Enneagram Test These two online Enneagram tests help you to determine which personality type you are. Your wing will also be indicated. Some suggestions on how to take the tests to get the most accurate results can be found below. Classical enneagram test This test consists of pages containing nine questions or less (one for each Enneagram type). Enneagram test with instinctual variant With this test you are presented with pairs of character traits to rate. Getting accurate results from these Enneagram tests It's important to answer the questions honestly. Actually it is not so easy to answer the questions honestly, as we all want to see ourselves as better than we are, and we often have preconceived ideas about ourselves that are not really true. For instance, if you resent being fearful, you might have worked to develop courage to compensate, but the fear is still there beneath the surface.
15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? 1. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. 2. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. “By letting it go it all gets done. 3. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. 4. Oh my. “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. 5. 6.
Top 10 Thinking Traps Exposed Our minds set up many traps for us. Unless we’re aware of them, these traps can seriously hinder our ability to think rationally, leading us to bad reasoning and making stupid decisions. Features of our minds that are meant to help us may, eventually, get us into trouble. Here are the first 5 of the most harmful of these traps and how to avoid each one of them. 1. “Is the population of Turkey greater than 35 million? Lesson: Your starting point can heavily bias your thinking: initial impressions, ideas, estimates or data “anchor” subsequent thoughts. This trap is particularly dangerous as it’s deliberately used in many occasions, such as by experienced salesmen, who will show you a higher-priced item first, “anchoring” that price in your mind, for example. What can you do about it? Always view a problem from different perspectives. 2. In one experiment a group of people were randomly given one of two gifts — half received a decorated mug, the other half a large Swiss chocolate bar. 3. 4.
the 9 don'ts of dealing with anger "For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness." Ralph Waldo Emerson Okay, I'm not probably not the best person to be writing this post, considering it was just yesterday in therapy that I started to deal with my own "anger issues," but, hey, I figure I can probably learn something from whatever ideas come to mind. I know anger seems like a pretty negative topic and you're probably wondering why I'm writing about it on this site, but it's actually really important because how can you live a positive life when you're angry all the time? Nine Don'ts of Dealing with Anger Don't take everything personally. Anger is something we all have to deal with at some point (unless you are the most mellow person in the world, in which case I can't say that I understand you at all).
40 Lessons for Finding Strength in Hard Times post written by: Marc Chernoff Sometimes you have to die a little on the inside first in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger, smarter version of yourself. Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities for growth and happiness. Over the past five years Angel and I have dealt with several hardships, including the sudden death of a sibling, the loss of a best friend to illness, betrayal from a business partner, and an unexpected (breadwinning) employment layoff. Here are some lessons we’ve learned along the way: You are not what happened to you in the past. – No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. Photo by: Chris Schoenbohm If you enjoyed this article, check out our new best-selling book. And get inspiring life tips and quotes in your inbox (it's free)...
60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days. Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days. Home 1. Day 1: Declutter MagazinesDay 2: Declutter DVD’sDay 3: Declutter booksDay 4: Declutter kitchen appliances 2. If you take it out, put it back.If you open it, close it.If you throw it down, pick it up.If you take it off, hang it up. 3. A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out. Happiness 4. 5. 6. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? 7. Learning/Personal Development 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.
Partially Examined Life Podcast - More Hegel on Self Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 1:31:54 — 84.1MB) Part 2 of our discussion of G.F.W. Hegel’s “Phenomenology of Spirit,” covering sections 178-230 within section B, “Self-Consciousness.” Part 1 is here. First, Hegel’s famous “master and slave” parable, whereby we only become fully self-conscious by meeting up with another person, who (at least in primordial times, or maybe this happens to everyone as they grow up, or maybe this is all just happening in one person’s head… who the hell knows given the wacky way Hegel talks)? Then the story leads into stoicism, skepticism, and the “unhappy consciousness” (i.e. Buy the peach translation by A.V. or read this online translation by Terry Pinkard. End song: “I Die Desire,” by Mark Lint and the Fake from the album So Whaddaya Think? by
6 TIps to Tame Negative Thoughts for a Less Limited Life “You are your choices.” ~Seneca Lately I‘ve been feeling a bit down in the dumps. A few things have happened at work to make me feel like nothing’s going my way. I’m guessing that pretty much everyone experiences weeks like this from time to time. This has been my life for the past few weeks. And my initial reaction was to feel sorry for myself. And then like a lightening strike out of the blue, amidst my dark cloud of pity I had an epiphany: I have a choice. Instead of reacting in a way that renders me helpless, I have the choice to pick myself up, dust myself off, and turn those negative thoughts into positive ones. When it comes to filtering our thoughts, even though at times it may not feel like it, we do have a choice. Just because some of our thoughts are negative doesn’t mean we have to listen to them. Did you know that our brains produce 70,000 thoughts every single day? In fact we actively “filter” our thoughts pretty much all the time. The truth is, you are not your thoughts. 1. 2.
