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The 11 Differences Between Dating a Boy vs a Man

The 11 Differences Between Dating a Boy vs a Man
When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked. You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player. I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents. Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending. “The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness. But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed. I learned to love myself. A girl is attracted to boys. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. 11. Related:  DatingBeing a Human Being, a Person, and a Man

13 Great First Date Questions Awkward silence is the killer of romance. The only thing worse is bad small talk. I want to help you banish both from your dates. According to the research, a flexible communication style—engaging questions, open-mindedness and easy back and forth is most effective. Below I have outlined my favorite first date (or second, third or fourth) date questions and conversation starters. Help you to more quickly gauge if you have a connection or not.Get to know their personality, history and areas of compatibility more quickly.Encourage great conversation. Special Note: These are not meant to be pelted at your date in an interrogational manner. For some of these questions I have included “Don’t Ask” questions. Best First Date Conversation Starters: 1. This is my go-to question and comes up very naturally if someone talks about a) being busy b) what they do for a living c) any hobbies. 2. If it is around the holidays or one of your birthdays you can talk about presents. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11.

A Man’s Guide to Black Tie: How To Wear A Tuxedo Nothing makes a man feel as sharp and debonair (and makes the ladies swoon) as when donning a tuxedo. Unfortunately, “black tie” is an often misunderstood dress code, leading men to end up looking more like Lloyd and Harry in Dumb and Dumber than 007. You can thank rental outlets and high school proms for a lot of the misconceptions. When you’re in the business of renting tuxedos, you want people to believe that they are appropriate for all kinds of events, and that means they can sometimes be turned into a novelty item. Fun for the whole family and good for some laughs, no doubt — but it’s certainly not the refined elegance needed for a true black tie event. While seeing “Black Tie” on an event invitation can be intimidating, the good news is that getting black tie right isn’t hard! In fact, the strictness of the dress code makes it one of the easiest outfits you’ll ever plan. Black Tie Basics First, a few things you need to know about black tie attire: 1. 2. 3. The Tuxedo Jacket The Trousers

Get Rid of 80% of Your Body’s Toxins in 3 Weeks With These Tips Almost everyone has a buildup of toxins in their body. It’s hard to avoid today. What can that build up lead to? A number of health conditions. The good news it that 80% of the chemicals in your blood are non-persistent (they have short half lives). What this means is by making some simple lifestyle changes, you can reduce the toxins in your body by 80% within 3 weeks. Breathe cleaner air — use an air purifierChange your diet — eat organic/natural foodsSwitch to natural personal care products (beware of all fragrances in particular) Learn more about how to make these simple lifestyle change to detoxify your body: STANDARD FTC DISCLOSURE: In order for me to support my blogging activities, I may receive monetary compensation or other types of remuneration for my endorsement, recommendation, testimonial and/or link to any products or services from this blog. Did you enjoy this article?

16 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School I am 28 now. I don’t think about the past or regret things much these days. But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was. Because some of these 16 things in this article a teacher probably spoke about in class. Some of it would probably not have stuck in my mind anyway. But I still think that taking a few hours from all those German language classes and use them for some personal development classes would have been a good idea. So here are 16 things I wish they had taught me in school (or I just would like to have known about earlier). 1. This is one of the best ways to make better use of your time. So a lot of what you do is probably not as useful or even necessary to do as you may think. You can just drop – or vastly decrease the time you spend on – a whole bunch of things. 2. You can do things quicker than you think. 3. 4. 5.

How to Take the Perfect Selfie Your selfie is your first impression. It might sound silly, but the pictures you put on your profiles, your website and your social media send cues to others about who you are and what you stand for. You want your pictures to be: True to RealityFlatteringAuthenticPositive That is exactly what I’m going to teach you how to do in this post…and, as always, we are going to do it using science! 1. Where should the camera be when taking a picture? When someone is viewed from above they are seen as weaker and in need of protection. The opposite happens when you see someone from below. Action Tip: Take control of the messages your picture is sending out to the world by thinking about the angle of your camera. 2. Fronting is a body language term that describes where your body is facing. You will notice that President Obama’s campaign uses pictures like the ones on the left. If you’re loving this article. 3. Do you look fake in your picture? Let’s talk about the universal expression for happiness. 4.

