So you’re tired of hearing about “rape culture”? | Rant Against the Random. The following includes descriptions, photos, and video that may serve as a trigger for victims of sexual violence. Please be advised. Someone asked me today, “What is ‘rape culture’ anyway? I’m tired of hearing about it.” Yeah, I hear ya. I’m tired of talking about it. Rape culture is when a group of athletes rape a young girl, and though there are dozens of witnesses, no one says, “Stop.” Rape culture is when a group of athletes rape a young girl, and though there are dozens of witnesses, they can’t get anyone to come forward.
Rape culture is when a group of athletes rape a young girl, and adults are informed of it, but no consequences are doled out because the boys “said nothing happened.” Rape culture is when a group of athletes rape a young girl, and we later find out that their coaches were “joking about it” and “took care of it.” [Note: Initially, there was an image of two young men holding up an unconscious young girl by the arms and legs. Click to zoom. And this: Like this: GEN SILENT. Men Don't Always Think About Sex. Just Sometimes -- and the Same Goes for Women, Too Why do I need to register or sign in for WebMD to save? We will provide you with a dropdown of all your saved articles when you are registered and signed in. Nov. 29, 2011 -- Men do think about sex more often than women overall, but not all the time -- and the gap is not as wide as you might think, a new study finds.
"The absolute number of sexual thoughts is dramatically less than the urban legend that men think about sex every seven seconds," says study researcher Terri Fisher, PhD, professor of psychology at The Ohio State University at Mansfield. She isn't sure where that seven-second figure originated. However, it has persisted. So she decided to investigate by asking college students to track their thoughts of sex. Men had as many as 388 sexual thoughts per day, although the typical man had 19 a day. Continue reading below... There were also plenty of women in the study who thought about all of the above -- some of them a lot. Morning Erections – What Causes Nighttime and Morning Erections?
Many young men, and even some older ones who haven’t found the right people to ask, are curious about morning erections. Most people who have a penis have the experience, with some regularity, of waking up in the morning with an erection. What Is A Morning Erection? Morning erections, colloquially referred to as "morning wood" and scientifically defined as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT) are a healthy and predictable physiological response that most men experience. Morning erections would be better described as the tail end of a series of nighttime erections, as they are just the last erection in a series. On average a healthy person with a penis will have between three and five erections in a full night sleep, with each erection lasting between 25 -35 minutes. Causes of Morning Erections It is a common myth that morning erections are caused by a full bladder.
Lack of Morning Erections Erectile Dysfunction Medications and Morning Erections Sources: Gordon, C.M. and Carey, M.P. Sae-Chul, K. All The Things Women Wish They’d Said to Doctors, Nurses & Midwives. Since my last post about finding our voices as women I’ve seen several articles, blog posts and Facebook comments, along with a couple personal experiences related to this subject. So much so I feel like I need to do a series of posts about this subject. There’s another blogger in the blogosphere who calls herself The Feminist Breeder. Her first birth was a cesarean, her second birth was a vaginal birth (known as a VBAC – Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) in the hospital, and her third was a vaginal homebirth. This week she wrote a post called “Things I Would Say to the Hospital Staff If I Saw Them Today…” This post highlights some of the unsupportive things various care providers said and did during her births and what she would have said had she been able to speak up at the time.
(You can read her post here) I’d love to see a forum open up for all the things women wish they’d said to doctors, nurses and midwives in labor or in obstetric or gynecologic care. Jiz Lee » Feminist Porn Awards 2012 – Call for Nominations. I’m excited to share that it’s time for the nominations period for the Feminist Porn Awards. The event is hosted by the sex toy store “Good For Her” in Toronto. Each year the screening and awards ceremony gets bigger and bigger, grabbing the attention of international media and raising important discussions about pornography. And bringing visibility to filmmakers working within new ways of producing and marketing pornographic movies and websites. I’m very proud to be the 2010 recipient of the “Boundary Breaker” Award, and have also performed in films which have been awarded “Hottest Trans Sex Scene”, “Hottest Dyke Sex Scene”, “Most Diverse Cast”, and “Movie of the Year”.
You can read about my experiences at the 2009, 2010, and 2011 ceremonies, or check out the posts tagged Feminist Porn Awards. The official nomination period for consideration (they accept film AND websites) opens on December 1, 2011 and will close on February 17, 2012. Maybe Days - Omnipresent eroticization can suck my big, intellisexual cock. I wrote an article about polyamory, examining the value of “literal social networks” using technology as a lens with which to understand it, titled “Non-monogamy: A Human Internet for Compassionate Payloads.” When I asked for feedback, I got some very interesting advice on the piece, including some critiques related to attitudinal concerns I thought were especially worth noting. Specifically, some felt the title would trigger “the ‘that makes me think of jizz’ effect” (since I used the word “payloads”), and others felt similarly about other parts of the piece; the article was, they argued, intended for publication in a sexuality ‘zine, after all.
While a valid and potentially constructive critique, certainly, it didn’t sit well with me. At first I didn’t know why. Then I realized what was bothering me, and I responded with the following comment, originally on Facebook: I believe the world needs a place for sex to exist that is neither on one extreme or the other. And: Them: Me: I agree.
