Parent's Guide to Social Media - Babble I finally joined Instagram, and then I fell down a rabbit hold of tween social media usage. Some of what I found was innocuous, some was not. As soon as I joined, the app used my phone’s contact list to tell me who I might want to follow. Because many of my kids’ friends (and their parents) are in my contact list, Instagram had plenty of recommendations for me. On Being Too Much for Ourselves: Psychoanalyst Adam Phillips on Balance and the Necessary Excesses of Life by Maria Popova “There are situations in which it is more dangerous to keep your balance than to lose it.” “Something is always born of excess,” Anaïs Nin wrote in her diary in June of 1945 as she contemplated the value of emotional excess, adding: “Great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them.” And yet our compulsive pursuit of balance — take, for instance, the tyrannical notion of work/life balance — is predicated on eradicating “excess,” pitting it as a counterpoint rather than a complement to equilibrium and inner wholeness. That paradoxical relationship is what the celebrated psychoanalyst and writer Adam Phillips examines in On Balance (public library) — a marvelous collection of essays on “the balancing acts that modern societies involve us in,” exploring the many myths that bedevil our beliefs about balance and impede our pursuit of it.
Cuidado con los estereotipos, tus hijos los están aprendiendo Nota del editor: Kelly Wallace es corresponsal digital y editora eventual de temas de familia, carrera y vida. Lee sus otros artículos y sigue sus reportajes en CNN Parents y en Twitter. (CNN) — Se ha hablado mucho últimamente sobre lo peligrosos que pueden ser los estereotipos cuando se trata de empoderar a nuestras niñas y jóvenes. Por ejemplo: la campaña #LikeAGirl, que destruyó la noción de que hacer algo "como niña" debe considerarse un insulto, se ha vuelto una sensación internacional. Sin embargo, se ha hablado menos sobre la realidad de que nuestros niños también se enfrentan a estereotipos dañinos.
How To Achieve Work-Life Balance In 5 Steps Achieving work-life balance can look impossible. And, frankly, it seems like it’s getting harder. In the ten years from 1986 to 1996 work-life balance was mentioned in the media 32 times. 10 frases que JAMÁS debes decirles a tus hijos Antes de llamarle la atención a tu hijo por alguna mala actitud o comportamiento, debes tener la capacidad de utilizar un lenguaje muy cuidadoso y no soltar frases que puedan marcarle la vida en adelante y lastimarlo. Si sientes el impulso de ofenderlo, mejor respira profundo, cuenta hasta diez y deja la charla pendiente para otro momento. Lo peor que puedes hacer es utilizar frases calificativas como: ‘Eres un tonto’, ‘siempre haces las cosas mal’, o compararlo y decirle ‘por qué no eres como tu hermano’ o ‘no llores, eres un varón”, explica la psicóloga Susana Sáenz. Una importante recomendación que da Alexis Olivares, psicólogo especialista en niños, es que cuando tengas que resaltar un hecho con el que no estás de acuerdo y del que tu hijo es autor, enfoques la reprimenda a la actitud y no al niño en sí.
Prioritize Your Life Before Your Manager Does It for You In their several years of working together, Jin-Yung had never really negotiated with her manager. She would simply say yes even if it threw her life into temporary turmoil, as it often did. She had given unknowable hours to executing every request and task, diligently delivering them in neat and complete packages, no matter the sacrifice. After attending a workshop I was teaching on “essentialism,” or the disciplined pursuit of less, she decided to create a social contract to draw some boundaries at work.
Depression? There’s an App for That Jane McGonigal is a world-renowned game developer. She’s dedicated her career to the creation of intricate imaginary worlds and fiercely promotes the power of play. McGonigal encourages daily gaming. She believes that a quick dose of Angry Birds or hours spent plowing the virtual fields of FarmVille is not only relaxing but is actually beneficial to your health. So beneficial, in fact, that gaming may add up to 10 years to your life. In her groundbreaking TED Talk, McGonigal presents the research behind her theory.
The Four Burners Theory: The Downside of Work-Life Balance One way to think about work-life balance issues is with a concept known as The Four Burners Theory. Here’s how it was first explained to me: Imagine that your life is represented by a stove with four burners on it. Each burner symbolizes one major quadrant of your life. The first burner represents your family.The second burner is your friends.The third burner is your health.The fourth burner is your work. The Four Burners Theory says that “in order to be successful you have to cut off one of your burners. No, You Don’t Have to Work 24/7 to Succeed - Michael Hyatt I love Amazon, but like many I was disturbed by what I read in the New York Times’ recent exposé. Still, I was actually more disturbed by what came next. Courtesy of iStock/NoDerog I read defenses of Amazon from entrepreneurs, leaders, tech writers, and others.
Forget Work-Life Balance. The Question is Rest Versus Effort. Work penetrates every aspect of our life, so how do you strike a work-life balance? Personally, I’m terrible at it. I have absolutely no balance. My life and my work life are one in the same. David Whyte on How to Break the Tyranny of Work/Life Balance The equilibrium between productivity and presence is one of the hardest things to master in life, and one of the most important. We, both as a culture and as individuals, often conflate it with the deceptively similar-sounding yet profoundly different notion of “work/life balance” — a concept rather disheartening upon closer inspection. It implies, after all, that we must counter the downside — that which we must endure in order to make a living — with the upside — that which we long to do in order to feel alive. It implies allocating half of our waking hours to something we begrudge while anxiously awaiting the other half to arrive so we can live already. What a woefully shortchanging way to exist — lest we forget, so speaks Annie Dillard: “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
Why Emotional Excess is Essential to Writing and Creativity The third volume of Anaïs Nin’s diaries has been on heavy rotation in recent weeks, yielding Nin’s thoughtful and timeless meditations on life, mass movements, Paris vs. New York, what makes a great city, and the joy of handicraft. The subsequent installment, The Diary of Anais Nin, Vol. 4: 1944-1947 (public library) is an equally rich treasure trove of wisdom on everything from life to love to the art of writing. In fact, Nin’s gift shines most powerfully when she addresses all of these subjects and more in just a few ripe sentences. Such is the case with the following exquisite letter of advice she sent to a seventeen-year-old aspiring author by the name of Leonard W., whom she had taken under her wing as creative mentor. Nin writes: