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There's More to Life Than Being Happy - Emily Esfahani Smith

There's More to Life Than Being Happy - Emily Esfahani Smith
"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness." In September 1942, Viktor Frankl, a prominent Jewish psychiatrist and neurologist in Vienna, was arrested and transported to a Nazi concentration camp with his wife and parents. Three years later, when his camp was liberated, most of his family, including his pregnant wife, had perished -- but he, prisoner number 119104, had lived. In his bestselling 1946 book, Man's Search for Meaning, which he wrote in nine days about his experiences in the camps, Frankl concluded that the difference between those who had lived and those who had died came down to one thing: Meaning, an insight he came to early in life. When he was a high school student, one of his science teachers declared to the class, "Life is nothing more than a combustion process, a process of oxidation." As he saw in the camps, those who found meaning even in the most horrendous circumstances were far more resilient to suffering than those who did not. As Anna S. Related:  On Being HumanPsychology

Meaning Is Healthier Than Happiness - Emily Esfahani Smith Health People who are happy but have little-to-no sense of meaning in their lives have the same gene expression patterns as people who are enduring chronic adversity. Please consider disabling it for our site, or supporting our work in one of these ways Subscribe Now > For at least the last decade, the happiness craze has been building. One of the consistent claims of books like these is that happiness is associated with all sorts of good life outcomes, including — most promisingly — good health. But a new study, just published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS) challenges the rosy picture. Of course, it’s important to first define happiness. It seems strange that there would be a difference at all. "Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desire are easily satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided," the authors of the study wrote.

Online disinhibition effect The online disinhibition effect is a loosening (or complete abandonment) of social restrictions and inhibitions that would otherwise be present in normal face-to-face interaction during interactions with others on the Internet. This effect is caused by many factors, including dissociative anonymity, invisibility, asynchronicity, solipsistic introjection, dissociative imagination, and minimization of authority.[1] General concept[edit] Because of this loss of inhibition, some users may exhibit benign tendencies, including becoming more affectionate, more willing to open up to others, and less guarded about emotions, all in an attempt to achieve emotional catharsis. With respect to bad behavior, users on the Internet can frequently do or say as they wish without fear of any kind of meaningful reprisal. CB radio during the 1970s saw similar bad behavior: You don't know me[edit] You can't see me[edit] Core Concept: Invisibility See you later[edit] Core Concept: Asynchronicity See also[edit]

1 Technique To GUARANTEE You Will NEVER Be Rejected By Women - Attraction Institute | Attraction Institute I’ve seen quite a few emails from other dating companies recently giving out FOOLPROOF methods for eliminating the possibility of a woman EVER rejecting you. Frankly, they’re all shit. So, to make sure you get the right information rather than some voodoo magic trick to hypnotise women into becoming your dirty sex slaves… …I thought I’d give you the truth about how to avoid rejection from women. So here it is: The 1 technique that will guarantee that you will NEVER be rejected by a woman again, is: Never talk to a woman again. Seriously. That’s the only way. There’s no other way. If you plan on talking to any women over the course of your life, eventually, you’re going to meet one who isn’t attracted to you. There’s no set of lines, routines, techniques, structures, methods, or tactics that will prevent a woman from saying ‘No.’ None. Anyone who says there is a magic formula for avoiding rejection is trying to sell you snake oil. There’s no logic to it. Women are human beings. Foolproof! 1. 2.

3-step 'Fit for Purpose' Team Exercise The end of any year is a great time to take a pause to acknowledge and celebrate all you have achieved this year. No doubt plans for doing just that are already under way! End of year is also a great time to fertilize the environment in which everyone will be ‘producing’ high performance next year. Planting a few seeds now for later is great fun, and also a very intelligent move for any team wanting to hit the ground running in the new year. If you work in a team environment take some time to explore your ‘fitness for purpose’ with this 3-step exercise. Even if you work on your own you can modify these steps to help you ‘be on your own team’ even more! TEAM FERTILIZER: ‘Fit for Purpose’ 3-STEP REVIEW STEP ONE: Get together (in a relaxed environment) and ask yourselves the following questions: Are we currently fit for purpose? STEP TWO: Add PVV (Purpose, Vision and Values) of the team/organization to the discussion. What do we do? STEP THREE: CLARIFY DESIRED FEELING STATES- it’s personal!

Happiness report - Women's Health Magazine Getty Images A report conducted by Deakin University, in conjunction with Australian Unity, has uncovered the essential ingredients needed for happiness and it’s good news for your mum. Yep, the researchers found women tend to be more content with their lives than their male counterparts, while happiness for both genders increases with age. When it comes to living quarters, those who’ve shacked up with a partner rate higher on the cheery scale, as do people who volunteer. Bad news on the finance front, the report also found happiness usually rises proportionally with household income of around $100,000. Confused? Gender Overall, women are the happier sex. Health Finances When it comes to love, it seems being hit by cupid’s arrow really does pay. Love and relationships People who’ve tied the knot are just as happy as de facto couples that own a home together. A note for singletons? Also worth a mention: Wellbeing amongst Aussies spiked after terrorist attacks, including September 11.

