How to Overcome Sexual Repression ⋆ LonerWolf When was the last time you experienced a fierce throb burn in your loins and travel through your body like electricity? When did you last experience intense desire and passion consume you like wildfire? If you’re experiencing sexual repression your answer will probably be “once in a blue moon,” or perhaps even “NEVER.” Fortunately, you are not alone. Examining Your Erotic Wound Before we get to the meaty part about how to deal with your sexual repression, it’s really important that you examine the source of your discomfort with all things s-e-x. Where did your erotic wound – that part of you which is innately sexual – begin? For most of us, our erotic wounds began in early childhood. The reality is that most of us received a poor education about sex, and many of us were even shamed, punished or rejected as children whenever we touched our genitals or played “doctor” with other kids. Examples of sexual repression in your family may include: Other reasons for the erotic wound include: 1. 2.
Shame – The Scary but Rewarding Journey of Working Through Your Shadows – Mariah Freya Do you love uncomfortable moments so that you can work through your shit? Most people don’t. By the way, shit here stands for: emotional shadow, shame, fear, guilt, worries and other scary emotions. I know a few folks (but in my experience that’s a rare species :-)) who love, seek or even put themselves voluntarily into uncomfortable situations so that they can work through their own stuff quicker. How do you love and accept yourself and let go of shame and guilt? That’s one of the questions me and my dear friend Amitayus are asking in this week’s podcast episode. This is for you if you no longer want to swallow your shame down and draw the poison in, but instead want to transform and alchemize it into love. In this episode, we go into detail about: What are the different facets of shame? Links and resources mentioned: meetamitayus.com Thank you for listening to my show
The Effect Of Stress And Trauma On Female Sexuality | The Huffington Post I’m a fan of the podcast “On Being” and it’s host Krista Tippettt. I listen to them while I walk in the woods. Krista has introduced me to so many new ideas and it was on one such walk, that this sex educator that specializes in the needs of women met Dr. Rachel Yehuda and the brand new science of “Epigenetics.” Listening to this podcast was alike a bolt of lightening coming down from the sky. So, yes, stressful experiences like trauma get lodged in our bodies and effect us. The studies have focused on sub-groups that have suffered traumatic effects such as 9/11 survivors, veterans, indigenous people and the survivors of the Holocaust. Why aren’t we studying this legacy of generational trauma in one of the biggest groups of long-term trauma in the world — women? Approximately one half (50 percent) of all individuals will be exposed to at least one traumatic event in their lifetime. I believe in the message of taking your trauma forward and using it positively. Earlier on Huff/Post50:
7 Unique Ways to Transform Sexual Trauma into Orgasmic Bliss About Me Beth is a visionary coach, speaker, author, shamanic and holistic health practitioner with close to a decade of experience transforming people’s lives. She holds a BA from UC Berkeley, a minister’s license from The Church of Divine Man, is a Certified Plant Spirit Healer, and holds two independent certifications in herbal medicine. She’s passionate about helping people transform sexual trauma into empowerment in all aspects of life. Although it’s SO not fun to talk about, there’s a glaring legacy of sexual assault and rape in our culture. It’s been suggested that breaking silence lifts the veil of shame and victimization. While this blog is about creative solutions, not problems, for perspective’s sake let’s spend a brief moment examining our culture’s default experience of sexuality. Let’s face it: We live in a rape culture If we took an honest poll, we’d discover that the majority of people have experienced abuse, sexual assault, trauma, incest or harassment. #4 Redefine power
Rhythm of Breathing Affects Memory and Fear – Neuroscience News Summary: A new study reports the rhythm of your breathing can influence neural activity that enhances memory recall and emotional judgement. Source: Northwestern University. Breathing is not just for oxygen; it’s now linked to brain function and behavior. Northwestern Medicine scientists have discovered for the first time that the rhythm of breathing creates electrical activity in the human brain that enhances emotional judgments and memory recall. These effects on behavior depend critically on whether you inhale or exhale and whether you breathe through the nose or mouth. In the study, individuals were able to identify a fearful face more quickly if they encountered the face when breathing in compared to breathing out. The study was published Dec. 6 in the Journal of Neuroscience. The senior author is Jay Gottfried, professor of neurology at Feinberg. The amygdala is strongly linked to emotional processing, in particular fear-related emotions. About this memory research article Abstract
