How to Live Well. ‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’
~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. How to Change Your Life: A User’s Guide. How to Let Go and Forgive. Post written by Leo Babauta.
Follow me on Twitter. We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt. And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over, and have a hard time letting go. This causes problems. We need to learn to let go. This is something I learned the hard way — after years of holding onto anger at a loved one that stemmed from my childhood and teen-age years, I finally let go of this anger (about 8 years ago or so). Forgiveness can change your life.
Forgiveness does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. It’s not easy. Life’s Enough: Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. “Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.” – Marquis de Condorcet If you took the strengths of others, and compared them to your weaknesses, how do you think you’d size up?
» 5 Essential Zen Habits for Balanced Living. “Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.” – Robert Fulghum Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Anastasiya Goers of Balance In Me.
Do you sometimes wonder whether your life is in balance? It is easy to know if you lead a balanced life because if you do then: – you enjoy every moment and every second, – you can cope with any difficulties, – you can be happy without any reason to be happy, – you can be yourself and love the person you are. External Sources of Happiness.
Post written by Leo Babauta.
There was a time not too many years ago when I was addicted to cigarettes, junk food, TV, shopping, and more, while being unhappy and having relationship problems. What was the common source of all these problems? I was unhappy, so I tried to find happiness in external things. Let’s take food as an example, because it’s such a common symptom. I was unhappy, but I knew that food gave me pleasure — eating some cookies or French fries was pleasurable, so I felt good for a few minutes.
Of course, after I ate them I felt guilty and unhealthy and bad about myself, and so I was even unhappier than before. This is a very common pattern that most of us have — we try to find happiness in people and things around us, instead of finding it within. You might not realize it, but it’s probably something you do in at least one area of your life.
Common Ways to Seek Happiness Externally When I list these external sources of happiness, I’m not judging you or anyone else. 1. 2. Why Self-Unhappiness Leads to All Other Problems. Post written by Leo Babauta.
It started with a close family member who was having relationship problems — she was always anxious about what her boyfriend was doing, whether he was talking to other girls online, whether he was calling her enough or whether he cared enough. This worry about her boyfriend was turning her into an anxious, unhappy young woman. I tried to help her, but as I did, I realized that the root problem was that she was insecure about her relationship because she was insecure about herself. She didn’t have faith in herself, and needed her boyfriend to have faith in her instead.
And she sought happiness from her boyfriend because she didn’t know how to be happy by herself. This is extremely common, for men and women — they want their partner to make them happy, and when that inevitably doesn’t happen some of the time, they are then unhappy. I’ve never really helped people solve this problem, but in truth, I’ve worked on it myself for years now. Weight problems. What’s Wrong With the World? Not a Damn Thing.
“Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.”
-Eric Fromm It struck me recently that a lot of people think they know what’s wrong with this world, and it also struck me that they’re all wrong. Seriously — almost every political and religious group, every opinionated person, every publication with an opinion, has said at one time or another what they think is wrong with this world. Conservatives think that we’ve become a welfare state (giving too many handouts to the poor), while many liberals think we’ve allowed too much corporate welfare (and I tend to agree with this more — we give billions to corporations and much less to the poor and sick). What’s Wrong With the World? Not a Damn Thing. The Incredible Power of Contentment. “If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.” – Cicero Post written by Leo Babauta.
While many readers have noted my efforts and articles on self-improvement, what I haven’t stressed as much is the beauty of becoming content with what you have and who you already are. I’m definitely a goal-oriented person — I always have my eye on a goal, whether that’s writing a book, running a marathon, improving my blog, waking early, losing weight, or one of a dozen other goals I’ve had (and usually achieved) in the last couple of years. How to Live Well. Handbook for Life: 52 Tips for Happiness and Productivity.
By Leo Babauta This is something I’ve been wanting to write for some time — a Handbook for Life.
Now, is there any handbook that can be a guide to every single person? Of course not. This is just a list of tips that I think will help many people in life — some of them common-sense tips that we often forget about. Consider this guide a reminder.