30 Things You Need To Stop Wasting Time On The modern world is fast paced and time often seems to slip by with us barely noticing. It’s for that reason that it’s important that we don’t spend time or attention on things that are frivolous, negative or just plan stupid. Check out our comprehensive guide to things you shouldn’t be wasting your time on, and see if there’s anything on this guide that you can cut out of your life. 1. Putting Makeup on for the gym and sports It looks weird and it’s only going to melt off, which negates the purpose of putting it on in the first place. 2. Get your lazy butt out of bed. 3. Try living life rather than waiting for an acquaintance to update you on how their lunch is going. 4. Life is far too short to waste your time on doing something you hate. 5. Did you hear your message tone? 6. In the immortal words of Vanilla Ice, “If there was a problem. 7. It’s similar to above. 8. Unless you’re getting good advice from people you love, disregard it. 9. 10. 11. Just do it. 12. 13. It’s what they want.
Parent's Guide to Social Media - Babble I finally joined Instagram, and then I fell down a rabbit hold of tween social media usage. Some of what I found was innocuous, some was not. As soon as I joined, the app used my phone’s contact list to tell me who I might want to follow. Because many of my kids’ friends (and their parents) are in my contact list, Instagram had plenty of recommendations for me. From Instagram, I fell down a rabbit hole of social media sites. By searching Instagram for my kids’ school, I found a group where kids submit their photos to be “matched up” with a boy or girl from their grade. The endless parade of duck-faced selfies was to be expected, but I wasn’t expecting to see girls as young as 11 or 12 posing in shorty-shorts and cami tops, looking over their shoulders and popping out their booties. I wasn’t expecting to find a 12-year-old girl’s description of getting high, or a public discussion of what kinds of sexual activities two young girls might be participating in together.
On Being Too Much for Ourselves: Psychoanalyst Adam Phillips on Balance and the Necessary Excesses of Life by Maria Popova “There are situations in which it is more dangerous to keep your balance than to lose it.” “Something is always born of excess,” Anaïs Nin wrote in her diary in June of 1945 as she contemplated the value of emotional excess, adding: “Great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them.” And yet our compulsive pursuit of balance — take, for instance, the tyrannical notion of work/life balance — is predicated on eradicating “excess,” pitting it as a counterpoint rather than a complement to equilibrium and inner wholeness. That paradoxical relationship is what the celebrated psychoanalyst and writer Adam Phillips examines in On Balance (public library) — a marvelous collection of essays on “the balancing acts that modern societies involve us in,” exploring the many myths that bedevil our beliefs about balance and impede our pursuit of it. We can only be really realistic after we have tried our optimism out.
Workaholic Americans don't take all their vacation Glassdoor's data are based on a Harris Poll of about 2,000 adults, including about 1,000 full- and part-time employees who were included in the questions about vacation. Stupid things employers ask job candidates The findings are in keeping with other research showing that Americans are likely to leave at least some of their vacation on the table, even when they are granted it. Of course, not all Americans are even getting the option of a paid vacation. The Glassdoor survey found that 78 percent of employees surveyed receive vacation or paid time off, while the remaining 22 percent reported not getting any paid vacation or time off. Stay-at-home dads struggle to shake Mr. Other researchers have found that the United States is an outlier when it comes to vacation. CEPR said its analysis found that 77 percent of U.S. workers get paid vacation time, and on average those workers receive 13 days of paid time off a year. Read MoreYes, your boss probably is happier than you are
The Importance of Punctuality The life of George Washington was characterized by a scrupulous regard for punctuality. When he asked a man to bring by some horses he was interested in buying at five in the morning, and the man arrived fifteen minutes late, he was told by the stable groom that the general had been waiting there at five, but had now moved on to other business, and that he wouldn’t be able to examine the horses again until the following week. When he told Congress that he’d meet with them at noon, he could almost always be found striding into the chamber just as the clock was striking twelve. Washington’s promptness extended to his mealtimes as well. And when Washington’s secretary arrived late to a meeting, and blamed his watch for his tardiness, Washington quietly replied, “Then you must get another watch, or I another secretary.” We may no longer live in an age of knickers and powdered wigs, but being punctual is just as important as it ever was. Why Is Being Punctual Important? Here’s why.
Cuidado con los estereotipos, tus hijos los están aprendiendo Nota del editor: Kelly Wallace es corresponsal digital y editora eventual de temas de familia, carrera y vida. Lee sus otros artículos y sigue sus reportajes en CNN Parents y en Twitter. (CNN) — Se ha hablado mucho últimamente sobre lo peligrosos que pueden ser los estereotipos cuando se trata de empoderar a nuestras niñas y jóvenes. Por ejemplo: la campaña #LikeAGirl, que destruyó la noción de que hacer algo "como niña" debe considerarse un insulto, se ha vuelto una sensación internacional. Sin embargo, se ha hablado menos sobre la realidad de que nuestros niños también se enfrentan a estereotipos dañinos. Ese fue el motivo que originó un taller a cargo de SheKnows Media, una empresa líder de medios sobre estilo de vida femenil. Un grupo de niños de la ciudad de Nueva York, de entre ocho y diez años, se unieron al programa Hatch de la empresa, que se dedica a inculcar cultura y civismo digital a la siguiente generación. "Yo juego con juguetes para niña y para niño.
