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Stephen Covey on Developing Emotional Intelligence

Stephen Covey on Developing Emotional Intelligence
“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ? Oscar Wilde Emotional Intelligence is essentially an ability, capacity, or skill to assess, manage, and regulate the emotions of yourself and others. Why is emotional intelligence such a big deal? … If you can’t manage your emotions, you crumble or snap under stress. If you can’t tune into others’ emotions and demonstrate empathy, you’ll have a hard time connecting with others. Yeah, emotional intelligence is a big deal. It’s a key for leaders and it’s a key for leadership. “”No one cares how much you know until they first know how much you care about them.” In the book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness, Stephen Covey acknowledges that there’s a lack of literature on how to develop emotional intelligence, and shares an approach for how to develop emotional intelligence using the 7 Habits. The Five Primary Components of Emotional Intelligence The 7 Habits and Principles Related:  Emotional Intelligenceintelligent emotionsemotional intelligence

How to Be Emotionally Intelligent Photo What makes a great leader? Knowledge, smarts and vision, to be sure. Realistic self-confidence: You understand your own strengths and limitations; you operate from competence and know when to rely on someone else on the team. Emotional insight: You understand your feelings. Resilience: You stay calm under pressure and recover quickly from upsets. Emotional balance: You keep any distressful feelings in check — instead of blowing up at people, you let them know what’s wrong and what the solution is. Self-motivation: You keep moving toward distant goals despite setbacks. Cognitive and emotional empathy: Because you understand other perspectives, you can put things in ways colleagues comprehend. Good listening: You pay full attention to the other person and take time to understand what they are saying, without talking over them or hijacking the agenda. Compelling communication: You put your points in persuasive, clear ways so that people are motivated as well as clear about expectations.

Intelligence is Overrated: What You Really Need to Succeed « Talesfromthelou's Blog –by Keld Jensen, Original Story, May 05, 2012 Albert Einstein’s was estimated at 160, Madonna’s is 140, and John F. Kennedy’s was only 119, but as it turns out, your IQ score pales in comparison with your EQ, MQ, and BQ scores when it comes to predicting your success and professional achievement. IQ tests are used as an indicator of logical reasoning ability and technical intelligence. A high IQ is often a prerequisite for rising to the top ranks of business today. It is necessary, but it is not adequate to predict executive competence and corporate success. Research carried out by the Carnegie Institute of Technology shows that 85 percent of your financial success is due to skills in “human engineering,” your personality and ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead. Emotional Intelligence Top Tip for Improvement: First, become aware of your inner dialogue. Moral Intelligence MQ directly follows EQ as it deals with your integrity, responsibility, sympathy, and forgiveness. Like this:

Leadership and EQ - RealTime Leadership In the past, it might have been true that leaders could succeed simply because they were smart. But that’s no longer all it takes. While technical skills remain important, our emotional intelligence (referred to as EQ or EI) is just as important as our IQ. Daniel Goleman, a thought-leader on the topic of EI, says this about emotional intelligence: “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” Although it takes some effort to improve or enhance our EQ, the end results – better relationships, as well as a higher potential for personal and professional success – are worth it. Self-awareness: • Name your emotions as you experience them. • Take note of your inner dialogue. Understanding and accessing our EI requires practice.

Emotional self-regulation Emotional self-regulation or regulation of emotion is the ability to respond to the ongoing demands of experience with the range of emotions in a manner that is socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible to permit spontaneous reactions as well as the ability to delay spontaneous reactions as needed.[1] It can also be defined as extrinsic and intrinsic processes responsible for monitoring, evaluating, and modifying emotional reactions.[2] Emotion self-regulation belongs to the broader set of emotion-regulation processes, which includes the regulation of one's own feelings and the regulation of other people's feelings.[3] Theory[edit] Process model[edit] The process model of emotion regulation is based upon the modal model of emotion. Because an emotional response (4.) can cause changes to a situation (1.), this model involves a feedback loop from (4.) The process model contends that each of these four points in the emotion generation process can be subjected to regulation. Worry[edit]

Forbes Welcome As the bestselling coauthor of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, I’m often asked to break down what emotional intelligence is and why it’s so important. Here goes… Emotional Intelligence Is the Other Kind of Smart. When emotional intelligence first appeared to the masses in 1995, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70% of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into what many people had always assumed was the sole source of success—IQ. Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. Personal competence is made up of your self-awareness and self-management skills, which focus more on you individually than on your interactions with other people. Self-Awareness is your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen. Social Awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on.

