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How To Be Resilient: 8 Steps To Success When Life Gets Hard

How To Be Resilient: 8 Steps To Success When Life Gets Hard
“Stick with it!” “Be resilient!” “Never give up!” I see a lot of stuff about resilience, persistence and grit. What I don’t see is a lot of legitimate info on how to actually increase those qualities. How can we be more resilient? So I looked at the most difficult scenarios for insight. When life and death is on the line, what do the winners do that the losers don’t? Turns out surviving the most dangerous situations has some good lessons we can use to learn how to be resilient in everyday life. Whether it’s dealing with unemployment, a difficult job, or personal tragedies, here are insights that can help. 1) Perceive And Believe “The company already had two rounds of layoffs this year but I never thought they would let me go.” “Yeah, the argument was getting a little heated but I didn’t think he was going to hit me.” The first thing to do when facing difficulty is to make sure you recognize it as soon as possible. Sounds obvious but we’ve all been in denial at one point or another. M. Sum Up Tags: Related:  ResilienceHow To Build ResilienceBehavioral Economics

An Antifragile Way of Life “How can you think yourself a great man, when the first accident that comes along can wipe you out completely.” — Euripides Buster Benson with some excellent thoughts on how to live an antifragile life. An antifragile way of life is all about finding a way to gain from the inevitable disorder of life. A Special Forces Officer Teaches You 5 Secrets To Overcoming Adversity Life can be really difficult sometimes. We all deal with it. But how do top performers overcome challenges? And what can we learn from them? Who knows about overcoming adversity? So I called Mike Kenny. Most of what you may think you know about Special Forces is wrong. SEALs and Rangers specialize in “direct action” and “special reconnaissance.” They’re good behind the gun, no doubt, but they spend a lot of their time working with people — and usually people who don’t speak their language and don’t share a common culture. Here’s what you can learn from Special Forces training about overcoming adversity. 1) Prepare, Prepare, Prepare We often wait until the hurricane hits us to think about how we’re going to cope with it. Via Masters of Chaos: The Secret History of the Special Forces: The Special Forces are not a rapid deployment force; the secret of their success is intensive preparation. Many of the benefits that come from preparation are obvious. And what’s the best way to prepare? Tags:

The #1 Secret Astronauts, Samurai, Navy SEALs, and Psychopaths Can Teach You About Good Decision Making We all make a lot of bad decisions. With careers: More than half of teachers quit their jobs within four years. In fact, one study in Philadelphia schools found that a teacher was almost two times more likely to drop out than a student. In our jobs: A study showed that when doctors reckoned themselves “completely certain” about a diagnosis, they were wrong 40% of the time. And in our personal lives: …an estimated 61,535 tattoos were reversed in the United States in 2009. So how can we all make better decisions? It’s “arousal control.” That’s a fancy word for keeping a cool head. In their book, Decisive, Chip and Dan Heath identify short term emotion as one of the primary causes of bad decisions. Astronauts, samurai, Navy SEALs, and psychopaths. 150 Miles Above The Earth Is No Place For Panic It’s the 1960’s and NASA is going to send people to the moon for the first time. How do you make sure astronauts don’t freak out in the cold darkness of space where there’s no help? You’re NASA. No. Nope.

The Brains of Successful vs. Unsuccessful People Actually Look Very Different What's the best way to take control of your own life and push yourself against boundaries? According to Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, it's all about your mindset. Successful people tend to focus on growth, solving problems and self-improvement, while unsuccessful people think of their abilities as fixed assets and avoid challenges. Dweck says that there are two basic categories that peoples' behavioral traits tend to fall into: fixed and growth mindsets. Image Credit: Brain Pickings A person with a "fixed" mindset tends to view themselves with static traits and a deterministic outlook. A person with a "growth" mindset, on the other hand, sees challenges as things to overcome and views failure as an opportunity for growth and personal development. In the end, Dweck says, how we approach life can determine our success and happiness. "Believing that your qualities are carved in stone — the fixed mindset — creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over. The result? Tom McKay

