What's Your True Sexual Orientation? The Purple-Red Scale Is Here to Help You Find Out When reality TV dumpling Honey Boo Boo Child declared that "everybody's a little bit gay" three years ago, she was unknowingly taking a page out of sexologist Alfred Kinsey's book. His famous Kinsey scale, which identifies people's levels of same- or opposite-sex attraction with a number from zero to six (zero being exclusively straight, six being exclusively gay), has been a favorite cultural metric for measuring sexual orientation since it was created in 1948. But even though asking someone where they fall on the Kinsey scale is now a common dating website opener, the Kinsey scale is far from an all-inclusive system. As Southern California man Langdon Parks recently realized, the scale fails to address other aspects of human sexuality, such as whether or not we even care about getting laid in the first place. So Parks decided to develop a more comprehensive alternative: the Purple-Red Scale of Attraction, which he recently posted on /r/Asexuality. Pick your letter-number combo below:
Give me a kiss to build a dream on — down to there Last spring, my partner and I were hiking and having “that” conversation where he wanted to know what to do to “get me in the mood”. We’d been seeing a sex and relationship coach, so maybe it was that or the fact that we were climbing a huge hill and I had to catch my breath, but rather than replying immediately, I took a few minutes to think before responding. In those few minutes, I realized how trajectory-based our evenings were. It wasn’t like there was a big “on/off” switch that suddenly had us hurtling towards a romantic encounter at the end of the night. It was more like there were a bunch of little nudges along the way to make that outcome more likely. Imagine a graph with a line heading up and to the right. Maybe it’s because I was explaining my emotions with a graph, but my engineer husband seemed to be getting the analogy. We decided to conduct an experiment where he would plant a very bold Hollywood-style kiss on me when he arrived home for dinner.
Reality & Risk - It's time we talked ‘Reality & Risk is based on a sophisticated, scholarly and politically sensitive understanding of pornography, sexuality and related issues… It is a project at the leading edge of international community-based efforts to address the harms associated with children’s and young people’s exposure to and consumption of pornography.’ Michael Flood Senior lecturer in Sociology University of Wollongong Reality & Risk: Pornography, young people and sexuality is a community-based project that supports young people, parents, schools, government and the community sector to understand and address the influence of pornography. It is auspiced by Brophy Family and Youth Services, in Warrnambool, Australia. Reality & Risk grew out of Maree Crabbe’s work with young people in secondary schools and community settings, as Coordinator of Brophy’s Safety and Respect Programs. ‘I noticed that porn was increasingly playing a role in how young people learn about, think about and experience sexuality. Our aims
An introduction to Tantra Mark Steinmetz. Stone Mountain, GA, 1994 Mention tantra, and you’ll probably get the response that having sex for seven hours sounds really unappealing—as mythologized by an off-hand Sting quote from 1990 that still dominates the entire conversation about this ancient practice. So, what exactly is tantra? We were surprised to find that it’s not actually about sex at all—or specifically, not at all about sexual technique. It’s really about the bedrock of intimacy—and re-establishing sexual polarity, or in laymen terms, sexual tension. So what exactly is tantric sex? Tantra as it is seen in the West is very different from the original ways it was practiced. “In reality only a small portion of tantra has anything to do with sex, and only as a way to merge with the divine.” How do you work with clients? Sessions are individualized depending on what the person or couple needs. Do people come to you to experience more pleasure? Both. What’s the disconnect? Giving Directions
New Research Claims That Going Down On Women Is Good For Your Health | Daily Digest Research carried out by the State University of New York recently suggested that B.J’s can have a whole host of health benefits. The news had men everywhere celebrating. But it seems that women also have cause for joy now as some parallel research conducted suggests that going down on a woman has plenty of its own advantages, for both men and women. The research monitored more than 150 straight and lesbian couples, 75 of which were told to concentrate heavily on oral in their carnal lives, 75 of which were told to not to. The results show a notable difference in stress and anxiety levels, as well as sleep quality and intimacy levels (in and out of the bedroom). The health benefits can be very real, though. The research also points to the sedative effect of the release of oxytocin and other endorphins, meaning it’s the perfect way to encourage sleep for those that suffer from insomnia or restless nights. Of course, there are other benefits as well. So there you have it.
Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It Zhana Vrangalova had hit a problem. On a blustery day in early spring, sitting in a small coffee shop near the campus of New York University, where she is an adjunct professor of psychology, she was unable to load onto her laptop the Web site that we had met to discuss. This was not a technical malfunction on her end; rather, the site had been blocked. Vrangalova, who is thirty-four, with a dynamic face framed by thick-rimmed glasses, has spent the past decade researching human sexuality, and, in particular, the kinds of sexual encounters that occur outside the norms of committed relationships. Up to eighty per cent of college students report engaging in sexual acts outside committed relationships—a figure that is usually cast as the result of increasingly lax social mores, a proliferation of alcohol-fuelled parties, and a potentially violent frat culture. These alarms have sounded before. Others have embraced the commonness of casual sex as a sign of social progress.
