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A Guide for Young People: What to Do With Your Life

A Guide for Young People: What to Do With Your Life
By Leo Babauta I had a 15-year-old write to me and ask about figuring out what do do with her life. She writes: ‘As a high-school student I’m constantly being reminded to figure out what to do with my life, what career I would like to have and so on. I definitely feel huge amounts of pressure when my teachers and parents tell me to figure out something now. What an extremely tough thing to figure out: what to do with your future! Here’s what I’d say. You can’t figure out the future. So if you can’t figure out the future, what do you do? Learn to be good with discomfort. Learning is hard. If you get good at this, you can do anything. How do you get good at this? Learn to be good with uncertainty. But if you can be OK with not knowing, you’ll be open to many more possibilities. If any opportunities like these come along, you’ll be ready if you’ve practiced these skills. Overcome distraction and procrastination. Learn about your mind. Make some money. And you get better with practice. Related:  websitesPsychologyTo Blog

12 Ways To Turn Your Life Around In 12 Months Or Less | The road to success is rarely straight. Anyone who has achieved success in any area of their life will likely tell you that their journey was not an easy one. Roadblocks, dead ends, disappointments, bad decisions, and failures (collectively referred to as “experience”) are often the stepping-stones that forge the path to success. Most people who have achieved success have also hit rock bottom somewhere along the way. If you wake up one day and realize that the life you’re living is not the life you want, don’t beat yourself up about it. You cannot change your life overnight, but you can most certainly change the direction of your life overnight. Here are 12 things you can start doing immediately to turn your life around and get back on track to achieving success: 1. If you want your life to get better, you need to start making better decisions. Don’t read fiction. 2. Without question, the most successful people in the world all have goals. 3. 4. Success doesn’t come easy. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.

No Excuses: Minimalism with Kids By Leo Babauta When my friends Joshua and Ryan took their new book on minimalism on a huge tour, one of the most frequent things they heard was, “I could never be a minimalist because I have kids.” To which they’d respond, “Our friend Leo is a minimalist … and he has six kids.” And it’s funny, because before I started simplifying my life and experimenting with minimalism, I had the same thinking — that there was no way to change because of my kids, or my wife’s preferences perhaps. Boy was I wrong. I set off on a journey of exploring minimalism, trying some extreme experiments, doing fun challenges with my family … and that journey has taught me to never again let myself use my family as an excuse not to make a change I’d like to make. Here’s what I learned. It starts with me. Some of Our Family Challenges We’ve done a series of family challenges that have been incredibly fun. Move to San Francisco to Guam with one backpack & one box. Everything That Remains

5 Powerful Techniques to Ignite Rapid Growth in Your Coaching Business There is no such thing as standing still in business. You either grow or die. This is why growth is one of the most important aspects of a sustainable, profitable coaching practice. It doesn’t matter if you’re a brand new coach or if you’ve been at it for a while, you must commit to consistently grow your client list and your audience. These 5 timeless marketing strategies will help you create a buzz for fast growth that will quickly lead to more income and impact. Strategy #1: Go Free Share your best advice. You can create a free eBook or a series of blog posts. If you enjoy the connections that happen at live events, think about holding a half-day seminar or retreat where you live. The format doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you’re establishing your expertise, gaining followers, and creating an authentic bond with them. And because you’re doing it all at no cost to them, you’ll reach far more people than if you charged for it. Strategy #2: Get Published The best part? Trust.

Can prison be a place of redemption? In 1991, Shaka Senghor shot and killed a man. Yes, his is a story of atonement and rehabilitation — but it didn’t always look like things would go that way. As he says in his TED Talk, for many of his 19 years in prison, he was bitter, angry and unwilling to take responsibility for his actions. Thanks to family and mentors, Senghor did turn his life around, and he now acts as a mentor and coach to at-risk youth. He knows first-hand the value of a justice system that can rehabilitate people who might otherwise be discarded. In this long, thoughtful conversation, Senghor talks to Daniel Reisel, a London-based doctor who studies the neuroscience of restorative justice – including the treatment of criminal psychopaths, often considered impossible to rehabilitate. Shaka Senghor: Dan, according to your research, what percentage of people in the prison system are actually identified as psychopaths? Daniel Reisel: Ah! DR: I find that terrifically interesting. DR: It’s such a typical situation.

