background preloader

Thinking

Facebook Twitter

A Better Way to Say Sorry. March 30, 2014 This post is part of my series on How to Shape Children’s Behavior.

A Better Way to Say Sorry

“Say sorry to your brother.” “But he’s the one who–” “Say it!” You insist, an edge of warning in your voice. He huffs, rolls his eyes to the side and says flatly, “Sorry.” “Say it like you mean it,” you demand. “Sorrrrry,” he repeats, dragging out the word slowly with bulging eyes and dripping insincerity. CV Dazzle: Camouflage from Face Detection. The Unexpected Lesson I Learned From Lying About My Fat Loss Story. A few weeks ago, I posted a before-and-after picture of myself on Facebook.

The Unexpected Lesson I Learned From Lying About My Fat Loss Story

As much as I loathe the thought of posting half-nekkid pictures of myself in a public forum, let alone THE most public forum on the planet, I did it to show the world what was possible with the right nutrition, the right lifestyle and the right attitude: As a side note, the fact that I was days away from turning 41 could’ve suggested that I was also experiencing the onset of a mid-life crisis. But I digress. Within minutes of posting my pic, a flurry of comments poured in: They were all so incredibly heart-warming and encouraging. Except it was all a big lie. Don’t get me wrong: those pics are real. It’s just that I took both pictures within 10 minutes of each other. This was a social experiment inspired by an Australian personal trainer who took her before-and-after pics 15 minutes apart, simply by performing a few clever tricks with her clothes, posture, hair, and some tanning lotion: The 15-minute diet.

Smile. Can We Be Lovers & Not Have Sex? I want a life of a million lovers.

Can We Be Lovers & Not Have Sex?

I want to love you. I want to love you if you are male or female, young or old, single or married… When I see you we will embrace and hold a hug long enough to glimpse some insight from each other’s heartbeat. When we walk down the street we shall link arms, pause frequently, and turn our toes and noses towards the other to speak directly without modesty. I would like us to share the couch together, rather than creating a “do not cross” line where we may as well be sitting on brick blocks seated four feet away. Your Lifestyle Has Already Been Designed. Well I’m in the working world again.

Your Lifestyle Has Already Been Designed

I’ve found myself a well-paying gig in the engineering industry, and life finally feels like it’s returning to normal after my nine months of traveling. Because I had been living quite a different lifestyle while I was away, this sudden transition to 9-to-5 existence has exposed something about it that I overlooked before. Since the moment I was offered the job, I’ve been markedly more careless with my money. Not stupid, just a little quick to pull out my wallet. The Care and Feeding of Your Extrovert. Over the last few years, I've seen a lot of "How to Understand an Introvert," and "Things You Need To Know about Introverts" essays, but I find that I don’t see similar ones talking about what it's *really* like to be an extrovert.

The Care and Feeding of Your Extrovert

People assume that because extroverts appear to be the dominant paradigm, everyone knows what we want and how to deal with us. They roll their eyes when we suggest that maybe, possibly, "You all just want to be worshiped and adored and listened to as you talk CONSTANTLY about NOTHING," is not actually what is going on inside the mind of the extrovert. An ex once sent me a 'care and feeding of introverts' explanation that included things like, "you need to understand that unlike extroverts, we're not yappy dogs just spewing whatever trivial thoughts happen through our shallow brains. Disney characters and their Myer Brigg Personalities. I’m like Belle!

Relevant XKCD

#497: On “keeping the peace” with an unlikeable mansplainer. Hello Captain Awkward & Team!

#497: On “keeping the peace” with an unlikeable mansplainer

A couple of years ago my mother met a new partner, A. He has many fine qualities such as being handy with building things, generous with his time and always willing to lend a hand. He makes my mother very happy and I am happy for her. He is also the biggest mansplainer ever. A Day in the Life of a Sexologist - My most WTF sexologist moment to date: An open letter to the guy who called my PARENTS regarding whether or not I have raw-dog sex with my husband.

Teaching

Social Justice. But You Dont Look Sick? support for those with invisible illness or chronic illness. Please take the time to read Christine Miserandino’s personal story and analogy of what it is like to live with sickness or disability. by Christine Miserandino www.butyoudontlooksick.com My best friend and I were in the diner, talking.

But You Dont Look Sick? support for those with invisible illness or chronic illness

As usual, it was very late and we were eating French fries with gravy. Like normal girls our age, we spent a lot of time in the diner while in college, and most of the time we spent talking about boys, music or trivial things, that seemed very important at the time. We never got serious about anything in particular and spent most of our time laughing. As I went to take some of my medicine with a snack as I usually did, she watched me with an awkward kind of stare, instead of continuing the conversation.

10 Easy Activities Science Has Proven Will Make You Happier Today. A thankful message, spending on others, listening to music, happy daydreams and more… Science can make you happier.

10 Easy Activities Science Has Proven Will Make You Happier Today

Do at least some of these activities today and feel the positive vibrations flow. Keep it going for a week or longer and feel your mood lift. 1. Mentally subtract something good from your life People spend a lot of time thinking about good things that didn’t happen, but might have done. Say you’d never met your partner or friend or got that job? Thinking about what might not have been can be tremendously powerful if used in the right way. So, mentally subtract something good from your life to really appreciate it. 2. Gratitude is a powerful emotion that helps us enjoy what we have. Evoke it right now by sending an email, text or letter to someone who has helped you in some way. The-Awesomest-7-Year-Postdoc or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Tenure-track-faculty-life.

Science!