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Abusive parents: What do grown children owe the mothers and fathers who made their childhood a living hell?

Abusive parents: What do grown children owe the mothers and fathers who made their childhood a living hell?
Illustration by Charlie Powell What do we owe our tormentors? It’s a question that haunts those who had childhoods marked by years of neglect and deprivation, or of psychological, physical, and sexual abuse at the hands of one or both parents. Despite this terrible beginning, many people make it out successfully and go on to build satisfying lives. Now their mother or father is old, maybe ailing, possibly broke. With a sense of guilt and dread, these adults are grappling with whether and how to care for those who didn’t care for them. Emily Yoffe is a contributing editor at the Atlantic. Rochelle, 37, wrote to me in my role as Slate’s Dear Prudence because of the pressure she was getting from friends to reach out to her mother. Rochelle started waitressing when she was 15. That was Rochelle’s breaking point—after that, she didn’t see her mother for the next 13 years. The visits took a toll. There is no formula for defining one’s obligations to the parents who didn’t fulfill their own. Related:  family articles

Zweihänder The Zweihänder (German for "two hander", also called Great sword, Bidenhänder, Schlachtschwert[1] or Bihänder), is a two-handed sword primarily of the Renaissance. It is a true two-handed sword because wielding it requires two hands, unlike other large swords that also can be used with one.[2] The Zweihänder swords seamlessly develop from the German "Langschwert" (longsword) of the Late Middle Ages and became a hallmark weapon of the German Landsknechte from the time of Maximilian I (d. 1519) and during the Italian Wars of 1494–1559. These swords represent the final stage in the trend of increasing size that started in the 14th century. Morphology[edit] Due to their size and weight — typically at least 1.4 m (4 ft 71⁄8 in) long and with a weight of over 2 kg — Zweihänders require two hands; as such they require at least 25 cm (9.84 in) for the grip.[4] Zweihänders above 4 kg are considered to be more ceremonial than practical. Application[edit] References[edit] External links[edit]

When Shame feels Mothering: The Tragedy of Parentified Daughters Bethany Webster The road between a little girl and her mother is supposed to be a one-way street with support flowing consistently from the mother to the daughter. It goes without saying that little girls are totally dependent on their mothers for physical, mental and emotional support. However, one of the many faces of the mother wound is the common dynamic in which the mother inappropriately depends on the daughter to provide her with mental and emotional support. This role-reversal is incredibly damaging to the daughter, having long-range effects on the her self-esteem, confidence and sense of self-worth. Alice Miller describes this dynamic in "The Drama of the Gifted Child." The young daughter then has to repress her own developmental needs in order to accommodate the emotional needs of the mother. A daughter is being exploited when her mother gives her adult roles, such as surrogate spouse, best friend or therapist. The message is there's not enough mothering or love to go around.

MediEvil MediEvil is a series of action-adventure hack n' slash video games developed by SCE Cambridge Studio and published by Sony Computer Entertainment. The main protagonist of the series is a cowardly, skeletal undead knight, Sir Daniel Fortesque. The name of the series is a portmanteau of medieval and evil. Games[edit] MediEvil is the first game in the series. MediEvil was one of the first games to support a DualShock controller on the PlayStation. MediEvil 2[edit] MediEvil 2 is the second installment in the series. MediEvil Resurrection[edit] MediEvil Resurrection is the third installment in the series. Sir Daniel Fortesque[edit] For years, Dan had regaled the nobles of Gallowmere with tales of slain dragons and vanquished legions. Daniel was dragged from his bed and thrust at the front of King's army to face the undead horde. Appearances in other games[edit] Dan appears as a playable golfer in Hot Shots Golf 2 and is playable in the fighting game, PlayStation All-Stars Battle Royale.

The aftermath of psychopathy as experienced by: romantic partners, family members and other victims | Aftermath: Surviving Psychopathy Foundation by Linda S. Hartoonian-Almas and Liane J. Leedom, M.D. Psychopathic individuals take the lives of their victims, at least figuratively, sometimes literally. In one recent survey[i] of women who reported involvement with individuals with psychopathic features, they reported the following harm: There are five sources for the information found in this resource including the above survey. Psychological and Emotional Harm By psychological and emotional harm, we mean effects on the way victims think and feel. Life with a psychopathic individual is characterized by outright lies, slight omissions, and clever manipulations. It is not unusual for the victims of psychopaths to question their sanity and self worth. Psychopathic individuals may even try to convince victims that it is they who are “crazy.” Generally, psychopathic individuals are out to service their own short term agendas. Once an individual is no longer of use to the psychopath, it is common for that person to be discarded. Summary

The top 10 emerging technologies for 2013 Find out about the top 10 emerging technologies for 2014 here. New challenges need new technologies to tackle them. Here, the World Economic Forum’s Global Agenda Council on Emerging Technologies identifies the top 10 most promising technology trends that can help to deliver sustainable growth in decades to come as global population and material demands on the environment continue to grow rapidly. These are technologies that the Council considers have made development breakthroughs and are nearing large-scale deployment. OnLine Electric Vehicles (OLEV) Wireless technology can now deliver electric power to moving vehicles. 3-D printing and remote manufacturing Three-dimensional printing allows the creation of solid structures from a digital computer file, potentially revolutionizing the economics of manufacturing if objects can be printed remotely in the home or office. Self-healing materials Energy-efficient water purification Carbon dioxide (CO2) conversion and use Remote sensing

For those of you whose Nparent plead mental illness... The top 10 emerging technologies for 2013 : Futurology Help, my Mommy is a Psychopath! Psychopaths (also known as volatile or dangerous Sociopaths), have personality disorders. Less than 1% of the human population is considered Psychopathic by nature, but they do exist. What’s more, many of them elect to have kids. Typically, people who score highest for traits of ASPD (short for Anti-Social Personality Disorder), are hard to spot by an untrained person. Characterized by their use of persuasive but totally disingenuous charm (both overt and covert manipulation), they all have the propensity to revel in the use of pathological lies or deception. Totally lacking remorse for their pervasive targeting of their preferred scapegoat targets for abuse, they make their way into friendship circles, online dating sites, and into social environments seeking new narcissistic supply sources to use and abuse. Their continual vomiting of hate speech and projection of their own hyped narcissistic rivalries makes them the worst possible character type of person to raise children. No.

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Raised by a Narcissist? 11 Healing Things to Do for Yourself Right Now around Robin Hood's barn English[edit] Etymology[edit] Reference to Robin Hood, the legendary outlaw, whose barn was simply the fields and pastures surrounding Sherwood forest, his home. “Around Robin Hood’s barn” simply means all around the countryside, all through the fields and pastures. Adverb[edit] around Robin Hood's barn (not comparable) (idiomatic) the long way around; a roundabout or circuitous route(idiomatic) all over the place See also[edit]

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