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90 Most Powerful Secrets in Life – Rank Elites. 1. Being great at dealing with people is not an inborn talent. It is made through tons of research and deliberate practice. 2. A big part of emotional intelligence is being able to feel an emotion without having to act on it. Uncontrollable desires make you seem weak, unworthy and pathetic. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. 41. 42. 43. 44. 45. 46. 47. 48. 49. 50. 51. 52. 53. 54. 55. 56. 57. 58. 59. 60. 61. 62. 63. 64. 65. 66. 67. 68. 69. 70. 71. 72. 73. 74. 75. 76. 77. 78. 79. 80. 81. 82. 83. 84. 85. 86. 87. 88. 89. 90. This article was heavily influenced from the ideas presented by these powerful books, especially The 48 Laws of Power. Eight (harsh) Truths That Will Improve Your Life...

They say life is what we make of it. By the end of this post, I hope to have helped you decide whether that statement is true or not. There is no doubt that life has its ups and downs. However, how we deal with them can sometimes make all the difference. Today I want to share eight harsh truths that I've come to learn from life. Some of these lessons may be old-hat for you. 1. Friends will always come and go in your life; even though I'm back in the UK now, all my friends are in university around the country and not exactly in meeting distance.

Important Lesson: There are an abundance of amazing people out there for you to meet and build relationships with. You won't always get what you want in life: people are going to be late, people will let you down, items you want won't always be available. Important Lesson: Don't look for happiness in material possessions and if things don't go your way, learn to accept them. 4. 5.

As the saying goes - "Only those who are asleep make no mistakes". Words of Wisdom For Woodworkers. Do not argue with an idiot; he will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience. Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. The last thing I want to do is hurt you; But it’s still on the list. Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

If I agreed with you we’d both be wrong. We never really grow up, we only learn how to act in public. War does not determine who is right – only who is left. Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit; Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad. The early bird might get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese. Evening news is where they begin with ‘Good evening’, and then proceed to tell you why it isn’t. To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism. A bus station is where a bus stops. How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire? I didn’t say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you. This Moment. By Leo Babauta We all suffer, every day: worry, procrastination, anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, irritated, angry, frustrated, wishing things were different, comparing ourselves to others, worried we’re missing out, wishing other people would be different, feeling offended, loneliness, fear of failure, not wanting to do something, wishing we had less fat or bigger boobs or bigger muscles, angry at being controlled, wanting to find the perfect someone, wishing our partner was more perfect, stressed about finances, not wanting to think about problems, not knowing how to fix things, uncertain about choices, rushing from one task to the next, not liking our jobs.

And yet, these problems are self-created. They’re real, but our tricky minds have created them. The problems are in our heads, created by some ideal/fantasy/expectation of how we wished the world would be, or hope it will be but fear it won’t be. It exists in our heads. It is perfect, as it is. Accept this moment. This Is Your Brain on Nature. When you head out to the desert, David Strayer is the kind of man you want behind the wheel. He never texts or talks on the phone while driving. He doesn’t even approve of eating in the car. A cognitive psychologist at the University of Utah who specializes in attention, Strayer knows our brains are prone to mistakes, especially when we’re multitasking and dodging distractions.

Among other things, his research has shown that using a cell phone impairs most drivers as much as drinking alcohol does. Strayer is in a unique position to understand what modern life does to us. An avid backpacker, he thinks he knows the antidote: Nature. On the third day of a camping trip in the wild canyons near Bluff, Utah, Strayer is mixing up an enormous iron kettle of chicken enchilada pie while explaining what he calls the “three-day effect” to 22 psychology students. “On the third day my senses recalibrate—I smell things and hear things I didn’t before,” Strayer says. Visits to parks are down. If You're Too Busy to Meditate, Read This. This morning, like every morning, I sat cross-legged on a cushion on the floor, rested my hands on my knees, closed my eyes, and did nothing but breathe for 20 minutes.

People say the hardest part about meditating is finding the time to meditate. This makes sense: who these days has time to do nothing? It’s hard to justify. Meditation brings many benefits: It refreshes us, helps us settle into what’s happening now, makes us wiser and gentler, helps us cope in a world that overloads us with information and communication, and more.

But if you’re still looking for a business case to justify spending time meditating, try this one: Meditation makes you more productive. How? Research shows that an ability to resist urges will improve your relationships, increase your dependability, and raise your performance. Our ability to resist an impulse determines our success in learning a new behavior or changing an old habit. As it turns out, that’s one of the things meditation teaches us. That’s it. 6 Things You Might Live To Regret If You Don't Stop Doing Them Now. In history as in human life, regret does not bring back a lost moment and a thousand years will not recover something lost in a single hour. ~ Stefan Zwei And regret will never bring back one missed chance or one ‘if only.’ Don’t wait until you’re overwhelmingly desperate to start making changes…stop doing the wrong things now and create space for the things that will make you happy.

Starting today: Make sure you’re not making more excuses than progress One thing that will always get between you and your desires are the stories you tell yourself as to why you can’t do it, have it, be it. Nothing is hopeless until you say it is. Allow your successes to arrive in installments, if that’s what it takes. If you really want something, stick with it, be persistent; you are more powerful than you know. Stop wasting time and energy When you started your morning did you think of things that needed to be done, but you hadn’t got around to?