Mental And Physical Toll Of Bullying Persists For Decades hide captionThe longitudinal British study checked in with 8,000 families across 40 years to trace the trajectory of a bullied child. iStockphoto What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger, right? Well, not when it comes to bullying. Some may still consider bullying a harmless part of growing up, but mounting evidence suggests that the adverse effects of being bullied aren't something kids can just shake off. The psychological and physical tolls, like anxiety and depression, can follow a person into early adulthood. In fact, the damage doesn't stop there, a British study published this week in the American Journal of Psychiatry suggests. "Midlife ... is an important stage in life because that sets in place the process of aging," says Louise Arseneault, a developmental psychologist at King's College London and the study's senior author. And health isn't the only thing to worry about. Victims need some place where they can get away from the abuse and feel safe, Copeland tells Shots.

Embrace These 15 Qualities And Success Is Yours My friends think I achieved a lot. I’m a full-time blogger and I just moved to London from South India. I can live where I want, and I spend my days pretty much how I like. It took me lots of hard work and self improvement to achieve this stage, and although there are many more things I need to learn, some lessons I already learnt and live by. Here they are, and I hope they will help you to become a better and happier human being. Stability. Try to master your emotions – refuse to be affected by them. 2. To attract success, therefore, only give promises when you know you can keep them, and see your actions as sacred, as they are building blocks of your life. 3. By working hard you’re making life owe you. 4. 5. Success is a measure of how much value you provide. 6. 8. 9. 10. 11. It’s easy to find out if you’re ready for it or not. What kind of feelings arose during the vision? Feeling like at home, relieved or happy, on the other hand, is a sign that you’re ready for success. 12. 13. 14.

How I Tackle a Big Writing Project By Leo Babauta Writing something big is one of the things people tend to procrastinate on the most. It doesn’t matter what the writing project might be: writing a novel, a non-fiction book, a long article, a thesis paper, a bunch of pages for a website. Whatever it is, the writer will find a way to procrastinate. I count myself among those happy procrastinators. But in the last 7 years, I’ve managed to write a couple thousand of blog posts, a print book, about 10 ebooks, and numerous online courses, not to mention a couple of novel attempts totaling 200K words. To help my fellow procrastinators writers, I thought I’d share how I tackled an ebook I decided to write last week about Letting Go (I’m releasing it for free next week on my birthday, as a gift to you guys). I wrote the book in two days last week, and edited it in another day this week. Here’s what I did. First, I defined and thought through my problem. Then I started jotting down notes. Big step: I committed. Then I procrastinated.

Ideal Client or Bad Fit? Evaluate Potential Clients With These 3 Simple Questions… Here’s something I want you to know right now and it’s something I wish I’d known when I first started as a coach… You are not meant to serve everyone. You are meant to serve clients who will get the most benefit from your expertise. Clients who truly understand what you have to offer. Clients who love your coaching style. These are your ideal clients. When we aim to work only with ideal clients, we can achieve phenomenal results with far less effort. But how do you know you’ve found an ideal client? The answer is simple. These 3 simple yet revealing questions will help you decide if a potential client is the perfect fit for you. Question #1: What does “success” mean to you? Too often, coaches work with clients for months to help them reach their goals and dreams only for the client to realize those goals and dreams weren’t what they wanted after all. This can be devastating for the client and extremely frustrating and stressful for the coach. It will also help you make an important decision…

Explaining White Privilege to a Broke White Person... Years ago, some feminist on the internet told me I was "Privileged." "THE FUCK!?!?" I said. I came from the kind of Poor that people don't want to believe still exists in this country. So when that feminist told me I had "white privilege," I told her that my white skin didn't do shit to prevent me from experiencing poverty. After one reads McIntosh's powerful essay, it's impossible to deny that being born with white skin in America affords people certain unearned privileges in life that people of another skin color simple are not afforded. "I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my race widely represented."" If you read through the rest of the list, you can see how white people and people of color experience the world in two very different ways. I do understand McIntosh's essay may rub some people the wrong way. And no, I couldn't go shopping without fear in our low income neighborhoods. I know now that I AM Privileged in many ways.

Risks Of Popular Anxiety Drugs Often Overshadowed hide captionXanax and Valium, prescribed to treat anxiety, mood disorders and insomnia, can be deadly when mixed with other sedatives. Dean812/Flickr When actor Philip Seymour Hoffman died of an overdose in February, the New York City medical examiner ruled that his death was the result of "acute mixed drug intoxication." Heroin, cocaine and a widely prescribed class of drugs known as benzodiazepines, or benzos, were found in his system. The drugs first burst onto the scene in the 1950s and '60s and quickly became known as "mother's little helper," the mild tranquilizer that could soothe frazzled housewives' nerves. More than four decades later, benzos — including Valium, Xanax, Klonopin and Ativan — are used to treat anxiety, mood disorders and insomnia. Dr. hide captionSayra Small, with her son, Holden. Courtesy of Sayra Small Sayra Small, with her son, Holden. "It's actually pretty rare to see somebody only using only one," he says — and that's incredibly dangerous.