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101 Everyday Ways for Men to Be Allies to Women

101 Everyday Ways for Men to Be Allies to Women
I’ve considered myself a feminist and male ally to women for quite some time. When I took my first Women’s Studies class two years ago with Professor Denise Witzig, little did I know that it would take me down an unsuspecting, beautiful, and transformative path towards feminism. Below, I’ve complied a list of 101 everyday ways for men to be allies to women. I must acknowledge that this post was written with cisgender, heterosexual men as a possible, target audience due to the lack of support from this group. However, I feel that many of these points are applicable on a broader scale. If you have suggestions or additions to this list, I’ve included my email at the end of this post. 1. I’m very intentional in making this point first. 2. In order to be a successful ally, you must make a daily effort to understand privilege. 3. Allies are not perfect by any means. 4. If you’re serious about being an ally, I think this point is somewhat obvious. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16.

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How to talk to your daughter about her body How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works. Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight. If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Horror Movies Directed by Women Genre filmmaking has a reputation as a man’s field. That goes for audiences as well as filmmakers. To the novice, it’s easy to see why. For a long time women’s bodies have been used to titillate male adolescent horror fans — shrieking, squirming, disposable ciphers. Academic studies of gender and horror cinema such as Carol J. What You Can Do to Support Women’s Rights, Part III: Men in the Women’s Movement As both a male peer ed­u­ca­tor and a rad­i­cal fem­i­nist ac­tivist, one of the most com­mon ques­tions I hear from men about fem­i­nism is, What can I do? It is true that many men are open­ly hos­tile to­wards women and to­wards fem­i­nism, and most men (in my ex­pe­ri­ence) are at best am­biva­lent and some­what sus­pi­cious of fem­i­nism and fem­i­nist groups. But most men that I talk to at least pay lip ser­vice to the fun­da­men­tal doc­trine of fem­i­nism, that women de­serve the same rights as men and that any just so­ci­ety must in­clude an end to gen­der op­pres­sion. These men, most­ly po­lit­i­cal lib­er­als, agree that the op­pres­sion of women, where it ex­ists, is an in­jus­tice that must be stopped.

Explaining White Privilege to a Broke White Person... Years ago, some feminist on the internet told me I was "Privileged." "THE FUCK!?!?" I said. I came from the kind of Poor that people don't want to believe still exists in this country. Have you ever spent a frigid northern Illinois winter without heat or running water? Not all men: How discussing women’s issues gets derailed. Photo by Shutterstock / ollyy The following article is a discussion about violence, violence against women, and the oppression women face every day. Have a care if these topics disturb you.

We are the 1 in 3 makingsenseofthenonsense: More pieces by artist Heather Ault. You can learn more about 4000 Years for Choice, and check out much more of Heather’s awesome artwork here. Charlotte Taft, director of the Abortion Care Network (via socialismartnature) Help each other stay away from less than awesome clinics, don’t feel ashamed, your voice matters, your experience is important. Are You Afraid Of Saying The 'F' Word? Maybe You Should Learn About What It Really Means First. Babes, I am no stranger to dirty words. I mean I teach sex ed. Sometimes I say penis or vagina, hee, hee. How To Be A (Male) Ally [Content Note: Rape Culture] Lately, I've been reading a lot of comments on the interwebs from genuinely nice guys who want to know how to be good feminist allies in this shitty rape culture world we live in. And it's a more complicated question that it looks, since there's a lot of conflicting advice out there about white knighting (which in itself is a confusing term with about four distinct and sometimes mutually exclusive meanings) and helpful-versus-unhelpful anger and nice guyism and creepers and OMG PARALYZED BY THE POSSIBILITY FOR WRONGNESS. So here is a Helpful (Male) Allies 101 post for men who would like to be helpful male allies as far as my opinion goes. Also, upfront, these posters are very cool. Just sayin'. 1.

Annoyed When People Talk About White Male Privilege Or Whatever? Think They're Trying To Guilt You? The term "privilege" is loaded for some people. I get it — it can cause feelings of guilt over something that isn't a favor you asked for. But what I LOVE about this series of posters from the University of San Francisco is showing that what's necessary isn't guilt, but simply awareness.

#YesAllWomen in the wake of Elliot Rodger: Why it’s so hard for men to recognize misogyny. Photo by LDprod/Shutterstock When Santa Barbara police arrived at Elliot Rodger’s apartment last month—after Rodger’s mother alerted authorities to her son’s YouTube videos, where he expressed his resentment of women who don’t have sex with him, aired his jealousy of the men they do choose, and stated his intentions to remedy this “injustice” through a display of his own “magnificence and power”—they left with the impression that he was a “perfectly polite, kind and wonderful human.” Then Rodger killed six people and himself on Friday night, leaving a manifesto that spelled out his virulent hatred for women in more explicit terms, and Santa Barbara County Sheriff Bill Brown deemed him a “madman.” More on Slate Plus Another rude awakening played out on social media this weekend as news of Rodger’s attack spread around the world. But there are other, more insidious hurdles that prevent male bystanders from helping to fight violence against women.

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