nature, a peaceful contemplative time of day laden with mystery, possibility, and the energy of renewal. That feeling of accomplishment and success lingers all day You know the feeling I’m talking about. Creativity is highest immediately after sleep This is especially true if you rise before the sun when there’s no noise, no chaos, no stress from hours past.
Balance the body It’s prime time for me-time Follow Free People Australia on Instagram! 13 Natural Remedies for Depression. I’ve been on depression medication since I was 9 years old, well technically it was prescribed for anxiety in the beginning, but soon I was treated for both. In 3rd grade I was able to say, rather clumsily, “I am taking chill pills because there is an imbalance of serotonin in my brain.” Depression is like a worn-out unwanted companion that constantly clings to me, a burden, yes, but very familiar. Over the years I have realized that there are a lot of things that I can do that don’t require prescription medications to help keep my mood fluctuations under control.
They take time and effort (there is no quick and easy fix!) 1. Eating healthy can help with mood in general, but there are some foods that can help with serotonin, the chemical in the brain that contributes to “happy.” -Fish-oil, rich in Omega-3 fatty acids -Healthy fat, such as coconut oil -Flaxseed oil -Sour cherries -Eggs Protect Your Family from Toxic Products & Medications Click Here to Download Now 2. 3. You will need… 4. Herbal Remedies For Anxiety. When the weather turns cool and dry in the fall, imbalances in the body can bring about unpleasant feelings of nervousness and anxiety. I personally have suffered from anxiety since I was a wee little child, and lately have been experiencing symptoms more than usual.
I’m always drawn to discovering new herbal remedies, so I made a little trip to local spot Herbiary to acquire some new knowledge – and some herbs. While there are many different types of herbs that help soothe feelings of anxiety, the expert behind the counter recommended these 4 as prime choices. Lavender is always the first herb that comes to mind when it comes to relaxation. This gorgeously-scented purple plant is widely used to treat anxiety, insomnia, depression, and restlessness, but its benefits don’t stop there. Chamomile has been used as a sleep aid for centuries, due to its anxiety-soothing effects. Skullcap is an herb that’s totally new to me. Holy Basil is another herb I’d never heard of. 7 things people with anxiety want their loved ones to know. It’s the end-of-year time for reflection and we’re thinking back to all the HelloGiggles stories that we truly loved in 2014. Here’s just one of our faves, which was originally published on August 20, 2014.
I have anxiety, and I believe I can speak for everyone with anxiety when I say this: it’s gotta be hard to be close to us. But there are seven things we want you to know that we don’t always know how to tell you. 1. It doesn’t have to do with you. It can be pretty exhausting ruminating about everything we possibly have done wrong, are doing wrong, or could do wrong. We may want to sit and cry sometimes. We want you to know above all else that it doesn’t have to do with you. 2. Trying to relieve us of our fear or sadness might seem like a good idea. But there’s a fine line between trying to help us and trying to talk us out of it. 3. But that other part of us. . .that’s where anxiety lives. 4. Often, anxious people are labeled as pessimists. But that’s not always who we are. Specific changes in brain structure after different forms of child abuse -- ScienceDaily. Different forms of childhood abuse increase the risk for mental illness as well as sexual dysfunction in adulthood, but little has been known about how that happens.
An international team of researchers, including the Miller School's Charles B. Nemeroff, M.D., Ph.D., Leonard M. Miller Professor and Chair of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, has discovered a neural basis for this association. The study, published in the June 1 issue of the American Journal of Psychiatry, shows that sexually abused and emotionally mistreated children exhibit specific and differential changes in the architecture of their brain that reflect the nature of the mistreatment. Researchers have known that victims of childhood abuse often suffer from psychiatric disorders later in life, including sexual dysfunction following sexual abuse.
The underlying mechanisms mediating this association have been poorly understood. Adult Survivors of Child Abuse or Neglect | DrKayTrotter's Blog. A few years back I started to notice that I kept seeing the same type of adult client coming to me. As I did an inventory of these clients I began to notice that they all had many similarities but the key factor was the transformation that took place during counseling.
In each session I consistently found that I moved back and forth between talking to the 30 something man or women then talking to their 3-year-old inner child. That’s right these adult clients were all survivors of childhood abuse or neglect coming to me unaware of how their childhood abuse was still impacting their day-to-day life as an adult. This blog is dedicated to all my brave soul survivors who challenged themselves to look at their dark emotions and work to overcome their fears. Childhood Emotional Wounds Research is just now beginning to understand how profoundly the emotional trauma of early child hood affects a person as an adult.
The Brain and Childhood Abuse or Neglect So Now You’re an Adult What to do Now 1. 2. Depression-Topic Overview. Is this topic for you? This topic covers depression in adults. For information on: What is depression? Depression is an illness that causes you to feel sad, lose interest in activities that you've always enjoyed, withdraw from others, and have little energy.
It's different from normal feelings of sadness, grief, or low energy. Depression can also cause people to feel hopeless about the future and even think about suicide. Many people, and sometimes their families, feel embarrassed or ashamed about having depression. If you think you may be depressed, tell your doctor. What causes depression? Depression is a disease. Most experts believe that a combination of family history (your genes) and stressful life events may cause depression. Just because you have a family member with depression or have stressful life events doesn't mean you'll get depression. You also may get depressed even if there is no reason you can think of. How To Feel Better When You’re Alone. The feeling of being alone is one that we have all experienced. Sometimes we choose to be alone, and other times it comes as a result of things we can’t control. This past weekend was the first time in a while where I experienced this feeling.
It caught me by surprise to be quite honest. Living a busy lifestyle makes it easy for one to be surrounded by people and human interaction, and at the current moment, I think my life would fit into this category. Sometimes it’s tiring, but it’s also distracting. But what happens when the rush slows down? The rush slowed for me as I arrived home from work last Friday. If you think, think positive. Positive thoughts lead to positive outcomes. Explore. Getting out of the house is the best thing to do when you’re feeling alone. If you have a pet, play with it. I’ve grown up with dogs, so at heart I’m really not that much of a cat person, but sometimes that changes if you are forced to live with one. Plan a trip. Go to a coffee shop. Turn on the Netflix. 4 Ways To Be Less Stressed Out ... Right Now.
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