Hedgehog's dilemma. Both Arthur Schopenhauer and Sigmund Freud have used this situation to describe what they feel is the state of individual in relation to others in society. The hedgehog's dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behavior and weak relationships. With the hedgehog's dilemma, one is recommended to use moderation in affairs with others both because of self-interest, as well as out of consideration for others.
The hedgehog's dilemma is used to explain introversion and isolationism. Schopenhauer[edit] The concept originates in the following parable from the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer's Parerga und Paralipomena, Volume II, Chapter XXXI, Section 396:[1] A number of porcupines huddled together for warmth on a cold day in winter; but, as they began to prick one another with their quills, they were obliged to disperse.
Freud[edit] Social psychological research[edit] References[edit] What Does Love Mean to a Four-Year-Old? A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, “What does love mean?” The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think: “When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.” Rebecca- age 8 “When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. “Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.”
“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” “Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” “Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” “Love is when you kiss all the time. “Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” 30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30 | Cher Cabula's Mindbox. Here's an article I stumbled upon in Plurk and I would like to share this with my readers. It was written by Pamela Redmond Satran for Glamour Magazine back in 1997 and is constantly being updated by women all over the world.
I would like to come up with my own list soon. Here are the pieces of wisdom that we could use to learn a thing or two. By 30, you should have: One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. By 30, you should know: How to fall in love without losing yourself. I still have a long way to go.
For When You Are Truly In Love | cloudncrono | 2,708 likes | 20. Rachel Weight: Dating Advice: How To Get Over Him (With A Little Help From Your Friends) Recently, I met a guy who I thought was great. We were introduced by a mutual friend. He was handsome, gave me money for the jukebox and he made me laugh. We hit it off and hung out a few times. There was chemistry. We had an official date scheduled, and THEN ... he had a "work conflict. " First, I shrugged it off. By the time I've hung out casually with someone a few times and they've asked me out on a date, I've already imagined the next few months of our yet-to-be-materialized relationship.
As women, we've been trained to want romance since we were little girls. With that in mind, here are some classic breakup defense mechanisms women -- or at least I, with the support and company of my dearest friends -- employ from time to time. The 'Lets Have A Night Out To Regret Something' Phase 1 of 5 This stage usually comes right after a man you have legitimately dated blows you off. I'm not sure why, but going through all of these admittedly inane phases helps you work through it. 100 Ways You Can Start Loving Yourself Right Now www. Radical Self Love is a big topic.
Kind of daunting, actually. If you want to delve into it, where do you begin? Here are some ideas. To you from me, Pinky Lee! Make lists of reasons why you love yourself… & write down (or keep mental lists) of the compliments other people give you. We’re so quick to believe people when they say nasty, unkind or “brutally honest” (ahem, cruel) things to or about us, & we discard all the times we’re told how amazing, beautiful or intelligent we are. Usually this is because our sense of self-doubt is stronger than our self-love. Reach out to others… …& do it regularly. Think of a way you could make your life easier — then do it.
Change the way you think about food. Stretch in the mornings. Really listen to people when they are speaking. Have media black-out days. Have that “awkward” conversation. Read through the results when you search Tumblr for “love yourself”… & be proud at the way this generation — YOUR GENERATION — is shaping up.
Ask for help. Why Our Unconscious Rules Us and What to Do About It - The Huffington Post. One of the common denominators of people who enter therapy is the feeling of being "stuck" in some way. Often there is the feeling of not being able to break out of a set of behaviors, feelings or thoughts. People know "it should be different," but can't seem to get things to really change for themselves. Their moods may come and go, but somehow they keep slipping back into old patterns. Regardless of the number of accomplishments, feelings of not being good enough still arise.
Regardless of how spiritual, feelings of anxiety emerge. Regardless of how hard they try, up comes the sense of being out of control. The experiences we've had in life are stored in networks of brain cells called neurons. The memories stored in our brain are either processed or unprocessed. That is what the brain is geared to do: make the appropriate connections, "digest" the experience and store it in memory. Sometimes our negative reactions may take the form of low-grade "misery" emerging at certain times. For-you-I.gif (GIF Image, 432x720 pixels) - Scaled (89%)
How To Be A Goddess. I will never forget the day I first heard Pablo Picasso’s famous quote about women. It was a particularly tough time for me. I’d just (finally) ended things with a very bad guy and was dealing with all the “how could I have been so stupid?” Thoughts. I told my best girl, “N,” what I’d done and she immediately sent the following text: “Picasso said, ‘There are only two types of women – goddesses and doormats.’ You, my dear, are a goddess.” A goddess? “N’s” text not only made me smile – isn’t it wonderful to have encouraging girlfriends? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Obviously, Picasso’s one sentence quote inspired me.
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