Why Isn’t Pornography Part Of Sex Education For Teens? A few months ago, writer and mother Ayelet Waldman tweeted her praise for Peggy Orenstein’s recently released book, Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape. Then she asked her followers: “What are some non-misogynist porn sites to recommend to teens?” I tweeted at Waldman with a few suggestions: Erika Lust, Tristan Taormino, and Stoya, women who have been labeled as feminist, queer, or “ethical” pornographers. I discovered these erotic filmmakers after years of trying to find porn I liked. As a feminist, an occasional though not avid porn consumer, and someone who can’t get off unless she knows her porn is ethically created (I’ve always been bad at cognitive dissonance), I’ve spent a lot of hours roaming the internet just trying to find a few minutes of footage to enjoy. But I was also curious about Waldman’s plans—what was she hoping to gain by introducing porn to her teenage daughter? It’s true that teens are going to be looking at porn anyway.
Sanskrit Text | Lorin Roche, Ph.D. This is the Kashmir Series of Texts and Studies, No. IX, “The Vijnana-Bhairava” with a “Commentary Called Kaumadi by Ananda Bhatta.” Printed at the Tatva-Vivechaka Press, Bombay, India, 1918: Here is the version we are working with. It has been modified slightly from the archived text at the University of Goettingen. ॥ श्री देव्युवाच। श्रुतं देव मया सर्वं रुद्रयामलसम्भवम्। अद्यापि न निवृत्तो मे संशयः परमेश्वर। किं वा नवात्मभेदेन भैरवे भैरवाकृतौ। नादबिन्दुमयं वापि किं चन्द्रार्धनिरोधिकाः। परापरायाः सकलमपरायाश्च वा पुनः। न हि वर्णविभेदेन देहभेदेन वा भवेत्। प्रसादं कुरु मे नाथ निःशेषं चिन्द्धि संशयम्। भैरव उवाच। साधु साधु त्वया पृष्टं तन्त्रसारम् इदम् प्रिये॥ गूहनीयतमम् भद्रे तथापि कथयामि ते। तद् असारतया देवि विज्ञेयं शक्रजालवत्। ध्यानार्थम् भ्रान्तबुद्धीनां क्रियाडम्बरवर्तिनाम्। तत्त्वतो न नवात्मासौ शब्दराशिर् न भैरवः। नादबिन्दुमयो वापि न चन्द्रार्धनिरोधिकाः। अप्रबुद्धमतीनां हि एता बलविभीषिकाः। दिक्कालकलनोन्मुक्ता देशोद्देशाविशेषिनी। अन्तःस्वानुभवानन्दा विकल्पोन्मुक्तगोचरा। एवंविधा भैरवस्य यावस्था परिगीयते।
Le consentement sexuel expliqué par une tasse de thé Initialement publié le 19 mai 2015 Difficile de sensibiliser à la culture du viol de façon simple. Une vidéo de Blue Seat Studios intitulée Tea consent explique le consentement aux relations sexuelles d’une manière simple et accessible à tous. La vidéo de 2 minutes 50 met en scène plusieurs situations où des protagonistes offrent ou se voient offrir une tasse de thé, sous forme d’animation. La vidéo laisse parler une voix off qui demande au public de remplacer la tasse de thé par le début d’une relation impliquant du sexe. Si vous faites du thé et que vous en proposez à quelqu’un qui accepte, il n’y a pas de problème.Si vous proposez du thé à une personne qui n’est pas sûre de vouloir en prendre, il ne faut pas décider à sa place, ou la faire boire de force. La voix off ajoutera à ce sujet : « Le personne voulait du thé, et maintenant elle n’en veut plus. Si une personne est inconsciente, il ne faut pas lui donner du thé. « Les personnes inconscientes ne veulent pas de thé !
The 5 Biggest Problems Sex Therapists Hear About From Couples All sorts of problems can drive a couple to go to a sex therapist, but professionals tend to see certain issues come up time and time again. So, I asked sex therapists what the most common sexual problems they encounter are and how to deal with them. According to Dr. Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist, one problem underlying basically all of these issues is poor communication. "Each partner needs to feel safe and comfortable saying what feels good and what doesn’t, what they like and do not like, what they want and don’t want from their partner," she tells Bustle. If you've got this down, you're already a step closer to solving couples' most common sex problems. 1. Davondra Brown, M.Ed., tells Bustle that many of the people she counsels on their sex lives complain about lack of sensation. 2. Clinical psychologist Dr. 3. Many people approach psychologist Nicole Prause, Ph.D. about partners' porn habits when they're not actually unhealthy. 4. 5. Dr.