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The Backfire Effect shows why you can't use facts to win an argument

The Backfire Effect shows why you can't use facts to win an argument
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Guest Post: The psychology of anthropomorphism, or why I felt empathy towards a piece of trash In early January, the sidewalks in my neighborhood are lined with discarded Christmas trees. It’s the collective holiday hangover trash, and quite frankly it makes me sad; the trees mark the moment of winter where all that is left are several cheerless months of cold and drudgery. My dog, however, goes apeshit over them. He loves to sniff them. He loves to pee on them. And, a couple of weeks ago, his Christmas tree habit led me to some unexpected psychological self-analysis. On an early walk, as my dog lifted his leg on the eighth tree of the morning, I saw a tiny ornament clinging to its lowest branches. My first thought: “Oh, no no no. My second thought: “I will save you.” My next thought: “What the hell was that?” When I got home, I did what any procrastinating science writer with a pile of deadlines would do: I put everything aside to try to figure out why I felt empathy for a piece of trash. The second is the motivation to understand the behavior of something by making it familiar.

30 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Die. {Via studioflowerpower on etsy} “Rather than money, than fame, than love…give me truth.” ~ Thoreau I woke up this morning and my life clock marked 30. My first sleep-deprived idea was to pack a small suitcase, get on the first train, move to another country, change my name, change my hair color (or get plastic surgery if needed), and start from scratch. By now, I’m good at both: fighting and disappearing. A true warrior doesn’t feel forced to do either, but moves through and with and for life, like water. So after I washed my face and considered the costs of running and those of fighting, I decided to do neither and have some juice instead. {Alkaline Espresso / Click for recipe.} We are a constant process, an event, we’re change. Our life is the house, the rest are just projections, shadows of the greater structure: even our deepest thoughts, beliefs, you, me and everything and everyone we’ve ever known, are subject to interpretation. Loving the questions means to love yourself. You. Comments

Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism: A Study of "Brainwashing" in China is a non-fiction book by psychiatrist Robert Jay Lifton on the psychology of brainwashing and mind control. Lifton's research for the book began in 1953 with a series of interviews with American servicemen who had been held captive during the Korean War. In addition to interviews with 25 Americans, Lifton also interviewed 15 Chinese who had fled their homeland after having been subjected to indoctrination in Chinese universities. The book was first published in 1961 by Norton in New York.[1] The 1989 reprint edition was published by University of North Carolina Press.[2] Lifton is a Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice, City University of New York. Main points[edit] In the book, Lifton outlines the "Eight Criteria for Thought Reform": Milieu Control. Thought-terminating cliché[edit] Lifton said:[4][5] Examples[edit] General examples[edit] Political examples[edit]

Unskilled and unaware of it: how difficul... [J Pers Soc Psychol. 1999 5 Steps for Dealing With Someone Who Won't Stop Talking CREATISTA/Shutterstock One day recently Jean*, a young professional woman, started her session with me by ranting about one of her co-workers. “The man does not stop talking,” she said. “Today he asked me how my weekend went, and before I could utter a word he started telling me about everything he had done.” We all know someone like this man—people who talk without listening, who seem to think that what they have to say is as fascinating to everyone else as it is to them, and who don’t seem to understand that listening is an important part of communicating and connecting to others. What makes these people tick? Talking is part of what we humans do. But people who talk too much don’t seem to get this balance. “Listening requires complex auditory processing,” according to Daniel P. This is what happened with Max*, a smart, articulate man with two young children. I asked Max if he thought that might be part of the problem that had led his wife to ask for a divorce.

Lean Secrets Creating False Memories 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do LifeHack | Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong. 1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. 2. They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. 3. Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. 4. You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. 5. Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. 6. They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. You may be interested in this too: 14 Things Positive People Don’t Do 7. 8. 9. 10. Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. 11. 12. 13.

Women's "Benevolent" Sexism Can Hurt Marital Satisfaction “Benevolent sexism” is the belief that women deserve to be protected and cherished by men, with the implicit understanding that these are perks in exchange for men's general dominance. In two related studies reported in 2013 in the European Journal of Social Psychology, women who held these beliefs had steeper drops in relationship satisfaction when conflict arose. “It is likely that conflict contrasts starkly with beliefs about being cherished and threatens their investment in supporting their partner,” says study co-author Matthew Hammond, a psychology researcher at the University of Auckland in New Zealand. Stanley Millgram: Obedience to Authority