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Nine Things Successful People Do Differently. Learn more about the science of success with Heidi Grant Halvorson’s HBR Single, based on this blog post. Why have you been so successful in reaching some of your goals, but not others? If you aren’t sure, you are far from alone in your confusion. It turns out that even brilliant, highly accomplished people are pretty lousy when it comes to understanding why they succeed or fail.

The intuitive answer — that you are born predisposed to certain talents and lacking in others — is really just one small piece of the puzzle. In fact, decades of research on achievement suggests that successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do. 1. To seize the moment, decide when and where you will take each action you want to take, in advance. 3. Fortunately, decades of research suggest that the belief in fixed ability is completely wrong — abilities of all kinds are profoundly malleable. 7. 8. 9. 10 Habits of Remarkably Charismatic People. Some people instantly make us feel important. Some people instantly make us feel special. Some people light up a room just by walking in. We can't always define it, but some people have it: They're naturally charismatic. Unfortunately, natural charisma quickly loses its impact. Familiarity breeds, well, familiarity. But some people are remarkably charismatic: They build and maintain great relationships, consistently influence (in a good way) the people around them, consistently make people feel better about themselves--they're the kind of people everyone wants to be around...and wants to be.

Fortunately we can, because being remarkably charismatic isn't about our level of success or our presentation skills or how we dress or the image we project--it's about what we do. Here are the 10 habits of remarkably charismatic people: 1. Ask questions. That's all it takes to show the other person they're important. Then when you do speak, don't offer advice unless you're asked. Don't believe me? 2. 3. Stop Worrying: 2 Tools That Work. Are you a worrier? Do you come from a long line of worriers? Did you have fear-filled, overprotective parents or grandparents?

Here's the good news: It's not biological. There is no "worry" gene. What it is, instead, is a learned behavior. Nurture ousting nature. Worrying is actually a socially acceptable way of saying you live in fear of what may happen in the future. It is an anxiety-provoking, ingrained thought pattern that can cause a host of stress-related physical and psychological issues. But don't worry: If you are a worrywart, there are some things you can do to get off the "What If? " Two of my favorite tools -- which help improve your ability to keep your thoughts on the present moment -- are: 1. 2.

Allow yourself to step out of fear and into freedom. I have been through many traumatic and scary experiences in my life, from cancer to raising teenage sons. Worrying and preparing are two different things, so do not confuse the two. Love Love Love, Terri. Penn State York :: Learning Center :: Hints for Remembering Better. Self Help. Mutual Help. › Personal Growth. 22 Killer Personal Development Resources You're Missing Out On. You’ve got the personal development itch once again. You know the feeling. Maybe you want to be more productive, finally tackle that goal of yours, or start waking up earlier. So you go to Google or your favorite personal development blogs. Maybe if you still haven’t found what you’re looking for you try searching for a Youtube video or ask your Facebook friends if they know of any good sites.

And that’s it. You’ve exhausted your resources and don’t know where else to look. Sometimes you find what you need, but you still have a sense that there’s got to be more. And that’s where you get stuck. Today I hope to change that by sharing with you 22 of the killer personal development resources you’re missing out on. 1. I know, you thought Reddit was just for gamers, atheists, and students – but that’s a misconception. 2. Mindbloom.com is a nifty personal development web application. 3. Lately, it seems there have been hundreds of eLearning websites popping up across the web. 4. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

Everyday Better Living - 100 Questions for couples. A few seconds... Ever noticed that when you first meet someone, you always put your best foot forward? There's certainly nothing wrong with that, as long as it's the real you! Nobody wants to later feel like "I can't believe that they feel that way" So while you're in the "getting to know you" phase, here's some great and intimate questions to spur conversation and honesty. 1.What was the first thing that attracted you about me? 2.Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a successful relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship? 3.When you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice? 4.Do you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman after you are in a committed relationship?

5.What is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man? 6.If I don't say so, how do you know that I want to make love? 7.Describe the way I smell. 8.Tell me how you describe me to other people? 9.How often do you believe it is normal to want sex? Good in Bed Blogs. 7 Forgotten Female Erogenous Zones. You already know about the usual suspects, but if you’re looking to amp things up in the bedroom tonight, ask your husband to focus on some parts of your body that you both may have forgotten about. 1.

The Mons The what? You may be unfamiliar with this word, but it’s time to get acquainted, says Michael Krychman, MD, CM, medical director of Sexual Medicine and the executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine in Newport Beach, California. “The mons, or area above the genitals where the pubic hair grows, can also be interesting when incorporated into the sexual repertoire,” he explains. “Caressing the hair area or gentle touch to this area can also be exciting and pleasurable.” 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Sarah Jio is the health and fitness blogger for Glamour.com. WD wants to answer your toughest sex questions! Five Relationship Myths That Impact Your Everyday Life. Relationship Help: Tips for Building Romantic Relationships that Last. Advice for Building Relationships that are Healthy, Happy and Satisfying How to strengthen your loving relationship Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons.

But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad: What makes a healthy love relationship? Staying involved with each other. Relationship advice tip 1: Keep physical intimacy alive Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Studies have shown that affectionate touch actually boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. Be sensitive to what your partner likes. Relationship advice tip 2: Spend quality time together You probably have fond memories of when you were first dating your loved one. Simple ways to connect as a couple and rekindle love Focus on having fun together Learning how to play again. Relationship Rules. Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved. Yet people have much trouble doing so. It's clear from the many letters I get that lots of folks have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like.

Because I care about these things, and care about the environments children grow in, I'm using this space as an attempt to remedy the problem—again. From many sources and many experts, I have culled some basic rules of relationships. Choose a partner wisely and well. 10 Ways to Make Your Relationship Magically Romantic. Creating magical moments in your relationship is something everyone thinks about, but few people do. Perhaps it's because they actually can't think of exactly what to do. Here are ten "acts of love" that you can do with and for your partner to bring a little more romance into your relationship. 1. Make your morning time special by bringing your partner a cup of coffee while he or she is still in bed. If you're willing and able you can also serve them breakfast in bed. It will make your partner feel cherished and the kindness will be returned. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

Don't try to do everything on this list in the same weekend, one a month is plenty. Taking the time to create romance in your relationship is paramount to creating a fulfilling love life. Dr. 10 Truths To Keep Your Relationship Healthy. I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction 1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. There are no guarantees, but couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships than those who are not proactive in their love. Dr. The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships. That crazy thing we call love is perhaps one of the most studied and least understood areas in psychology.

One reason is that many studies of romantic relationships are carried out not in real life, but in the lab. Making matters worse, many of these studies involve dating relationships between samples of convenience, consisting of undergraduate students. Though these students are certainly capable of close relationships, many of them haven’t matured enough to know themselves, much less what they want out of a romantic partner. What better way to find out about love than to survey the experts? Not the psychology experts—the expert members of couples who have been married 10 years or longer. Just as clearly, not everyone felt the same degree of intensity about their spouses.

A few caveats about the study might have already come to your mind. Now that you’ve learned the basics of this fascinating study, it’s time to put your relationship to the test. How to Get the Girl | Relationships. How to Get the Girl Does this sound familiar? You've finally worked up the guts to ask an attractive woman you've started hanging out with on a date, and she replies with a sympathetic smile and a cliche: 'You're a great guy. But I would hate to ruin our friendship.' If that's you, you've probably wondered why it is that the guys who treat women like afterthoughts -- rather than the amazing catches they are -- always seem to get the girl. 'It's a myth that nice guys finish last,' says advice columnist, on-air host and author Andrea Syrtash.

Learn the difference between nice and too nice. Women appreciate kindness, but when a man is so overly accommodating that he no longer presents a challenge, he becomes a doormat, and that's not a major turn-on. Exude self-confidence. Self-described 'dateologist' Tracey Steinberg agrees that nice guys do not finish last, but insecure guys do. Make your intentions clear. Protect yourself. It's also true that some women really are attracted to bad boys. IMGDaddy. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.