Is Generosity Better Than Sex? Hammerpress This column appears in the Dec. 11 issue of The New York Times Magazine. From tribesmen to billionaire philanthropists, the social value of generosity is already well known. But new research suggests it also matters much more intimately than we imagined, even down to our most personal relationships. Researchers from the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project recently studied the role of generosity in the marriages of 2,870 men and women. Generosity was defined as “the virtue of giving good things to one’s spouse freely and abundantly” — like simply making them coffee in the morning — and researchers quizzed men and women on how often they behaved generously toward their partners.
The responses went right to the core of their unions. While sexual intimacy, commitment and communication are important, the focus on generosity adds a new dimension to our understanding of marital success. Do you have a generous relationship? 1. Husbands: 7 percent. SELLING SEX?! - PROSTITUTION. Cindy Gallop: Make love, not porn. Mind Reading: What We Can Learn From the Dutch About Teen Sex.
(Updated) Teen birth rates are eight times higher in the U.S. than in Holland. Abortion rates are twice as high. The American AIDS rate is three times greater than that of the Dutch. What are they doing right that we’re not? For starters, two-thirds of Dutch parents report allowing their teenage children to have sleepovers with their boyfriend or girlfriend, a situation even the most liberal American parents would rarely permit. Is there something Americans should learn from the Dutch about relaxed attitudes toward sex (and drugs — indeed, the Netherlands has more lenient drug laws than the U.S., but three times lower rates of marijuana use)?
Healthland spoke with Amy Schalet, author of Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens and the Culture of Sex, an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst. What got you interested in the studying the differences between American and Dutch approaches to teen sexuality? I was born in the U.S., but grew up in the Netherlands. I don’t want to have sex « Diary of a Lipstick Terrorist. This is the first part of 2 posts on hypersexualisation within the queer scene. This part outlines a general feeling that in order to be queer, you have to be sexual and the second explores specifically attitudes around polyamory. Look out for part 2 next week! At the moment I am reading this wonderful zine I picked up at the Zinefest Berlin this weekend. It’s called ‘Wer ‘A’ sagt, muss nicht ‘B’ sagen‘ (‘B doesn’t automatically follow from A’) and it’s about asexuality.
Asexuality. A word that I have been aware of for a while – it was always included in the breakdown of queer I used to do at high school workshops on homophobia (LGBTTSIQQA, phew!) I don’t want to have sex. “Deciding to be single for a while has been one of the most self-loving things I have done for myself this year” A few weeks ago a friend asked me whether I have had a lover since moving to Berlin. I have spent years trying to fit in. There is a huge pressure to have, and to want, sex all the time. Like this: Intelligent media for the diry-minded - bdsm eroticfilm erotic. Erotic films and literature of the BDSM variety? Particular preferences inside. I have read this question, but I'm looking for slightly different types of films. Also, literature. I'm interested in dominance and submission, some sadism and masochism, bondage, and intense psychological relationships.
Foreign language films are good (as long as there are subtitles), and I'm not interested in plain porn. I'd like to hear about artistic films with interesting camera angles, good acting and plotting, and yes, sex too. I'm particularly interested in sexual awakening films. I'd like to read some books with the same stipulations: They must be well-written and full-bodied, exploring the topics listed above. Bonus points for info on how to purchase/view your recommendations. Sexual Attraction and Orientation. Listen What's It Like for LGBT Teens? For many LGBT people, it can feel like everyone is expected to be straight. Because of this, some gay and lesbian teens may feel different from their friends when the heterosexual people around them start talking about romantic feelings, dating, and sex. A 2012 survey by the Human Rights Campaign found that 92% of LGBT teens had heard negative things about being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender.
LGBT teens might feel like they have to pretend to feel things that they don't in order to fit in with their group, family, or community. Fears of prejudice, rejection, or bullying can lead people who aren't straight to keep their sexual orientation secret, even from friends and family who might support them. Some gay or lesbian teens tell a few close friends and family members about their sexual orientation. But not everyone has the same good support systems. This doesn't happen to all gay teens, of course. Margaret Brooks’ Sex Week “Concern” highlights the intersection of sex-negativity and adultism. Sex-negativity often goes hand-in-hand with adultism, a form of ageism that discriminates against young people considered “not adults.”
Adultism is so embedded in the structure of society that many institutions, including schools, routinely marginalize young people by silencing their voices, disallowing their participation in decision-making activities, or actively excluding their presence at public assemblies. Nowhere is this tendency more apparent than in controversial areas where youth intersect with social stigmas, like sex education. The latest volley of adultist sex-negativity was hurled by Margaret Brooks in her Chronicle of Higher Education article titled “‘Sex Week’ Should Arouse Caution Most of All” (paid subscription required, full text republished here).
While others have been quick to point out the obvious prejudice against sexual diversity Ms. A few points that Margaret Brooks conveniently chooses to decontextualize are worth noting before we get much further. ABOUT « Reteaching Gender And Sexuality. International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers - early to bed: sex toys, sex advice, vibes, and dildos. 113. Free. Good Vibrations Magazine & Sex Blog. Making Presentations Less Ableist.