What Writing Has in Common With Happiness By Heart is a series in which authors share and discuss their all-time favorite passages in literature. See entries from Jonathan Franzen, Amy Tan, Khaled Hosseini, and more. The final line of an enigmatic Jorge Luis Borges poem became the title for Yasmina Reza's latest book, Happy Are the Happy. For Reza, Borges’ poem suggests that happiness, which people tend to talk about as achievable and context-dependent, is dispensed more mysteriously than we like to think. In our conversation for this series, we discussed the ways contentment transcends our understanding—and how works of literature, too, are more than what their authors understand them to be. Happy Are the Happy features 18 different narrators, each of whom gets to command the reader's attention for at least one chapter. Reza’s books—novels, plays, and an unorthodox book-length profile of Nicolas Sarkozy—have been translated into more than 30 languages. She lives in Paris and spoke to me in New York City. And we can never know.

Picasso, Kepler, and the Benefits of Being an Expert Generalist One thing that separates the great innovators from everyone else is that they seem to know a lot about a wide variety of topics. They are expert generalists. Their wide knowledge base supports their creativity. As it turns out, there are two personality traits that are key for expert generalists: Openness to Experience and Need for Cognition. Openness to Experience is one of the Big Five personality characteristics identified by psychologists. As you might expect, high levels of Openness to Experience can sometimes be related to creativity. However, creativity also requires knowledge. If you are not willing to do something new, then it’s hard to be creative. At the same time, creativity often requires drawing analogies between one body of knowledge and another. In order to have deep knowledge about a discipline as well as a wide base of knowledge that can be mined later for analogies, it is important for someone to enjoy thinking. How About You?

The lesson you never got taught in school: How to learn! | Neurobonkers A paper published in Psychological Science in the Public Interest evaluated ten techniques for improving learning, ranging from mnemonics to highlighting and came to some surprising conclusions. The report is quite a heavy document so I’ve summarised the techniques below based on the conclusions of the report regarding effectiveness of each technique. Be aware that everyone thinks they have their own style of learning (they don't, according to the latest research), and the evidence suggests that just because a technique works or does not work for other people does not necessarily mean it will or won’t work well for you. If you want to know how to revise or learn most effectively you will still want to experiment on yourself a little with each technique before writing any of them off. Elaborative Interrogation (Rating = moderate) A method involving creating explanations for why stated facts are true. An example of elaborative interrogation for the above paragraph could be: Reference:

The Three Qualities of People I Most Enjoy Working With | Jeff W. Happiness is a choice “How do you know if someone is happy?" my 10-year-old blurted out on a recent quiet drive to school. I took the parental lazy way out — ahem — opportunity to turn it around on him. "How do YOU know when someone is happy?" He looked at me with the most adorable face and said forcefully "It's hard to tell if someone is really happy or not. Oh boy. "Honey," I responded, "happiness is not a specific look. I wanted to go on to inform him that happiness isn't the destination, it's the way of travel. But, he's 10. I asked him "What makes you happy?" He pauses for several seconds. While staring out the window, he says almost in a whisper: "I'm happy when I help people and when people are good to me. About 30 seconds pass and he opens up again. "Sweetness, those words are more true than you know," I said to him. I adore the fact that he gets this at such a young age, but life doesn't always bless you with knowledge and the ability to implement that knowledge at the same time.

Kierkegaard on Our Greatest Source of Unhappiness by Maria Popova Hope, memory, and how our chronic compulsion to flee from our own lives robs us of living. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives,” Annie Dillard memorably wrote in reflecting on why presence matters more than productivity. “On how one orients himself to the moment depends the failure or fruitfulness of it,” Henry Miller asserted in his beautiful meditation on the art of living. And yet we spend our lives fleeing from the present moment, constantly occupying ourselves with overplanning the future or recoiling with anxiety over its impermanence, thus invariably robbing ourselves of the vibrancy of aliveness. Kierkegaard, who was only thirty at the time, begins with an observation all the timelier today, amidst our culture of busy-as-a-badge-of-honor: Of all ridiculous things the most ridiculous seems to me, to be busy — to be a man who is brisk about his food and his work. The unhappy one is absent. Consider first the hoping individual. Donating = Loving

Why indigenous and racialized struggles will always be appendixed by the left Inspired by artists, academics and activist colleagues who have rolled their eyes at the spiritual beliefs of their Indigenous counterparts as well as protested the inclusion of prayer and ceremony into political, academic and artistic activities, I have decided to share my thinking on some fundamental differences in values and knowledge ways that impede relationship-making across our communities. While I can't generalize about what Indigenous or other racialized peoples mean by the words "decolonization", anti-racist or "anti-colonial", I can certainly observe how SOME philosophies and action strategies employed in leftist movements relegate anti-colonial and anti-racist struggles to the periphery. Furthermore, concepts of "decolonization", as they are talked about in many Indigenous and other racialized communities, are not always compatible with what are essentially Eurocentric philosophies and actions strategies. That isn't to say that glasses can't ever be useful.

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