How To Achieve Work-Life Balance In 5 Steps Achieving work-life balance can look impossible. And, frankly, it seems like it’s getting harder. In the ten years from 1986 to 1996 work-life balance was mentioned in the media 32 times. In 2007 alone it was mentioned 1674 times. Via The ONE Thing: A LexisNexis survey of the top 100 newspapers and magazines around the world shows a dramatic rise in the number of articles on the topic, from 32 in the decade from 1986 to 1996 to a high of 1674 articles in 2007 alone. The Onion jokingly implies that the only way to achieve effective work/life balance is to not have a job: That’s hysterical — because it’s not remotely realistic. You Need To Draw A Line I’ve posted plenty of research on productivity, time management and procrastination — but that’s not the issue here. Those are hacks that help you be more efficient but in the modern world you are getting 25 hours of to-do’s thrown at you every 24 hours. Thinking that if you spend enough time you will “get everything done” is an illusion. Sum Up
Checking work emails at home? It's part of the job for most Americans The Single Most Important Habit of Successful Entrepreneurs In his book No B.S. Time Management for Entrepreneurs, business coach and consultant Dan Kennedy reveals the steps behind making the most of your frantic, time-pressured days so you can turn time into money. In this edited excerpt, the author describes the one habit you should adopt--and stick to without fail--if you want to be successful. I’m sure there are exceptions somewhere, but so far, in 35-plus years of taking note of this, everybody I’ve met and gotten to know who devoutly adheres to this discipline becomes exceptionally successful and everybody I’ve met and gotten to know who ignores this discipline fails. The discipline I'm talking about is punctuality -- being where you're supposed to be when you're supposed to be there, as promised, without exception, without excuse, every time, all the time. First of all, being punctual gives you the right—the positioning—to expect and demand that others treat your time with the utmost respect. Let me give you one example. Dan S.
10 frases que JAMÁS debes decirles a tus hijos Antes de llamarle la atención a tu hijo por alguna mala actitud o comportamiento, debes tener la capacidad de utilizar un lenguaje muy cuidadoso y no soltar frases que puedan marcarle la vida en adelante y lastimarlo. Si sientes el impulso de ofenderlo, mejor respira profundo, cuenta hasta diez y deja la charla pendiente para otro momento. Lo peor que puedes hacer es utilizar frases calificativas como: ‘Eres un tonto’, ‘siempre haces las cosas mal’, o compararlo y decirle ‘por qué no eres como tu hermano’ o ‘no llores, eres un varón”, explica la psicóloga Susana Sáenz. Una importante recomendación que da Alexis Olivares, psicólogo especialista en niños, es que cuando tengas que resaltar un hecho con el que no estás de acuerdo y del que tu hijo es autor, enfoques la reprimenda a la actitud y no al niño en sí. Sáenz coincide con Olivares al señalar que se debe hacer énfasis en el comportamiento demostrado en cada caso. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Fuente Vía La Razón
Prioritize Your Life Before Your Manager Does It for You In their several years of working together, Jin-Yung had never really negotiated with her manager. She would simply say yes even if it threw her life into temporary turmoil, as it often did. She had given unknowable hours to executing every request and task, diligently delivering them in neat and complete packages, no matter the sacrifice. After attending a workshop I was teaching on “essentialism,” or the disciplined pursuit of less, she decided to create a social contract to draw some boundaries at work. However, in the midst of her wedding planning, her manager asked her to take on an additional project prior to an upcoming board meeting because someone else on the team had dropped the ball. At first, her boss was fuming. Jin-Yung was so affected by this experience that she decided to incorporate the experience into her vows, promising that she would prioritize her relationship with her husband above all others. Rule 1: You can’t negotiate if you don’t know what you want.
notes on "i am not busy" The not telling people “I am busy” plan. I’ve been working on this plan for a while now. I just added it to my daily Lift habits so I thought I would write about it. When I first started working in tech I regularly worked 10 to 14 hour days. I’d be home by midnight, sleep, get up, shower, and drive back into work. It felt like I was doing critical, valuable work. Everything was an emergency. But the truth is: nothing we did was all that important. When I left Federated Media and started my own company I decided I wanted to try working a bit slower and with more focus. I work until 6pm. During the six months we were making MLKSHK we shipped like crazy. So the final piece I have been working on is never telling people I am busy. Rather than say: “I am too busy, I don’t have any time for X.” EVERYONE has a lot of stuff to do because there IS a lot of stuff to do.