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When a family member screws up. 18 Excellent Gifts for Kids That Aren't Even Toys | Rachel Jones. All of us who have children have too many toys scattered throughout the house. No matter how diligent we are about keeping them at bay, it seems to be a constant fight. It's especially hard when special days come and we want to give gifts to our children, or grandparents want to give gifts. Gifts are good things! But, too much of anything isn't good. A great way to combat having too many toys is to shift all the gifts to non-toy items. 18 Non-Toy Gifts for Children 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18.

Rachel Jones is a blogger and mother of six. Follow Nourishing Minimalism on Facebook: Read more on HuffPost Parents:8 Things Adoptive Parents Should Never, Ever Do6 Toddler Behaviors I'd Like to Try for a DayTo The Furious Mom In The Target Parking Lot Like Us On Facebook | Follow Us On Twitter | Contact HuffPost Parents Also on HuffPost: via Positively Positive Close.

Please Don't Help My Kids - Kate Bassford Baker's Blog - Alameda, CA Patch. I am not sitting here, 15 whole feet away from my kids, because I am too lazy to get up and help them climb the ladder. I brought them here so they could learn to climb it themselves. Dear Other Parents At The Park: Please do not lift my daughters to the top of the ladder, especially after you've just heard me tell them I wasn't going to do it for them and encourage them to try it themselves. I am not sitting here, 15 whole feet away from my kids, because I am too lazy to get up. They're not here to be at the top of the ladder; they are here to learn to climb.

In the meantime, they can use the stairs. It is not my job — and it is certainly not yours — to prevent my children from feeling frustration, fear, or discomfort. If they get stuck, it is not my job to save them immediately. It is not my job to keep them from falling. I don't want my daughters to learn that they can't overcome obstacles without help. Because they can. This post is contributed by a community member.

"A Daddy’s Letter to His Little Girl (About Her Future Husband)" This is so amazingly sweet. via While Their Kids Sleep, These parents Pull Of This Amazing Stunt... - Misc. What Little Girls Wish Daddies Knew | Tara Hedman. I'm spending the morning waiting for my car in the repair shop. Four men in flannel (I missed the flannel memo) and I sit around smelling tires and inhaling exhaust fumes while an enchanting little fairy is in constant motion around her daddy. She climbs on him, giggles, turns around, and then she's back to twirling on the tile. She's bouncing and spinning around in her pink frilly skirt. Her black cable knit tights are sagging around her tiny knees, and her puffy coat makes her arms stand out further than is natural.

To top off the ensemble is a shiny crystal tiara. She's probably 4 years old. So, to all the daddies with little girls who aren't old enough yet to ask for what they need from you, here is what we wish you knew: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. It's pretty simple, really. Also on HuffPost: Close Pete Meyers "What was I thinking at this moment? Pete & Eva "What was I thinking at this moment? 5 ways to Deter a pedophile  - Building Stronger Families -protecting children against sexual abuse.

7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders. Killing Off Supermom. I'll be honest with you. In my house, the beds are rarely made unless someone is coming to visit. Sometimes I yell. My closet is a disaster and I feel guilty that I work too much. My kids watch more TV than they should. And I simply cannot afford to go all organic right now. There is a sticky shelf in my refrigerator that I keep hoping will evaporate on its own, and this morning I had to send my son off to camp with a PB&J made with frozen waffles because I forgot to buy bread. Bye Bye Supermom This whole supermom thing has become cliché, and frankly, I'm getting too old for it. Perfection Doesn't Exist Here's the thing: Perfection doesn't exist.

Picture Perfect Just the other day, I was on a plane and saw Gwyneth Paltrow in this month's Vogue. Celebrating the Imperfect Mom I get it; it's Vogue. I Used to Be One One last confession: I used to be a Supermom (well, I tried really hard). The Eye-Opening Incident The Time of My Life Time to Redefine.