A Navy SEAL Explains 8 Secrets To Grit And Resilience Sometimes you just want to quit. You know you shouldn’t but nothing seems better than crawling back into bed and hiding under the covers. (I am there right now, actually, with my laptop.) The emerging science of grit and resilience is teaching us a lot about why some people redouble their efforts when the rest of us are heading for the door. Research is great, but it’s always nice to talk to someone who’s been there firsthand, and to see how theory holds up against reality. So I gave my friend James Waters a call. James and I talked for hours but what struck me was how much of what he had to say about SEAL training and his time in the teams aligned with the research on grit, motivation, expertise and how people survive the most challenging situations. So what can the SEALs and research teach you about getting through life’s tough times? 1) Purpose And Meaning To say SEAL training is hard is a massive understatement. How do you get serious? And the research backs James up. 2) Make It A Game

Cheating to Learn: How a UCLA professor gamed a game theory midterm Photo by velkr0 via Flickr On test day for my Behavioral Ecology class at UCLA, I walked into the classroom bearing an impossibly difficult exam. Rather than being neatly arranged in alternate rows with pen or pencil in hand, my students sat in one tight group, with notes and books and laptops open and available. They were poised to share each other’s thoughts and to copy the best answers. As I distributed the tests, the students began to talk and write. Below: Peter Nonacs talks to KCRW about letting his class “cheat.” Who in their right mind would condone and encourage cheating among UCLA juniors and seniors? Animals and their behavior have been my passions since my Kentucky boyhood, and I strive to nurture this love for nature in my students. Nevertheless, I’m a realist. Much of evolution and natural selection can be summarized in three short words: “Life is games.” So last quarter I had an intriguing thought while preparing my Game Theory lectures. Gasps filled the room.

What I Do When it Feels Like My Work Isn't Good Enough | James Clear In the beginning, it was easy. There was no pressure. There were no outside eyes. When I started writing, I wrote in a private document for over a year before I published my first article on JamesClear.com. After a few months of sharing my work publicly, things began to change. As I developed an audience, I noticed that I began judging my work. Thankfully, I didn’t let my self-doubt stop me from writing. In a way, this is true. The Inner Game of Tennis I just finished reading a book that has been on my reading list for quite some time, The Inner Game of Tennis by Timothy Gallwey. In particular, there was one quote from Gallwey that made me pause and rethink my early months of writing and self-doubt. “When we plant a rose seed in the earth, we notice that it is small, but we do not criticize it as “rootless and stemless.” Ambition and contentment are not opposites, but we often make the mistake of thinking that they are incompatible. The rose seed, however, is both content and ambitious.

Behavioral Economics has Never Been Hotter New York – Behavioral economics, a branch of economics rooted in psychology has gained tremendous cache in recent decades. It has spawned a growing list of best-sellers such as Malcolm Gladwell’s Blink, Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein’s Nudge, and Dan Ariely’s Predictably Irrational. It’s not just the success of the books; behavioral economics is one of the trendiest courses in universities across the globe. Unlike neoclassical economists, behavioral economists don’t see people as “rational actors” coolly weighing costs and benefits. Instead, behaviorists argue that people rely on “a set of instincts, biases, and cognitive shortcuts to make decisions.” Behavioral economics often focuses on irrational choices, such as why we procrastinate, buy, borrow, and grab chocolate on the spur of the moment. The Godfathers of Behavioral Economics It comes as a surprise to most people that two non-economists have won the Nobel Prizes in economics. A Trendy Economic Theory

Developing Resilience - Career Development from MindTools.com Overcoming and Growing From Setbacks Learn how to bounce back from setbacks. © iStockphoto/AndrewJohnson I have not failed. According to legend, Thomas Edison made thousands of prototypes of the incandescent light bulb before he finally got it right. In spite of struggling with "failure" throughout his entire working life, Edison never let it get the best of him. It's hard to imagine what our world would be like if Edison had given up after his first few failures. In this article, we'll examine resilience: what it is, why we need it, and how to develop it; so that we have the strength and fortitude to overcome adversity, and to keep on moving forward towards our dreams and our goals. The Importance of Resilience Resilience (or resiliency) is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don't go as planned. According to the research of leading psychologist, Susan Kobasa, there are three elements that are essential to resilience: In our Expert Interview with Dr. Developing Resilience

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