ENDPAIN | RELEASING PAIN Directed by Matt Holwick Releasing Pain "We're not supposed to spend our time healing, we're supposed to heal to live." More Stories On Meditation and Queer Community Sitting In A Circle Underwater On What Remains Memorial On Chronic Pain & Physician’s Empathy An Interview with Dr. On caring for your previous caretaker Still The Teacher The Spiritual Warrior On the journey to self-improvement Letter to a new diabetic Releasing Pain On Yoga, Trauma, & Incarcerated Youth This Is About You Join Our Laüra Hollick | 5 Simple Self Care Steps to Heal Shame Shame is that silent cringe that ties your power up in a knot. It is that crippling energy that dampens the pleasures of life. We’ve all had moments of shame, maybe you said something mean in a heated moment, maybe you didn’t honor a commitment you made, or maybe something just happened that you felt responsible for and it didn’t go well. Of course, there is healthy shame, which is the awareness that you’ve done something, that if given the opportunity to do it again you’d do it differently. Healthy shame creates the opportunity to learn and grow from our mistakes. If you’ve found yourself in the grips of shame, healthy or unhealthy, give yourself the opportunity to heal, to learn and to grow. 5 Simple Self Care Steps to Heal Shame 1. When the silent undercurrent of shame creeps in, it may be so subtle you don’t even realize you’ve just tightened up and shut down your power. What is your body feeling when you feel shame? 2. 3. What did you need then that you can give yourself now? 4. 5.
Fixing Rape Culture is a Big Project. Here's Step One The Science of How Our Minds and Our Bodies Converge in the Healing of Trauma Trauma, Van der Kolk notes, affects not only those who have suffered it but also those who surround them and, especially, those who love them. He writes: One does not have be a combat soldier, or visit a refugee camp in Syria or the Congo to encounter trauma. Trauma happens to us, our friends, our families, and our neighbors. Research by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has shown that one in five Americans was sexually molested as a child; one in four was beaten by a parent to the point of a mark being left on their body; and one in three couples engages in physical violence. In trauma survivors, Van der Kolk notes, the parts of the brain that have evolved to monitor for danger remain overactivated and even the slightest sign of danger, real or misperceived, can trigger an acute stress response accompanied by intense unpleasant emotions and overwhelming sensations. Social support is not the same as merely being in the presence of others.
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Genital Body Armoring When I began practicing Tantra back in 2008, I could have one clitoral orgasm with a vibrator or my finger. My vagina felt numb during intercourse—or even hurt. I believed my G-spot was a fairy tale. I certainly didn't know my body was capable of more types of orgasms than I had fingers to count them. In short, I was like most other women in North America—ignorant of my true orgasmic potential and uneducated about how body armoring can desensitize our erogenous zones. The concept of body armoring began with Wilhelm Reich (1897-1957), who is considered to be the father of somatic psychology. So, what causes genital body armoring? Body armoring can happen to any area of the body that has been physically traumatized by assault or injury. Genital body armoring can develop without direct physical trauma. It is the result of us being taught and believing on some deep level that sexual pleasure is shameful, scary, impure, sinful, dirty, or wrong in any way. 1. There is nothing wrong with you. 2.
The Impact of Trauma | Echo Parenting & Education Loss of safety: The world becomes a place where anything can happen. Loss of danger cues: How do you know what is dangerous when someone you trust hurts you and this is then your ‘normal?’ Loss of trust: This is especially true if the abuser is a family member or a close family friend. Shame: Huge, overwhelming, debilitating shame. As a child, even getting an exercise wrong at school can trigger the shame. Loss of intimacy: For survivors of sexual abuse, sexual relationships can either become something to avoid or are entered into for approval (since the child learns that sex is a way to get the attention they crave) and the person may be labeled ‘promiscuous.’ Dissociation: Often, to cope with what is happening to the body during the abuse, the child will dissociate (disconnect the consciousness from what is happening). Loss of physical connection to body: Survivors of sexual and physical abuse often have a hard time being in their body.