Personality Types Under Stress Personality Types Under Stress - INTP, INTJ, INFP, INFJ INTPs lack follow-through and this can isolate their ideas from practical examination. Their notions become over-intellectualized and too abstract to be of practical benefit. With their sharp critical thinking and analytical abilities, INTPs tend to nit-pick, hair-split, and generally overdo simple issues. Their desire for accuracy and precision exacerbates any error they may perceive in themselves or in others - they are, in other words, highly self-critical. If stress continues, the INTP's mind seems to freeze and block out the vital information it has worked so hard to accumulate. INTJs' precision thinking and need for accuracy causes them to be inflexible at times. When stress increases, the INTJ can become argumentative and disagreeable. INFPs feel internal turmoil when they find themselves in situations in which there is conflict between their inner code of ethics and their relationships with others.
47 Ways to Love Yourself Better Than You Do Right Now – TheOrganicSister freeplaylife photography We give and we love and we ask for love in return. We wait and we hurt when the people around us don’t show up…or only show us their messy side. And we forget. We forget that we can give to ourselves. We forget that we need to. My mama posted something on Facebook last week that brought tears to my eyes… “When I was single for YEARS, I used to buy myself flowers on Valentines Day. THIS is it! And dammit, let’s all starting being in a loving, committed, generous relationship with OURSELVES! Be in a relationship with your passion, your voice, your style, your purpose, your curiosity, your kindness, your self-discovery, your growth, your experiences. Let’s shower ourselves with the things we need, the things that light us up, so that we can SHINE and THRIVE! Let’s spread THAT around! Clients ask me how to love themselves better all the time. This is just SOME ideas. Because, sweetheart, you’re worth all that and more. Is this speaking your language?
How Other People’s Unspoken Expectations Control Us We quickly sense how others view us and play up to these expectations. A good exercise for learning about yourself is to think about how other people might view you in different ways. Consider how your family, your work colleagues or your partner think of you. Now here’s an interesting question: to what extent do you play up to these expectations about how they view you? This idea that other people’s expectations about us directly affect how we behave was examined in a classic social psychology study carried out by Dr Mark Snyder from the University of Minnesota and colleagues (Snyder et al., 1977). Feeling the attraction To test this in the context of interpersonal attraction they had male students hold conversations with female students they’d just met through microphones and headsets. So to manipulate this, just before the conversation, along with biographical information about the person they were going to meet, the men were given a photograph. Changing others’ behaviour
INTJ Relationships INTJs believe in constant growth in relationships, and strive for independence for themselves and their mates. They are constantly embarking on "fix-up" projects to improve the overall quality of their lives and relationships. They take their commitments seriously, but are open to redefining their vows, if they see something which may prove to be an improvement over the existing understanding. INTJs are not likely to be "touchy-feely" and overly affirming with their mates or children, and may at times be somewhat insensitive to their emotional needs. However, INTJs are in general extremely capable and intelligent individuals who strive to always be their best, and be moving in a positive direction. INTJs live much of their lives inside their own heads. INTJs are not naturally in tune with their own feelings, or with what other people are feeling. Sexually, the INTJ enjoys thinking about intimacy, and about ways to perfect it. Many INTJs believe that they are always right.
10 Commandments for a Good Life Email A good life is when you assume nothing, do more, need less, smile often and realize how fortunate you are right now. It’s about the simple pleasures that make you happy, the compassionate deeds you perform, the personal goals you strive to achieve, the relationships you nurture and the legacy you leave behind. So starting today, choose to take control. Here are ten commandments to help you live a good life. And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. I. Think of how many things don’t get done in this world simply because people are waiting for the perfect time, place and circumstance. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. ll. No matter what you do or how you do it, there will always be people that disagree with what you’re doing. And remember, it doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it, it matters how many people do. III. This could be anything. IV. Set priorities for yourself and act accordingly. It’s the only way to turn a dream into a reality. V. VI. X.