How to Develop Gratitude for Mindfulness Gratitude is considered by some as the greatest of all emotions that can be cultivated for mindfulness. Recent studies are beginning to show that gratitude has a unique relationship with wellbeing, and can explain aspects of wellbeing that other personality traits cannot. An attitude of gratitude goes hand in hand with mindfulness. You’re grateful when you’re aware of what you do have rather than what you don’t. Gratitude is a skill that you can develop. Think of something you’re ungrateful for.Perhaps you’re ungrateful in your job, a relationship, or your place of residence.Now think of all the things that are good about it. When someone has hurt you, or you’ve done something wrong, you have a conflict in your mind. Try this approach to begin allowing in forgiveness: Understand that hating someone else doesn’t actually hurt that person at all.List all the beneficial things that have emerged from a situation. An alternative practice would be to do a forgiveness meditation.

10 Of Europe's Best Kept Secret Festivals | DJBROADCAST.NET 4.9k Friday 6 June, 2014. Text: Nour Jaber. 7. 8. 9. 10. Previous CONTINUE READING (3 of 3) Around The World In his photo series “Follow Me To”, Russian photographer Murad Osmann is taking the viewer on an intimate journey together with his girlfriend who’s leading him around the world. The pose is almost the same in every picture: the girl never shows her face, and the guy almost never lets go of her hand. The settings change from Moscow to London to Venice to a number of different locations in Russia, revealing their passion for travel. “For me photography is about capturing things other people might miss. It’s a way to communicate,” says Murad. Website:

How to Ask Someone Out (… and get an enthusiastic “Yes!”) Have you ever had to ask someone out? It’s a harrowing, anxiety filled, awkward experience. And worst of all, no one has ever given us any real guidance on the subject. So it’s no big shock that asking someone out is a big social challenge. People have a bigger problem with asking someone out than asking for a raise at work. Is asking someone out really that hard? Not if you know … The Quick Roadmap for Asking Someone Out Even if you’ve never done it before. Even if you’re scared as hell. Step #1: How to Talk to Anyone We hate small talk. “So, what do you do?” Ironically, though we hate small talk, we cling to it like a shipwreck victim on a life preserver. Because it’s all we know. Here’s what you can do instead: Ask them for advice. Above all, just start talking. Step #2: Find Your Diving Board The easiest way to feel confident asking someone out is to come in prepared. The formula you can use to ask someone out is: Here are some examples: Step #3: The Ask

Scientists Get a TASTE of the Transcendent “The potential for a mystical experience is the natural birthright of all human beings.” - Stanislav Grof “Man may intellectually argue himself in and out of anything. But he can only defend it as long as he has not experienced the fact that he is wrong. Once he has come to the interior realization that a situation is not right, he cannot rest until he does something about it.” – Manly P. “Its persuasiveness seems to hinge on an experience of this interconnection…” – Richard M. What has been generally termed a “mystical experience” is something that has been reported throughout time and across disparate cultures. Found this gem tucked away in the corners of the web and figured it deserved its day in the sun. “The Archives of Scientists’ Transcendent Experiences (TASTE) is an online journal devoted to transcendent experiences that scientists have reported. Neat, huh? Now, all of the accounts featured at that TASTE site are of the “spontaneous” variety. Falling Awake A Taste of Kensho 1.

9 Insights on Learning to Deal with Change, Challenges, and Pain “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ~Alan Watts This year has been one of unprecedented change for me. In April, we put our house up for sale. Then in May my marriage failed, and I separated from my wife. In June I decided to attack my lifelong dream of singing in a rock band—mid-life crisis or perhaps an awakening of sorts. In August my son left home for university. And in September my last remaining grandparent, my grandmother, died at the age of 97. Over the last nine months, amidst all the turbulence, challenges, and pain, a few insights gradually occurred to me: 1. Yet we are programmed for the opposite. The reality is that nothing is permanent, and the only thing we know we can count on is change. 2. Why is it that life can look hopeful one day, and so very dark the next? I am learning not to overreact in the moment, or make important decisions when I am feeling down. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Pain needs to be acknowledged.