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How to connect deeply with anyone (in 5 minutes) 468k shares Share on Facebook Share on Twitter I’m going to share a game with you. This game will reveal incredible things about whoever plays it; surprise, shock and delight complete strangers, and has kickstarted more friendships than I know how to count. Play along and you’ll see. I want you to imagine a desert, stretching out as far as your eyes can see. In this desert is a cube. Your first task is to describe the cube. There are no right answers here, only your answers. As you look at the desert and your cube, you notice there is also a ladder. Now imagine that in the scene there is a horse. We’re nearly there now. Final question. If you’ve been playing along, this is going to be fun. Ready? The cube is yourself. The size is ostensibly your ego: a large cube means you’re pretty sure of yourself, a small cube less so. The vertical placement of the cube is how grounded you are.

The ladder represents your friends. Are your friends leaning on the cube? The flowers represent children. Comments. Gary Chapman - The 5 Love Languages.pdf. 100 Getting to Know You Questions. Working with a group of new people and need some conversation starters? Break the ice and get to know people better by selecting several of these get-to-know-you questions. Who is your hero? If you could live anywhere, where would it be? What is your biggest fear? What is your favorite family vacation? What would you change about yourself if you could? Party Time! 26. Plan you family meal, office potluck, team party and more. 51.

Group Fundraising has never been easier! 76. 90. If you really want to get to know someone, questions (not all at once, of course!) Janis Meredith writes Jbmthinks, a blog on sports parenting and youth sports. Posted by Janis Meredith Posted by Punit Gupta on Thu Feb 19, 2015 2:06 AM EST Great Posted by Anna Nelson on Sun Jan 4, 2015 4:51 PM EST HAHA thanks i needed this for a activity!!!!! Posted by Graham Rogers on Tue Dec 30, 2014 4:12 PM EST What about: If you were on a deserted island what 3 things would you take? Thanks for introducing me to myself. :) 45 Questions To Guarantee You’ll Never Have A Boring Date Again. I have a secret game that I play in every conversation I have. Until now, no one knew about it… but I’m about to dish the deets. ;) I try to get every person I interact with to say, Wow. That’s a great question… at least once in our conversation. To win at this game, I have to stay super present and plugged in to who I’m chatting with so I can artfully select a question that pushes them to lean into an area of their brain they don’t normally hang out in.

It’s fascinating watching them dig deeper into who they are. Why do I play this silly game? Because I believe it’s our responsibility to discover something awesome every person we meet. I thought it would be fun (and hopefully valuable) to give you a sneak peak at some of my favorites to ask (especially on first dates or with partners). My hope is that you too can tuck this list in your back pocket and together we can rid this planet of all the effortless and boring questions people ask each other these days. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Just Asking for It! Part I. 15 Honest Questions The Person You Marry Should Be Able To Answer. Marriage really is a beautiful thing. I used to think it was a bit pointless, just a piece of paper that allows you an extra tax cut. However, the more I thought about it, the more I learned to appreciate what marriage could be. Marriage gets a bad rap because most people are really bad at it.

It’s not marriage’s fault. I used to believe people couldn’t possibly promise to love someone else in 10, 20 years when neither their partners nor they will be the same people they are now. Simone Becchetti Regardless, we still want that promise because it gives us courage to give ourselves to another without reservations. You may not be able to keep that promise, but you can keep the promise to do your best to be an amazing life partner. 1. People seem to feel this is a question that doesn’t especially need answering. Loving someone is a very selfish act, and it’s okay. 2. “Because I love you” is not a good answer. 3.

Keeping the romance alive is not an easy task. 4. Jayme Burrows 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Love the Grows: Questions You Should Ask Before Marriage. In my marriage class in my first semester of college, our teacher gave us a handout (or should I say packet) with these questions. At first I was like "Holy shnikeys! This is way too many questions! I am NOT going to go over all of these with my fiance! " But we did. And I'm so glad we did. At first it started with asking the interesting questions, but then we asked them all, wondering if maybe the answer would be different than we expected. And we were very surprised by some of it! From answering these questions we talked about how we plan on raising and disciplining our kids, who will manage the bills, what our parents should and shouldn't know about, what we believe our flaws are.

