How to Hold Space for Yourself. Most people would say they are good at supporting their friends and family, but why are we so bad at being there for ourselves?
When my second eldest daughter was a few months old, she developed colic. She would wake every night, crying for several hours, utterly inconsolable. Nothing I did helped her, not breastfeeding, holding her, rocking her, or my attempts to soothe her. Sometimes her cries pierced me so deeply I felt like giving up and leaving her alone. Medicating Women’s Feelings. Photo WOMEN are moody.
By evolutionary design, we are hard-wired to be sensitive to our environments, empathic to our children’s needs and intuitive of our partners’ intentions. This is basic to our survival and that of our offspring. Some research suggests that women are often better at articulating their feelings than men because as the female brain develops, more capacity is reserved for language, memory, hearing and observing emotions in others.
These are observations rooted in biology, not intended to mesh with any kind of pro- or anti-feminist ideology. The pharmaceutical industry plays on that fear, targeting women in a barrage of advertising on daytime talk shows and in magazines. As a psychiatrist practicing for 20 years, I must tell you, this is insane. Women & Power Video Library. The Three Qualities of People I Most Enjoy Working With. Pave Your Own Path, Play To Win: Top Advice For Women Leaders. How to develop a compelling + original voice: look to your flaws.
“I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.
. ” ― Augusten Burroughs “I am not an angel,” I asserted; “and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. . ” ― Charlotte Brontë, JANE EYRE “This thing about you that you think is your flaw – it’s the reason I’m falling in love with you I’ve always been struck by the phraseto find your voice, as if it’s waiting for you to discover it behind the refrigerator or between the couch cushions. According to psychologist Carol Gilligan, there’s some truth to it. As kids, we are powerless, and so we construct the False Self, the social mask, that wins us the love – or at least the attention – we desperately need. Designing motivation – Philip Oude-Vrielink Philip Oude-Vrielink. What motivations One body of research talks about intrinsic and extrinsic motivators — activity and outcome based.
Another body of research talks about personal and social motivators. Most people consider these four domains as separate. The Confidence Gap. For years, we women have kept our heads down and played by the rules.
We’ve been certain that with enough hard work, our natural talents would be recognized and rewarded. We’ve made undeniable progress. In the United States, women now earn more college and graduate degrees than men do. We make up half the workforce, and we are closing the gap in middle management. Half a dozen global studies, conducted by the likes of Goldman Sachs and Columbia University, have found that companies employing women in large numbers outperform their competitors on every measure of profitability.
And yet, as we’ve worked, ever diligent, the men around us have continued to get promoted faster and be paid more. Some observers say children change our priorities, and there is some truth in this claim. The elusive nature of confidence has intrigued us ever since we started work on our 2009 book, Womenomics, which looked at the many positive changes unfolding for women. Transformational Leadership. By Werner H.
Erhard and Michael C. Jensen In this paper we argue that the four ways of being we identify as constituting the foundation for being a leader and the effective exercise of leadership are also the foundation for an extraordinary organization and the foundation of an extraordinary personal life. We start with a brief overview of each of these four foundations before going into an expanded discussion of each. →Being Authentic Being authentic is being and acting consistent with who you hold yourself out to be for others, and who you hold yourself to be for yourself. →Being Cause In the Matter of Everything In Your Life Being Cause in the Matter is a stand you take on yourself and your life. →Being Committed to Something Bigger than Oneself Being committed to something bigger than oneself is the source of the serene passion (charisma) required to lead and to develop others as leaders and the source of persistence (joy in the labor of) when the path gets tough.
What's Going On : Redefine what is possible. Nothing prepares you for bearing witness to raw humanity.
It’s indescribable sitting barefoot on the ground with someone who, against inconceivable odds, has rewritten history for thousands of others. So rare are these moments, words simply don't exist. This was my experience last week as part of an immersion trip to India with The Hunger Project Australia. We spent our time with unassuming women driving phenomenal transformations in their villages. They are the first wave of Elected Women Representatives (EWRs) taking a seat at the local governance table to petition for simple infrastructure and provisions.
Their personal transformation from veiled and subjugated followers to confident and successful change leaders is remarkable. Shift from ‘I Can’ to ‘We Can’. Peer support and collaboration injects the women with resilience, tenacity and the confidence to speak out. Challenge assumptions.