The first few years

No Sushi for You, Pregnant Lady - An economist says mothers-to-be should ignore conventional wisdom about pregnancy. Is she right? via Melissa Sher: 23 Things I Think New Parents Should Know. 1. The more time and effort put into decorating a nursery, the more likely that the baby will sleep in your room. 2. Things that don't wake a sleeping newborn: loud noises and bright lights.

Things that do wake a sleeping newborn: sitting down to eat dinner. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. Save on Parenthood: Skip These Baby Gear Money Traps. Dear Parents With Young Children in Church | Jamie Bruesehoff. 30 Practical Tips About the Horrors of Raising a Baby That You Will Never Learn from Movies and TV.

By Dustin Rowles | Think Pieces | May 25, 2012 | Comments (0 View Two weeks ago, ahead of May's release of What to Expect When You're Expecting, Courtney -- who is now in her third trimester -- provided this helpful and hilarious piece on what movies and television didn't tell us about pregnancy.

I have no intention of turning Pajiba into a parenting blog, but with Courtney and TK both expecting newborns in the next six weeks, I thought I would offer them -- and other soon-to-be parents -- some words of wisdom from a Dad who really doesn't know what the hell he's doing half the time, but has still somehow managed to be a parent to one wonderful child for nearly five years without killing him. I also happen to be in the midst of raising newborn twins (also, still alive!)

, so all of this is marvelously and excruciatingly fresh to me. So, I offer for new parents these 30 Practical Parenting Tips You Will Never Learn from Movies and Television. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. The Day I Stopped Saying ‘Hurry Up’ via

Family Night

Get Down Mr. President. Films for families: The top 50 movies to watch as a family. Fun Ideas for Movie Night. Teens. The First Time My Daughter Told Me She Hated Me, I Bought Her a Cake. The best cake I've ever purchased, hands down. Two summers ago, my daughter crossed a milestone: She told me she hated me for the first time. She was 15 years old -- nearly 16 -- and we were arguing about her boyfriend at the time. He’s still a minor, so I’m not going to use his real name. I asked Kiddo for a substitute, but all her suggestions were unfit for print.

So we were arguing about Dick, who really was a dick, although my daughter didn’t know it at the time, and the argument wasn’t going well. We aren’t a shouting-match sort of family, but things got out of hand and culminated with my daughter storming out the door, shouting, “You’re a fucking bitch, I hate you!” It’s one of those major leaps, like cutting teeth or taking your first steps: Her Very First “I Hate You.”

My husband and I stood in the kitchen and tried to decide what to do next. The big question that my husband Sam and I kept pushing back and forth was, “What comes next?” “I need to buy a cake today,” I said. “Yes. RETHINKING YOUTH MINISTRY: 10 Ways to Get Teens Talking. A friend from my seminary days recently contacted me to ask if I had any suggestions on ways to engage youth in discussion so that they don't get bored. A tall order, as the last thing most teens want out of youth group is to feel like they are at school. And nothing is worse for the discussion leader than to be met with a long unending silence each time you ask a question.

Below I've listed the top ten ways I've used in the past to help teens get beyond the awkwardness of sharing their thoughts in front of a group of people and start talking. 1) The Continuum - A non-threatening way to get teens thinking without the fear of saying something "stupid" is to indicate an imaginary line down the middle of the room. One end represents "agree," the other "disagree" and every gradation of opinion in between. Start off by making a statement related to your discussion topic such as "It's okay to be dishonest to avoid hurting some one's feelings. " Other suggestions? --Brian. Top 10 Reasons our Kids Leave Church « Marc5Solas. We all know them, the kids who were raised in church. They were stars of the youth group. They maybe even sang in the praise band or led worship. And then… they graduate from High School and they leave church. What happened? It seems to happen so often that I wanted to do some digging; To talk to these kids and get some honest answers.

