Do You Bite Your Nails? It Might Mean You're A Perfectionist. Are you mindlessly twisting your hair or biting your nails as you read this article? New research from the University of Montreal suggests that compulsive behaviors like these might say more about your personality than you think. People who are generally impatient, or who get bored or frustrated easily, are more likely to engage in repetitive body-focused behaviors such as skin-picking, nail-biting or eyelash-pulling, the researchers found. The study, published in the March issue of the Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry, points to perfectionism -- a trait that can be more damaging than many people realize -- as an underlying cause.
“We believe that individuals with these repetitive behaviors may be perfectionistic, meaning that they are unable to relax and to perform task at a ‘normal’ pace," Dr. Kieron O'Connor, professor of psychiatry at the university and the study's lead author, said in a press release Tuesday. So how could these behaviors be treated? Ilana Glazer Just Empowered Me in The Weirdest Possible Way. Bulimia Is A B*tch: Losing Control And Finding Freedom | Skylar Liberty Rose. The content of this post may be triggering to some readers. I remember an ex-boyfriend once saying to me that eating disorders were born of vanity. He believed that it was the desire to look good that drove image obsessed women to binge, purge or starve. He didn't know that I'd flirted with bulimia for some years. It's not first date material.
Second date neither. Eating disorders are never about being vain. I was afraid to like me. The bulimia stopped but the desire to control didn't. For a long time my tangled, troubled thoughts kept me prisoner in a place that didn't feel good. My journey to self acceptance is still a path I tread daily. I want to learn to be truly content in my own flawed skin rather than clutching on to an unrealistic facade. The truth is that the flawless mask bores me more than it intrigues me these days.
Now, I take a deep breath and I own it. I'm less inclined to want to Instagram. Surprisingly I often feel more feminine. Beauty isn't found in flawless. Be raw. Tummy Pride | Proud2BMe. By Ellie Herman What caused your eating disorder? It's a question that others ask but also one that I ask myself. The answer is not known with any degree of certainty, but I do know that in my desire to become a healthier eater, I wanted to have a stomach that I "was proud of," and that sort of tummy was flat, thin, and toned. Few things bothered me more during recovery than the new feeling of my stomach touching the waistband of my pants.
Why was this the stomach I thought would result in pride? There is a movement among our body image leaders to display, with pride, all bellies. I have pondered for years why my belly became such a focus to me during recovery, and I do think the influence of seeing washboard abs was a contributing factor, but there is something about the stomach that can, pun intended, make one queasy.
Your umbilical cord connected you, your tummy, and your mother. Your stomach's feats should be celebrated, not shamed. This was originally published on Proud2BMe.org. How My Scars Changed The Way I See Beauty | Ashley McDonald. You know how some big dogs like German Shepherds develop hip problems as they get older? In their later years, they begin to limp, and running or playing fetch becomes increasingly hard -- and eventually, they can barely walk without immense pain.
The condition certainly isn't inherited by every pooch, but it isn't uncommon, either. The disorder of hip dysplasia (when the hip joint doesn't form normally) isn't exclusive to dogs. In fact, I was born with it in my left hip and because the doctor didn't catch it right away, I underwent four major surgeries at the ages of 2, 2 and half, 5 and 6. I was in three body casts for about 24 weeks altogether, and then a wheelchair for eight weeks and crutches for a few after that. The effects of hip dysplasia lingered throughout all my childhood. When I was 9, my mom gave me a bottle of vitamin E oil to rub on my scars at night to help them fade. Although an active kid, the number of sports I could participate in (and be good at) was small. Close. " Prendre Corps " L’Eglise dit: Le corps est un péché. La science: Le corps est une machine. La pub: Le corps est un business. Le corps dit: Je suis une fête! "Presque toute destruction ou autodestruction, toute haine et affliction, toute avidité et tout esprit de possession naît d'un manque désespéré d'amour et de contacts sexuels.
Et pourtant, la source et la fontaine de l'amour et de la sexualité sont aussi inépuisables que l'Univers. " Jolan Chang, Le tao de l'art d'aimer Prendre Corps est un duo dans lequel Oscar et Louise viennent vous chanter et vous susurer les mots de l'amour... Louise est conteuse, Oscar est accordéoniste. Bref, ils vous y racontent le plaisir du monde... Genèse : A l’origine du projet Carole, conteuse, avec l’envie de créer un spectacle sur l’amour et le plaisir. " L’Eglise dit : Le corps est un péché. Le spectacle dans sa forme : Les contes nous viennent des quatre coins du monde et sont issus de la tradition orale.
" Heureux soit le bon dieu qui m’a donné 10 doigts, C'est tout? Health & Body. Hate Your Body? Take More Pics! Sex Shields. Stolen. How to Lose the Weight! Why We Should Stop Imagining Aging as a Loss of Youth. Why Body Acceptance Isn't for Everyone All the Time. 6 Things You Can Do If You Think You Have an Eating Disorder.
How to Find the Beauty in Fat. How Can I Exercise in a Body-Positive Way? Judging Others, Avoiding Ourselves: Grappling with Body Negativity. You judge people. I’m not judging you for it. I do it, too. And judging people for judging people is a rabbit hole I don’t plan on going down. But how many of the judgments that you make about other people based on appearances alone are likely to be accurate, kind, or worthwhile when they don’t meet the standards you place on yourself? More to the point, how useful are the judgments you might make based on standards set by your parents, friends, or culture? If your answer is “not very useful at all,” then you already know what’s up. So why might you (or I, or anyone) still have lingering, useless judgments about the bodies adorning magazine covers, moving past you on the street, or staring back at you in the mirror?
