What causes anxiety, obsession, jealousy, and depression in romantic relationships? What makes people anxious, fearful, and insecure? The Pathology of Love. The Pathology of Love By: Dr. Sam Vaknin Click HERE to view the video Malignant Self Love - Buy the Book - Click HERE!!! Relationships with Abusive Narcissists - Buy the e-Books - Click HERE!!!
READ THIS: Scroll down to review a complete list of the articles - Click on the blue-coloured text! Bookmark this Page - and SHARE IT with Others! The unpalatable truth is that falling in love is, in some ways, indistinguishable from a severe pathology. Using functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI), Andreas Bartels and Semir Zeki of University College in London showed that the same areas of the brain are active when abusing drugs and when in love. Other MRI studies, conducted in 2006-7 by Dr. On August 14, 2007, the New Scientist News Service gave the details of a study originally published in the Journal of Adolescent Health earlier that year. The conclusion? But is it erotic lust or is it love that brings about these cerebral upheavals?
Still, the long-term outcomes of being in love are lustful. 5 WORST WAYS TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE by Worm Miller - Artist: Alisha Amirkhanian. How to Get Someone or Something, Off Your Mind. I was chatting to a friend of mine today and she wanted some advice on how to forget someone after a relationship breakup. There was often times in the past where I wanted to forget about something (or someone) so I had a few suggestions, the bet ter ones being ecky-focused. It got me thinking of all my ‘techniques’ and ideas on how to get something off your mind, and how as a population this is something that we want to do at one time or another.
If you have any questions after reading this, feel free to ask in the comments below. Photo Credit The Problem I hate the word ‘problem’, it implies there is something negative that we need to deal with and it has the potential to weigh us down. The problem is that we get bogged down by our own problems, by our own stories, and we think about them non-stop. They give us something to identify ourselves with (victim mentality)They give us an excuse not to move onThey give us a rationalisation as to why things aren’t better You are not your story 1. Makes Me Think - MMT - Today's Thought-Provoking Life Stories. Welcome to Adobe GoLive 6. From Los Angeles Times: It's not all about you Chances are, others aren't judging you as harshly as you think, if at all. By Benedict Carey Times Staff Writer January 13, 2003 Oh, things sure took a bad turn.
Take a deep breath. A growing body of research shows that far fewer people notice our gaffes than we believe as we pace the floor in private, going over and over the faux pas. Learning to recognize this self-deception can soothe the anxiety that surrounds social interactions. The spotlight effect blinds us in several ways. A pioneer in this field, Tom Gilovich, a psychologist at Cornell, has demonstrated the same exaggerated misperceptions in several situations, such as group discussions about social issues. The findings apply to most of us, of course, but not to everybody -- some people really do live under a microscope, as a chosen way of life. Most of the time a mistake is just a mistake, not a death sentence.
Yet we don't expect that same empathy for ourselves. Breakups 101- a guide to surviving a break up. I've Learned. . . Author Unknown I've learned. . . that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change. I've learned. . . that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. I've learned. . . that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love. I've learned. . . that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life. I've learned. . . that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be. I've learned. . . that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. I've learned. . . that you can keep going long after you can't. I've learned. . . that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. I've learned. . . that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned. . . that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. Join Us Too! Letting Go of Attachment, from A to Zen | zen habits. “Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” ~Dalai Lama Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Lori Deschene of Tiny Buddha. If there’s one thing we all have in common it’s that we want to feel happy; and on the other side of that coin, we want to avoid hurting.
Yet we consistently put ourselves in situations that set us up for pain. We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, and things and hold onto them for dear life. We attach to feelings as if they define us, and ironically, not just positive ones. In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy in the present. When you stop trying to grasp, own, and control the world around you, you give it the freedom to fulfill you without the power to destroy you. It’s no simple undertaking to let go of attachment—not a one-time decision, like pulling off a band-aid.
Experiencing Without Attachment Believe now is enough. How to Deal With People Who Frustrate You | Raptitude.com. Deep down I knew better, but I couldn’t stop myself. An opinionated Twitter acquaintance of mine had tweeted a snarky comment that dismissed all forms of self-improvement as new age feel-good fluff. It was such a sweeping, cynical remark that I felt I had to set him straight. So I hammered out a sharp rebuttal, and felt a little better, but there was still uneasiness. He would surely come up with a counter-attack on what I said, and it would go back and forth until one of us let the other have the last word.
After a few minutes, I got the lesson he was trying to teach me: to let go of my need to be right all the time. A few years ago I learned an ingenious method for dealing with other people when they’re doing things you wish they wouldn’t do. You go about your day as normal, but you imagine one difference: Everyone is enlightened but you. That includes: A true master won’t simply tell you what he thinks you should know. If you knew you were being tested on purpose, what would you do? How to Stop Taking Things Personally.