Signs That You Lack Emotional Intelligence Executive Summary Often, emotional intelligence is the key differentiator between a star performer and the rest of the pack, yet many never embrace the skill for themselves. Do you think being liked at work is overrated? Are you surprised when others are offended by your comments, and do you feel like they’re overreacting? You might be lacking in emotional intelligence, but there are strategies to help you improve. A critical component of emotional intelligence is self-awareness, so get feedback to help you understand what your problematic behaviors are. In my ten years as an executive coach, I have never had someone raise his hand and declare that he needs to work on his emotional intelligence. Take Craig (not his real name), a coaching client of mine, who showed tremendous potential and a strong ability to drive results for his company. Here are some of the telltale signs that you need to work on your emotional intelligence: So what do you do if you recognized yourself in this list?

Leading With Heart Centred Emotional Intelligence - Dee Harding | The Coaching Academy Blog Dee Harding asks – what has heart-centred emotional intelligence got to do with leadership? “Emotional Intelligence is more important than IQ in almost every role and many times more important in leadership roles” – Steve Covey Our ever changing world requires a new kind of thinking about what it takes to be an inspiring leader. The attributes traditionally considered necessary to be an effective leader are no longer enough. The truly outstanding leader in the 21 century must also have also a high degree of heart centred emotional intelligence. It was Daniel Goleman, who first brought and applied the concept of emotional intelligence to leadership. You need it but it doesn’t make you a star. What sets star performers apart from average performers, aren’t the technical skills or a high IQ but good communication and people skills. A fundamental change in work place organisations is taking place. What is heart centred emotional intelligence? Competencies of emotional intelligence 3.) 4.)

Leading With Heart Centred Emotional Intelligence - Dee Harding | The Coaching Academy Blog Dee Harding asks – what has heart-centred emotional intelligence got to do with leadership? “Emotional Intelligence is more important than IQ in almost every role and many times more important in leadership roles” – Steve Covey Our ever changing world requires a new kind of thinking about what it takes to be an inspiring leader. The attributes traditionally considered necessary to be an effective leader are no longer enough. The truly outstanding leader in the 21 century must also have also a high degree of heart centred emotional intelligence. It was Daniel Goleman, who first brought and applied the concept of emotional intelligence to leadership. You need it but it doesn’t make you a star. What sets star performers apart from average performers, aren’t the technical skills or a high IQ but good communication and people skills. A fundamental change in work place organisations is taking place. What is heart centred emotional intelligence? Competencies of emotional intelligence 3.) 4.)

Do You Recognize These 7 Tricks Your Mind Is Playing on You? So, you want to change your life and be happier? Maybe happiness means unlocking your greater potential, enhancing your quality of life, or realizing your lifelong dreams. By now you may have absorbed countless personal development books, videos, or blogs. Sometimes you find something that resonates but the excitement constantly fades. Too often, you feel like you’re back right where you started. Lost. Have you ever considered that your own mind is sabotaging your path to happiness? But all is not lost. From now on, I’m going to do my best. We’ve been conditioned to believe that when we want to make an important change, we have to take a huge leap. You feel like a failure. It’s important to remember that the change you want requires time, persistence, and patience. I just need to be more like… It’s normal to think that you should strive to be like those you admire. By all means, learn what you can from your role models and adapt or modify ideas to fit you. Learn to trust yourself.

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