Now if you’re someone who’s completely absolved yourself of body negativity and doesn’t need this article, I’m sincerely happy for you and want to know how you did it, because you’re a truly enlightened being who should be writing this instead of me. See the difference? Why We Need To Discuss Sexual Pleasure in Reproductive Rights and in Our Bedrooms. Editor’s Note: While we at Everyday Feminism think that this article is brilliant in its analysis of conversations around sexual pleasure and reproductive rights, we do want to note that the piece largely normalizes sexually-oriented people.
For more information on why asexuality is a valid orientation, check out this comic. There’s a big elephant in the room – in the conference room at most reproductive health, rights, and justice organizations, not to mention in our very own bedrooms. As someone who occupies both of these rooms, I’m perplexed by our silence around sexual pleasure. We advocate for increased access to abortion care and tackle abortion stigma while we’re at it. We dream up contraceptive innovations. We craft extensive policy recommendations for reproductive healthcare.
For the most part, the same goes for our personal lives. But for most people, candid conversations about pleasure – with our sexual partners, friends, or healthcare providers – are few and far between. 1. 2. Periods in the Media. 10 Things I Wish People Understood About Eating Disorders. Feminists Have Food and Body Image Issues Too: 5 Ways to Get Over the Shame. Becuo Originally published on The Frisky, and cross-posted here with their permission. I was a full-blown feminist by the time I started college. I also had a full-blown eating disorder. As a teen, I marched on Washington for women’s rights. I put out a zine called Wonder Woman. I played drums (and by “played,” I mean I aggressively and skill-lessly beat the shit out of a floor tom, a snare, and a cymbal) in a punk band whose songs included “Penis-Shaped Missile” and “Cute Band Alert.” While my dog-eared copy of Naomi Wolf’s The Beauty Myth was proudly displayed on my bookshelf, my equally well-worn calorie counter book was hidden out of sight in my desk drawer.
I was terrified of gaining weight. I first came to feminism because I could feel the injustice in my obsession. Now don’t get me wrong: I needed therapy — and I got it. No, that didn’t fly because nearly every other girl my age was drinking some flavor of body haterade, too. What was going on here? Oh, wait. Personal? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Breaking Down the Desire to Be Thinner. 5 New Directions for the Body-Positive Movement. Women Deserve Better. Why I No Longer Apologize for My Crutches. Originally published on xoJane and cross-posted here with their permission. Denise Jolly figured it out within the first few frames of our photo shoot: I don’t like to smile.
Or, more accurately, I have a fake smile. The one that has haunted me for years. The one that shows my bucked teeth. Those imperfect teeth are a metaphor for my childhood. Every year, my mother would buy me a new outfit for School Picture Day. The photographer was not used to kids like me: the ones in wheelchairs, the ones who couldn’t sit up straight. The photo package would arrive in the mail a few weeks later, and there I was, in 8 x 10 and wallet size, my face refusing to conform to all of my mother’s efforts.
My parents spent thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars (that they did not have to spare) trying to make my most broken parts fit into the mold of normal. My family wasn’t trying to make me pretty. I was born with spastic cerebral palsy. Those words were for able-bodied people. I wasn’t sure. Babies Don't ‘Ruin’ Bodies: 3 Reasons to Stop Saying They Do. Why I'm a Body Image Activist. On Bodily Limitations: Listen and Accept. The Body Is Not An Apology. My Body is Not an Achievement or a Work in Progress. 4 Ways to Help Your Pre-Teen Daughter Navigate New Attention to Her Body. “I want to have the three-letter word with her! It would make me the happiest man in the world!” “You want a kid?
You wanna have a kid with her? You wanna marry her?” “No, stupid! Not that three-letter word; the other one!” At the time I’m writing this, it’s been a little over a week since he said that about her; he being a boy who looks to be around 12; her being my 10-year-old daughter, Marley. We see him every time we go to the park. Well, maybe it wasn’t stupid before I realized that he talked to Marley’s chest, and not her eyes. I wanted to punch Stupid Laugh Boy in the throat. I did and will continue to do something ever more fulfilling; I’ll continue raising both of my daughters to be aware of their right to confidently address any assertions made toward them, particularly when it comes to their bodies. I look at my oldest girl and I see what other people are seeing, but I also see what she is navigating at this point in her journey: Her breasts are growing. 1. 2. 3. 4. Akilah S. Why We've Learned to Hate Our Bodies.
Emotions of Weight. 4 Ways to Come Out as Fat. 10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved By a Skinny Boy. What Walking Through Life With Thunder Thighs is Really Like. Mental Illness and Sexism: What Calling Women ‘Crazy’ Actually Does. How Body Love Can Change Society for the Better. A Visual Breakdown of the Most Common Mental Health Issues Affecting Women. Time for a New Year's Revolution: How Diet Culture Upholds Capitalism. MELISSA A. FABELLO: To those of you who complain about my socialist, anti-heteropatriarchal dogma ruining the lives of children everywhere, you’re gonna love this one.
Because today, I want to talk about the ways in which diet culture is a fabricated sham that exists solely to uphold capitalism. But first, I want to show you this super cool shirt that was made by my friends over at Nalgona Positivity Pride, which is an organization working to decolonize the body-love movement. Look! It’s like a punked out Miss Piggy, and it says “Beat Eating Disorders.” How cute is that? Okay. Naomi Wolf, in her 1990 book The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women, writes that “[a] culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, but an obsession about female obedience.
It’s estimated that women typically think about weight and diets for 21 minutes per day – that if you combined all of your stray “I shouldn’t eat that” comments or “Am I getting fat?” 5 Tips for a #NewYearNewView. 3 Ways the Body-Positivity Movement Could Be More Body-Positive.