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Meet Your Worst Enemy. The True Upside of Hard Times. I often say if there’s two things in life that we can’t evade aside from death and taxes, it’s stress and pain.

The True Upside of Hard Times

Suffering is a part of life, but the mindset we layer over it makes all the difference. I have so many examples in my life, and you may as well, where a difficult time was upon me and that very time was the seed which brought on the growth of the next moment. The reality is, we never truly know whether an experience in life is good or bad because we don’t know what’s going to happen next. In Uncovering Happiness. Friedrich Nietzsche on Why a Fulfilling Life Requires Embracing Rather than Running from Difficulty. German philosopher, poet, composer, and writer Friedrich Nietzsche (October 15, 1844–August 25, 1900) is among humanity’s most enduring, influential, and oft-cited minds — and he seemed remarkably confident that he would end up that way.

Friedrich Nietzsche on Why a Fulfilling Life Requires Embracing Rather than Running from Difficulty

Nietzsche famously called the populace of philosophers “cabbage-heads,” lamenting: “It is my fate to have to be the first decent human being. I have a terrible fear that I shall one day be pronounced holy.” In one letter, he considered the prospect of posterity enjoying his work: “It seems to me that to take a book of mine into his hands is one of the rarest distinctions that anyone can confer upon himself.

I even assume that he removes his shoes when he does so — not to speak of boots.” A century and a half later, Nietzsche’s healthy ego has proven largely right — for a surprising and surprisingly modern reason: the assurance he offers that life’s greatest rewards spring from our brush with adversity. With his signature blend of wit and wisdom, Uncertainty.

Resistance to Change

Negative Thoughts. The Yin-Yang of Fortune and Misfortune. Commitment. A Roadmap to Overcoming Insecurities. By Leo Babauta There isn’t a person amongst us who doesn’t have insecurities — some are just better at dealing with them, or perhaps hiding them.

A Roadmap to Overcoming Insecurities

Light After Darkness: 6 Ways to Keep Going During Tough Times. “Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”– Desmond Tutu Throughout the past three years, I’ve experienced the most profound darkness in my life.

Light After Darkness: 6 Ways to Keep Going During Tough Times

A relationship that I cared about ended. A fragile marriage reached its breaking point and unraveled as I came to realize how little control I had over parts of my life. I lost my partner, grew apart from my family and became increasingly isolated. I left a legal job. I gave up my permanent address. As the storms of my life raged, I had to ask myself who I was, who I had become and where I was going. Yes, a soul-shaking series of events had led to a turbulent life crisis. Don’t ‘Get over it': How accepting hard times can help you triumph over them. Pensive woman in reflection.

Don’t ‘Get over it': How accepting hard times can help you triumph over them

(iStock) How many times have you heard someone say, “I just need to get over it so I can get on with my life?” Or maybe it’s something you also do yourself. When we’re frustrated or hurt or angry, sometimes we just want an instant solution. A Tip to Try for Anyone Who Struggles with Uncertainty. Many us, whether or not we struggle with an anxiety disorder, view uncertainty as intimidating.

A Tip to Try for Anyone Who Struggles with Uncertainty

After all, uncertainty is ambiguous. It means unpredictable situations that we’re convinced have the potential for discomfort, undesirable outcomes, bad news, and big mistakes. So we avoid uncertainty. We don’t take a new route to work, because we might get lost. And what if there’s no one to give us directions? We don’t do or try many different things, because we worry that something unpleasant will happen. Uncertainty requires relinquishing control and trusting that we can cope if something does go wrong. But uncertainty is part of life. In their excellent book The Generalized Anxiety Disorder Workbook: A Comprehensive CBT Guide for Coping with Uncertainty, Worry and Fear Melisa Robichaud, PhD, and Michel J. Below are suggestions and insights from The Generalized Anxiety Disorder Workbook on conducting these experiments in your own life: Start small. Related Articles. A Special Forces Officer Teaches You 5 Secrets To Overcoming Adversity.

Life can be really difficult sometimes.

A Special Forces Officer Teaches You 5 Secrets To Overcoming Adversity

We all deal with it. But how do top performers overcome challenges? And what can we learn from them? I figured I’d call an expert. Who knows about overcoming adversity? So I called Mike Kenny. Mental Strength.

Books

Sisu: How to Develop Mental Toughness in the Face of Adversity. Without warning, Soviet Union planes came roaring over the city of Helsinki, Finland on November 30, 1939.

Sisu: How to Develop Mental Toughness in the Face of Adversity

Finland was about to receive a violent shove into World War II. The Soviets dropped more than 350 bombs during the raid. Innocent civilians died. Entire buildings were turned to dust. And it was just the beginning. It was the beginning of what became known as the Winter War. The Winter War The winter was brutal that year. Sisu is a word that has no direct translation, but it refers to the idea of continuing to act even in the face of repeated failures and extreme odds. The Finns would suffer more than 70,000 casualties during the Winter War.

Sisu Emilia Lahti, a PhD candidate at Aalto University in Helsinki and former student of Angela Duckworth at University of Pennsylvania, studies the concept of Sisu and how it applies to our lives. In many ways, Sisu is similar to grit, which has been shown to be one of the best predictors of success in the real world.