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Screw Finding Your Passion

Screw Finding Your Passion
Remember back when you were a kid? You would just do things. You never thought to yourself, “What are the relative merits of learning baseball versus football?” You just ran around the playground and played baseball and football. You built sand castles and played tag and asked silly questions and looked for bugs and dug up grass and pretended you were a sewer monster. Nobody told you to do it, you just did it. And the beautiful thing was, if you hated baseball, you just stopped playing it. And if you loved looking for bugs, you just did that. There was no bullshit. Today I received approximately the 11,504th email this year from a person telling me that they don’t know what to do with their life. And of course, I didn’t respond. But more importantly, what I want to say to these people is this: that’s the whole point — “not knowing” is the whole fucking point. The common complaint among a lot of these people is that they need to ‘find their passion.’ I call bullshit. It’s priorities.


Does Trying to Be Happy Make Us Unhappy? Does Trying to Be Happy Make Us Unhappy? As we muddle through our days, the quest for happiness looms large. In the U.S., citizens are granted three inalienable rights: life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. The kingdom of Bhutan created a national index to measure happiness. The Most Important Question of Your Life Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room. Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that. If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything. A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life?

How to Find Your Purpose and Do What You Love “Find something more important than you are,” philosopher Dan Dennett once said in discussing the secret of happiness, “and dedicate your life to it.” But how, exactly, do we find that? Surely, it isn’t by luck. I myself am a firm believer in the power of curiosity and choice as the engine of fulfillment, but precisely how you arrive at your true calling is an intricate and highly individual dance of discovery. Still, there are certain factors — certain choices — that make it easier. 52 things I learned in 2015 52 things I learned in 2015 This year I got an amazing new job (at Fluxx) and continue to be surprised by the amount of things still to be learned in the world. $8 pizza tastes 11% better than $4 pizza, even when the pizza is the same. How to Survive a Long Distance Relationship Long distance relationships are the worst. “Is he/she worth waiting for? Are they feeling the same way I do?” “Am I kidding myself thinking this can work?”

Can this simple trick make YOU better at your job? The dreaded mid-afternoon slump at work can often leave you feeling uninterested and demotivated. But what if a quick and simple routine could perk you up, increase your energy and reduce your stress levels in less than the time it takes to eat your lunch? Experts are convinced they've devised just that with the WIN routine - a two-step sequence designed to slot into even the busiest of days. Do you hit a 3pm slump and find it hard to get back on track? Experts have devised a simple 'win routine' they say could perk you up, increase your energy and reduce your stress levels in less than the time it takes to eat your lunch Experts at the Almond Board of California have teamed up with three experts in the fields of mindfulness, yoga and nutrition to create the WIN (wellness, inspiration and nutrition) sequence; a 15-minute routine they say delivers peace of mind, muscle relieving exercises and a nutrient boost in just two simple steps.

How I Became A Morning Person, Read More Books, And Learned A Language In A Year You’ll notice that I made the title of this post sound quite impressive (at least I hope I did!). But the great thing about this story is that anyone can have such an impressive outcome, and it’s not at all as daunting as it might sound. In fact, all these outcomes came from doing small things every day over a long period. I’m a big fan of working smarter, not harder and finding small ways to make my work more efficient. As I became Buffer’s first content crafter about two years ago, I got the chance to explore these topics quite a lot. Now I’m excited to be back to show you exactly how I came by these wins in 2015. The Guide to Strong Boundaries This post is long overdue. Since I wrote Models: Attract Women Through Honesty and mentioned the importance of maintaining strong personal boundaries, people have been asking me what boundaries actually are, what they look like, how to build them and maintain them, do they help that much, are they that important, do they stop your girlfriend from farting too much in her sleep, where are my keys, have you seen my keys, where are my damn keys? PSA: Setting strong personal boundaries are not a cure-all for your relationship woes (or your lost keys). In fact, they’re more of a side effect of having a healthy self-esteem and a general low level of neediness with people around you. Boundaries work both ways: they create emotional health and are created by people with emotional health.

10 Things You Need To Do To "Find Yourself" (For People Who Have Never Really Understood What That Means) You need to know who you are. Not because I say so, not because it's the trend-of-the-day to be self-aware (though it should be), but because you need to know who you are beyond how other people see you. If you don't, you'll live your life blowing paychecks on trends, toiling hours away in fitness classes and early Friday evening social gatherings you never wanted to be at in the first place, all while feeling this lingering sense of dissatisfaction. Why You Should Wait Five Minutes Before You React - Motto A few years ago I used to be a hothead. Whenever anyone said anything, I’d think of a way to disagree. I’d push back hard if something didn’t fit my world-view.