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Survivor Mom: Teaching Consent. Image Description: A four page black and white comic with powder blue shading and backgrounds.

Survivor Mom: Teaching Consent

Page 1: (A woman with long hair and a smile is holding a toddler, they say…) Once my daughter became old enough to understand and respond to questions, I began asking for permission to touch her. May I touch your face? At first, she thought it was just a fun game…. (The same woman with her child are sitting cross legged on the floor together, the mother is looking down at her child and asking… ) May I touch your toes? ( a notation is made under this speech bubble saying..) (The child in the drawing has a look of glee on their face and their hands are in the air, fingers spread wide, they’re shouting….) What I Know. I know that next, I tasted something disgusting, and that months later, on a morning when I could no longer face my sniggering peers, I skipped the first few periods of the day.

What I Know

I wandered around town, idling before a Chinese restaurant that had just set out fresh trays of food. Men Explain Lolita to Me. Sexually Active Women Were Quarantined During World War II. In June 1942, a woman named Billie Smith was arrested in her hotel room in Little Rock, Arkansas, and charged with prostitution and violation of the state’s immorality laws.

Sexually Active Women Were Quarantined During World War II

Smith pled guilty and paid the fine of $10—equivalent to $150 today—but authorities weren’t quite done. Smith was turned over to the city’s health examiner, who ran tests for syphilis and gonorrhea. When both came back positive, the officer ordered her committed to a federally run quarantine center in Hot Springs, Arkansas. Masculinity Is an Anxiety Disorder: Breaking Down the Nerd Box - Uncanny Magazine. Speaking for myself—the only person I can reasonably speak for—being a Man never seemed like an attainable goal, let alone a desirable one.

Masculinity Is an Anxiety Disorder: Breaking Down the Nerd Box - Uncanny Magazine

This has something to do with me and who I am, certainly; but it also has a great deal to do with what we think a Man is in this culture [1]. Man, from my perspective, is not an identity so much as a Long Con, and masculinity is a concatenation of anxiety–founded posturings [2]. The Police Told Her To Report Her Rape, Then Arrested Her For Lying. 1st NMCI Keynotes: Pepper Mint and Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli. Pictures of Lily — Human Parts — Medium.

“Mom, will you take a few pictures of me?”

Pictures of Lily — Human Parts — Medium

This innocent enough request is the one most likely to unleash our particular, curious brand of mother/daughter conflict. I will, begrudgingly, agree. She will primp and preen and pose. I will point and shoot as my vague, undefined irritation will rise. I will lose patience and we will ultimately huff off, in opposite directions, hurling accusations and defenses all the way. The refugee crisis: demilitarising masculinities. Three photographs of the refugee crisis unfurling at Europe’s borders have resonated particularly strongly with us from behind our tablets and TV screens as consumers of news, drawing empathetic gasps and a profound disquiet.

The refugee crisis: demilitarising masculinities

The first is a modern day rendering of the Madonna and child: Syrian Laith Majid clasps tightly his two children as he is brought ashore to the island of Kos in Greece after their tiny boat capsized; his face distorts in a look of abject desperation, his lip heaves over gritted teeth and tears stream from his eyes. Photographer Daniel Etter who took the photo explained on Facebook that while he may not be “the most emotional person…the father, Laith Majid, and his reaction when he and his family reached Greece still makes me cry. " The second and third photos document the tragic death of a small Syrian boy, Aylan Kurdi. The third related photo that has become iconic of the crisis is that of Aylan’s father, Abdullah. Militarised masculinities.

The Cruelest Sport by Joyce Carol Oates. Muhammad Ali: His Life and Times by Thomas Hauser Simon and Schuster, 543 pp., $24.95.

The Cruelest Sport by Joyce Carol Oates

Aeon Ideas - Viewpoint on 'Is it immoral to watch sp... Most sports involve the risk of injury, but some put the brains of participants at high risk.

Aeon Ideas - Viewpoint on 'Is it immoral to watch sp...

I used to play rugby league and suffered quite serious concussion on one occasion playing in Australia. I've also dislocated my shoulder playing rugby union and torn my anterior cruciate ligament while running. But it is the concussion that worried and continues to worry me most as that is a brain injury. Azealia Banks asks Why can gay men say b***h but I can’t say f****t? One of these days we’re sure Azealia Banks will manage to go a whole 24 hours without offending an entire population, but until then we’ve been left with her latest words of wisdom defending her use of the word f****t .

Azealia Banks asks Why can gay men say b***h but I can’t say f****t?

We continue to be amazed by the controversial rapper’s unapologetic audacity but are we really surprised? It’s been a long time since anyone talked about the singer’s music, but the 23-year-old. who finally released her debut album Broke With Expensive Taste after a three year delay, certainly still knows how to make headlines and did just that when she called notorious celebrity blogger Perez Hilton a f****t. Understandably both the gay community and anyone with an ounce of common sense took offence to the remarks but Banks has defended her use of the homophobic slur, asking: “Why is it okay for a gay man to colloquially use the word ‘B***h’ to refer to a woman, but is it not okay for me to colloquially use the word ‘F****t’?” The Dads of Tech - The Baffler. © Lily Padula The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house,” Audre Lorde famously said, but let Clay Shirky mansplain.

The Dads of Tech - The Baffler

It “always struck me as a strange observation—even the metaphor isn’t true,” the tech consultant and bestselling author said at the New Yorker Festival last autumn in a debate with the novelist Jonathan Franzen. “Get ahold of the master’s hammer,” and you can dismantle anything. How Marge Simpson Raised Springfield’s Favorite Feminist. “Lisa refuses to play dodgeball because she is sad.”

This simultaneously hilarious and heartbreaking line is ripped from the wonkily drawn first season of The Simpsons, in the episode “Moaning Lisa,” where the 8-year-old wunderkind suffers from a bout of depression. During a painfully silent car ride, Marge remembers how her own mother urged to her to smile even when she was sad, and states Lisa to do the same. “And then you'll fit in, and you'll be invited to parties, and boys will like you,” she promises.

You are oppressing us! Those who are oppressed – who have to struggle to exist often by virtue of being a member of a group – are often judged as the oppressors. We only have to turn the pages of feminist history to know this. When lesbians demanded entry into feminist spaces, we were called a “lavender menace.” We got in the way of the project of making feminism more acceptable. To be rendered unacceptable is often to be treated as the ones with the power (the power to take something away). Why are creative women dismissed as ‘quirky’? Why are creative women dismissed as ‘quirky’? Azealia Banks asks Why can gay men say b***h but I can’t say f****t?