Emotional Intelligence: The Social Skills You Weren't Taught in School Leadership and EQ - RealTime Leadership In the past, it might have been true that leaders could succeed simply because they were smart. But that’s no longer all it takes. While technical skills remain important, our emotional intelligence (referred to as EQ or EI) is just as important as our IQ. Daniel Goleman, a thought-leader on the topic of EI, says this about emotional intelligence: “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” Although it takes some effort to improve or enhance our EQ, the end results – better relationships, as well as a higher potential for personal and professional success – are worth it. Self-awareness: • Name your emotions as you experience them. • Take note of your inner dialogue. Understanding and accessing our EI requires practice.
How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? Here's How To Tell What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, but they don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success. Plato said that all learning has some emotional basis, and he may be right. "What having emotional intelligence looks like is that you're confident, good at working towards your goals, adaptable and flexible. The five components of emotional intelligence, as defined by Goleman, are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, social skills and empathy. Not sure how emotionally intelligent you are? 1. Do you love meeting new people, and naturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've been introduced to someone? Being curious about others is also a way to cultivate empathy. 2. Exceptional leaders often have one thing in common, according to Goleman. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.
How to Be Emotionally Intelligent Photo What makes a great leader? Knowledge, smarts and vision, to be sure. Realistic self-confidence: You understand your own strengths and limitations; you operate from competence and know when to rely on someone else on the team. Emotional insight: You understand your feelings. Resilience: You stay calm under pressure and recover quickly from upsets. Emotional balance: You keep any distressful feelings in check — instead of blowing up at people, you let them know what’s wrong and what the solution is. Self-motivation: You keep moving toward distant goals despite setbacks. Cognitive and emotional empathy: Because you understand other perspectives, you can put things in ways colleagues comprehend. Good listening: You pay full attention to the other person and take time to understand what they are saying, without talking over them or hijacking the agenda. Compelling communication: You put your points in persuasive, clear ways so that people are motivated as well as clear about expectations.
Leading With Heart Centred Emotional Intelligence - Dee Harding | The Coaching Academy Blog Dee Harding asks – what has heart-centred emotional intelligence got to do with leadership? “Emotional Intelligence is more important than IQ in almost every role and many times more important in leadership roles” – Steve Covey Our ever changing world requires a new kind of thinking about what it takes to be an inspiring leader. The attributes traditionally considered necessary to be an effective leader are no longer enough. The truly outstanding leader in the 21 century must also have also a high degree of heart centred emotional intelligence. It was Daniel Goleman, who first brought and applied the concept of emotional intelligence to leadership. You need it but it doesn’t make you a star. What sets star performers apart from average performers, aren’t the technical skills or a high IQ but good communication and people skills. A fundamental change in work place organisations is taking place. What is heart centred emotional intelligence? Competencies of emotional intelligence 3.) 4.)
Being Human Creates Higher Returns It seems odd to think that business leaders are just now recognizing that their business results have a direct correlation to the organizations ability to think, act, speak and feel in human terms. Yet instead of measuring the organizations human abilities leaders still focus on measuring, thinking and chasing outcomes in financial terms. Consider what business has done as a result of social technology. For most instead of looking at the enhanced human dynamics created with the technology they have merely made it a tool to extend marketing efforts. Instead of using the technology to enrich their company’s culture they have restricted the use of it at work. It is no wonder corporations have lost credibility with people. As humans we enjoy lots of freedoms and the greatest of all is choice, or used to be. We are free to think, feel, act and speak unless we choose to use such things to cause undo harm onto others then our freedoms become reckless. An 11-year study by John P.
Signs That You Lack Emotional Intelligence Executive Summary Often, emotional intelligence is the key differentiator between a star performer and the rest of the pack, yet many never embrace the skill for themselves. Do you think being liked at work is overrated? Are you surprised when others are offended by your comments, and do you feel like they’re overreacting? You might be lacking in emotional intelligence, but there are strategies to help you improve. A critical component of emotional intelligence is self-awareness, so get feedback to help you understand what your problematic behaviors are. In my ten years as an executive coach, I have never had someone raise his hand and declare that he needs to work on his emotional intelligence. Take Craig (not his real name), a coaching client of mine, who showed tremendous potential and a strong ability to drive results for his company. Here are some of the telltale signs that you need to work on your emotional intelligence: So what do you do if you recognized yourself in this list?
Intelligence is Overrated: What You Really Need to Succeed « Talesfromthelou's Blog –by Keld Jensen, Original Story, May 05, 2012 Albert Einstein’s was estimated at 160, Madonna’s is 140, and John F. Kennedy’s was only 119, but as it turns out, your IQ score pales in comparison with your EQ, MQ, and BQ scores when it comes to predicting your success and professional achievement. IQ tests are used as an indicator of logical reasoning ability and technical intelligence. A high IQ is often a prerequisite for rising to the top ranks of business today. It is necessary, but it is not adequate to predict executive competence and corporate success. Research carried out by the Carnegie Institute of Technology shows that 85 percent of your financial success is due to skills in “human engineering,” your personality and ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead. Emotional Intelligence Top Tip for Improvement: First, become aware of your inner dialogue. Moral Intelligence MQ directly follows EQ as it deals with your integrity, responsibility, sympathy, and forgiveness. Like this:
Something’s fishy You open an email containing an unfamiliar link. If the email is from a friend, chances are you'll open it. But if it's from a stranger, you'll probably assume it's a virus or, at best, annoying spam. Our most basic everyday decisions rely on trust. On the other hand, there are plenty of reasons to be distrustful, says Ruth Mayo, PhD, a psychologist at the Hebrew University in Jerusalem. As scientists study this essential facet of our lives, they're learning that trust — and its skeptical stepsister distrust — can influence our behavior and cognition in ways good, bad and surprising. Have less, trust more Most people equate trust with integrity, says David DeSteno, PhD, a social psychologist at Northeastern University and author of the upcoming book "The Truth About Trust." At its essence, trust is about opening yourself to others. That position of weakness is precisely what allows society to function, says Paul Piff, PhD, a social psychologist at the University of California, Berkeley.