Effective Consequences for Teenagers
If you’re having trouble giving effective consequences to your teen, know that you are not alone. Many parents tell me that nothing seems to work, and that coming up with the right thing for their child can seem like an impossible task. If you’re the parent of an adolescent, you may have grounded your child, taken away their video games, or suspended their driving privileges for months on end. But as James Lehman says, you can’t punish kids into acceptable behavior—it just doesn’t work that way. “You can’t punish kids into acceptable behavior.” Rather, an effective consequence should encourage your child to change his behavior — whether that is abiding by the house rules, or treating people respectfully. For example, if your child swears when she doesn’t get her way, you want her to behave more appropriately. Let’s break this down according to The Total Transformation Program: Effective consequences are ones that are connected to the original behavior and are both task- and time-specific.
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