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101 Everyday Ways for Men to Be Allies to Women

101 Everyday Ways for Men to Be Allies to Women
I’ve considered myself a feminist and male ally to women for quite some time. When I took my first Women’s Studies class two years ago with Professor Denise Witzig, little did I know that it would take me down an unsuspecting, beautiful, and transformative path towards feminism. Below, I’ve complied a list of 101 everyday ways for men to be allies to women. I must acknowledge that this post was written with cisgender, heterosexual men as a possible, target audience due to the lack of support from this group. However, I feel that many of these points are applicable on a broader scale. If you have suggestions or additions to this list, I’ve included my email at the end of this post. 1. I’m very intentional in making this point first. 2. In order to be a successful ally, you must make a daily effort to understand privilege. 3. Allies are not perfect by any means. 4. If you’re serious about being an ally, I think this point is somewhat obvious. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16.

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