Here's some of the questions I think are really important to have an understanding on in your marriage. CLICK HERE FOR A PRINTABLE VERSION OF THESE QUESTIONS Sex/Romance/Love If we eliminated physical attraction from our relationship, what would be left? What is the best way for me to show that I love you?

Trust. Stop The Heartbreak Cycle: 7 Dos and Don’ts For Handling a Break-Up. “When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” ~Unknown I’ve learned to be thankful for my first heartbreak. Of course, at the time of the crime I struggled to see anything positive in it. It was literally as if someone stabbed my heart; there was a problem that caused my body to stop working properly.

In fact, I still think of him occasionally; it’s so hard to turn off. Like during any trauma your body faces, it tries to repair itself so it can be whole again. I became emotionally promiscuous. Normally my standards are that I date just one person at a time and don’t get intimate with anyone until I’m in a relationship. But now that my heart was hurt, all those rules were thrown out the window. I dated guys just to date someone. I wanted to display the image that I was fine, happy, healthy, and so over the perpetrator. Pretty soon he asked me to be his girlfriend. But I never did. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Venus In Love, Mars In Heat. Posted March 18, 2008 08:53 PM I came across this Mars/Venus synastry article and found the interps to be pretty accurate. Thought some of you who are also "synastrically" inclined (think I just invented a new word) would like it as well. 8th **************************************** Here's a rundown of how feminine Venus and masculine Mars work together as a team to help us get (Mars) what we want (Venus) in matters of love and sex (keep in mind that most people have Venus and Mars in different signs, so mix-and-match "teammates" is highly likely).

Disclaimer: There are others astrological indicators of love and sex styles, but this entry is only discussing Venus and Mars. Note: In a woman's chart, her Venus sign represents her love style, while her Mars sign represents the type of man that makes her feel ... lusty. In a man's chart, his Venus sign represents the woman in his fantasies, while his Mars sign represents how he tries to persuade a woman to choose him (for sex, love, whatever). Questions to Bring You Closer Together. Online Dating Checklist. Lately I’ve been thinking about my online dating guide, particularly how it continues to grow and how all the information might be overwhelming to someone new to online dating.

With that in mind, I’ve put together the following checklist that provides dating suggestions at a very high level based on the advice I provide in my dating guide. Where my guide goes into great detail into each area, this list keeps things simple for quick review. This list is broken down into the major areas of online date: beginning dating online, creating your online dating profile, the communication process, meeting and your first date and, finally, continuing dating online. Each of these sections contains information on how you should approach that phase of online dating. If you are interested in learning more about any of these topics be sure to check out my guide.

Section 1: As You Begin 1. 2. 3. Section 2: Your Dating Profile 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. Section 3: Communicating 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. How to Love a Girl Who Doesn't Know How to Be Loved. Whether we know it or not, we’ve all met some form of the typical “Miss Independent.” Some of us know her better than others; some of us claim that title ourselves. She’s the self-sufficient, somewhat mysterious go-getter with big dreams and an even bigger heart, though not everyone sees it at first glance. Some might see her as cold and distant, because she needs a significant amount of alone time to keep her from feeling scattered and spread so thin that she disappears.

Sure, she has family and friends with whom she loves to spend much of her time, but it’s in her nature to crave those precious hours of solitude—being only with her thoughts, completely alone in a crowd or in the vastness of a quiet scene. Some call it antisocial; she calls it sanity. For any or all of these reasons and then some, she’s never been the type to “fall in love.” Or, maybe she’s simply afraid of opening herself up enough to be loved. 1. 2. So talk with her. Tell her it makes her all the more beautiful. 3. 4. Online Dating Guide. About the Free Online Dating Guide Download my free eBook, The Online Dating Guide, and find out exactly how I found success using online dating.