You’re adding unnecessary stress to your life. Be fearless. 7 Crucial Things You Need To Be Honest About. Honesty is the best policy, right? But we’re all guilty of telling “little white lies” sometimes. Regardless, there are certain things in life it’s important to be honest about. Here are 7 of them. Your guilty pleasures. Everyone has a guilty pleasure or two. Not everyone is honest about them though. I remember back when I was trying to quit smoking I would always tell people, “I only smoke on the weekends.” Your struggles. The sooner you honestly assess the things you’re struggling with, the sooner you can find ways to make your life better. Your free time. How do you spend your free time? Your health. If you think eating junk food all day and not exercising is going to lead to a fulfilling life, guess again. Your work. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day monotony of working life.

Your family. You can’t pick your family, which means you’re stuck with the one you have. Your habits. When did being productive get so complicated? Top 7 Myths about Yoga – Busted! There is a lot of “yoga” happening in the world today that has very little to do with what yoga really is. Several myths about this ancient practice have long been masquerading as facts.

It’s time we demystify yoga, in Sadhguru’s very own words. Read in Hindi: योग से जुड़ी सात भ्रांतियांஎது யோகா இல்லை? Myth 1: Yoga comes from Hinduism Sadhguru: Yoga is Hindu just the way gravity is Christian. Just because the law of gravity was propounded by Isaac Newton, who lived in a Christian culture, does it make gravity Christian? Yoga is a technology. Why the yogic sciences have gotten labeled as Hindu by a few ignorant people is because this science and technology grew and prospered in this culture, so naturally it has gotten associated with the Hindu way of life. Myth 2: Why be a human when you can be a pretzel? Sadhguru: When we utter the word “yoga”, most people on the planet only think of asanas . In many ways, it is a clear manifestation of where the world is going. Myth 5: Find your groove. Guided Meditation - Banishing Depression. 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind. 20 Things I Should Have Known at 20.

Enlightenment & The Power of Now. 9 Epiphanies That Shifted My Perspective Forever. By David Over the years I’ve learned dozens of little tricks and insights for making life more fulfilling. They’ve added up to a significant improvement in the ease and quality of my day-to-day life. But the major breakthroughs have come from a handful of insights that completely rocked my world and redefined reality forever. The world now seems to be a completely different one than the one I lived in about ten years ago, when I started looking into the mechanics of quality of life. It wasn’t the world (and its people) that changed really, it was how I thought of it. Maybe you’ve had some of the same insights. Or maybe you’re about to. 1. The first time I heard somebody say that, I didn’t like the sound of it one bit. I see quite clearly now that life is nothing but passing experiences, and my thoughts are just one more category of things I experience.

If you can observe your thoughts just like you can observe other objects, who’sdoing the observing? 2. Of course! 3. 4. 5. Yikes. 6. 7. 8. People Will Never Change, So Stop Trying. You can’t change anyone without his or her permission and it’s rude to try. You either accept people for who they are or do not associate with them.

This is an impossible task too many people try to take on in their relationships and in their friendships. Trying to mold people into the way you wish they were is inherently disastrous. People are exactly who they are, and despite your opinion, they will continue to live this way. How many times have people gotten into relationships with the thought “I can make them into a better person; I can save them”? How well does this work out? “You can’t change other people. When you truly know and love somebody it can be frustrating watching them throw away all their potential, but this is NOT your problem, it is theirs. Showing someone the error of their ways is a much more difficult task than most people realize.

“You can’t change people, either you accept who they are or start living life without them.” The Three Phases of Life. One of life's great fascinations is watching people evolve over time. Some people grow and develop, while others seem to be stuck in patterns that limit their happiness and well-being. Others excel in certain areas of their lives while failing miserably in others. A small few are spectacularly successful by conventional measures yet are perpetually dissatisfied. Is there a simple model we can use to make sense of these observations? Many years of watching and thinking have led me to believe that we can further our understanding by simplifying the problem. I want to be a little precise with words here. Why is this important? Schlepper Let us begin with the first state. This term comes from the Yiddish verb "schlep," which means "to drag.

" Literally, a schlepper is a carrier. First of all, just because you are schlepping does not mean you are forbidden to think. In general, we all need to schlep. Schleppers quickly perceive the great injustice of life. So, we all start out as schleppers. Meditation Produces Opposite Effect of ‘Fight or Flight’ By Traci Pedersen Associate News Editor Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on May 4, 2013 A new study reveals that practitioners of meditation experience changes in gene expression that are the exact opposite of what occurs during the “flight or fight” stress response. Specifically, genes associated with energy metabolism, mitochondrial function, insulin secretion, and telomere maintenance are turned on, while those involved in inflammation are turned off. These effects are more significant and consistent for long-term practitioners.

People who practice simple meditation aren’t “just relaxing,” explained the study’s senior author, Dr. It’s been shown that repeating a yoga pose, prayer, or mantra while disregarding other thoughts protects against anxiety and depression as well as physical conditions such as hypertension, cardiovascular disease, and types of cancer that are exacerbated by stress. All of the subjects’ blood samples revealed changes in gene expression following meditation.