Stop feeling frustrated! Learn what works and apply it to your own dating life. Online dating can be confusing and frustrating…trust me, I know. In my last few months of online dating, I was going on many first dates every week. Learn more about my experience dating online >> What’s Included My Dating Guide? Online Dating Advice. 5 Ways to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship. When I was younger I often felt inadequate and “not good enough” to be friends, lovers, or business partners with certain people. Sometimes I simply couldn’t understand what others saw in me. I was very insecure. I ended many promising relationships because of my insecurity.

In my mind, it felt easier for me to end it before they did. So what did I do, and what can you do if insecurity is damaging your relationships? You need to understand that a good relationship is about sharing ideas and enjoyable moments with another, to help each other grow in healthy ways, both together socially and as individuals. 1. Most relationship problems and associated social anxieties start with bad communication, which in turn leads to attempted mind reading. If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else.

It’s also important to remember that you aren’t suppose to know every little thing going on in the minds of others, even the people closest to you. 2. 3. 4. 5. The floor is yours… 9 Good Signs You’re in the Right Relationship. It’s not always where you are in life, but who you have by your side that matters. “How do I know if I’m in the right relationship or not?” This is one of the most common questions our coaching clients ask us. And after Angel and I listen to the specifics of their situation, we often toss a question back at them to further clarify their thoughts and expectations. For instance: “What do you think a “right relationship” should provide for the people in it?” Although the answer here is obviously subjective, in all relationships, romantic and platonic alike, there are some clear signs that things are going well. Enter your email to get new articles like this delivered for free.

Join 130,000+ subscribers and get life-changing ideas in your inbox. Thanks! 1. Far too often, we make our relationships harder than they have to be. And of course, if you feel like someone is playing games with you, speak up. 2. 3. You can’t be afraid to have certain conversations. 4. 5. 6. So open yourself up. 7. 8. 9. Make Amends.

Edit Article Making Sense of What HappenedMaking a Plan to Fix ItFollowing Up Edited by Lucky7, MA, IngeborgK, Flickety and 10 others When you're responsible for hurting someone, it's not always easy to make amends. Putting yourself out on a limb to apologize is daunting, but it'll be worth it when your relationship is restored. You're already taking a step in the right direction by choosing to address the situation instead of ignoring it. Now you just have to find the right way to apologize and make things right again. Ad Steps Part 1 of 3: Making Sense of What Happened 1Take an objective view of what happened. 6Decide what it will take to make up for the damage that was done. Part 2 of 3: Making a Plan to Fix It 1Decide what to say. 6Back up your words with actions.

Part 3 of 3: Following Up 1Don't repeat the mistake. 2Resolve to move on. Video Tips Warnings Living life convinced that you're always right is a surefire recipe for personal misery. Sources and Citations. Dating 101. Choose the Right Person For You. When you’re looking to build a healthy relationship, how do you make sure someone is right for you? For a long time, I had no idea. So I asked other people what they looked for in a partner, and I got answers like… “A sense of humor, attractiveness, intelligence, creativity, sexual compatibility, passion, an active lifestyle, a stable career.” I knew those qualities were important. I had some of them myself, and even looked for them in women. But something was missing. The women I really liked and dated, always broke it off first.

After a breakup, I asked a former boss who had been happily married for over 20 years for advice. “Do they respect you?” This simple guideline has profoundly changed the relationships in my life. Once you like someone, respect is the first thing you should be screening for. None of the other qualities will matter if you aren’t treated well. By prioritizing your self-respect you immediately: I understand it’s hard to define what “treat you well” means. Questions You Should Ask Before Marriage. 10 Truths to Keep Your Relationship Healthy. I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction 1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum.

They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. There are no guarantees, but couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships than those who are not proactive in their love. Dr. 75 Ways to Show Love. 50 Things Men Wish Women Knew.