I work in a major college town with a large number of 20-somethings. Nearly all of them were raised in very typical evangelical churches. The facts: The statistics are jaw-droppingly horrific: 70% of youth stop attending church when they graduate from High School. Half. Let that sink in. There’s no easy way to say this: The American Evangelical church has lost, is losing, and will almost certainly continue to lose OUR YOUTH. For all the talk of “our greatest resource”, “our treasure”, and the multi-million dollar Dave and Buster’s/Starbucks knockoffs we build and fill with black walls and wailing rock bands… the church has failed them. Miserably. 10. 9. 8. 7. Gay, Catholic, and Doing Fine - for Catholic Youth.

Editor’s Note: This blog by Steve Gershom, a Catholic, gay, young man, was originally published on the blog, Little Catholic Bubble. If you want to read more about the what the Catholic Church teaches about homosexuality and gay marriage, check out this blog that debunks some common misconceptions. I have heard a lot about how mean the Church is, and how bigoted, because she opposes gay marriage.

How badly she misunderstands gay people, and how hostile she is towards us. My gut reaction to such things is: Are you freaking kidding me? When I go to Confession, I sometimes mention the fact that I’m gay, to give the priest some context. Of the two responses, my ego prefers the first — who doesn’t like thinking of themselves as some kind of hero? Where are all these bigoted Catholics I keep hearing about?

Hooray for tolerance of different viewpoints. Is it hard to be gay and Catholic? Would I trade in my Catholicism for a worldview where I get to marry a man? It’s a work in progress.

The Relationship

50 Best Cheap Date Ideas - Handmade Wedding | Emmaline Bride™ Posted July 20, 2012 | 110 Comments The weekend is right around the corner and we thought it was a great opportunity to share this fun weekend-ready post. For some couples, once they get engaged the ‘dates’ go right out the window, traded in for constant wedding planning. We say… bring on the date nights! Take a (temporary) wedding planning break once in awhile to remember why you’re tying the knot in the first place. Be spontaneous. Surprise him or her. They’ll love it. P.S. 50 Cheap Date Ideas 1. Photo by lindsey k photography Oh, and bring your pup. 2. 10. Photo by click chick images 11. 15.

Photo by eric boneske photography (remember this cute couple?) 16. 21. Photo by joe elario photography via de lovely affair 22. 27. 31. Photo by lavida creations 32. 41. Photo by eplove 42. It doesn’t matter what the activity is… just have fun, take a break from stressing out, and enjoy spending some one-on-one time together. So, we want to know… What are YOUR favorite cheap date ideas? Happy Planning! 10 Truths To Keep Your Relationship Healthy. I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be.

Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction 1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads. 2. You can only change yourself, not your partner. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. There are no guarantees, but couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships than those who are not proactive in their love.

Dr. A Game That Will Improve Any Relationship. Getting To Know You One of the best ways to improve and deepen a relationship is mutual understanding. What’s the best way to achieve this? Asking questions, really listening, and then sharing your stories too. I originally developed this idea as a way to grow your relationship with your child, and then it occurred to me that this communication game could benefit all relationships. How well do you really know your child, spouse, mate, or friend? What follows is a game you can “play” with another person to learn more about each other, have a few laughs and deepen your bonds. Parents & ChildrenParent & ChildNewly Dating CouplesMarried Couples2 Friends or Group of FriendsGrandparents & GrandchildrenParents and their Adult Children The Relationship Game Take turns asking and answering the questions below.

Print out the questions below. The Questions (for any age – feel free to modify) What is your favorite color? Questions Especially (but not exclusively) for Young Children Further Resources:

Parental moves

5 Things Parents Shouldn't Say to Their Kids | Team Mom. Say what? It's no secret that parents should pay attention to how they communicate with their children. Even tiger moms and parents following the French style of raising children could agree that what we say to our kids -- and how we say it -- matters. Tiger moms and French parents get the results they want largely because of what they say. But besides using words to get kids to do what they want, how moms and dads communicate with their kids directly impacts the parent-child relationship long term. And it's the simple statements parents make, usually in a moment of frustration with their young children, which can cause the most damage later on. Related: 8 things you should never say to a mom "Words hurt and they can't be taken back, so be careful" says Debbie Pincus, a therapist, parenting coach and author of "The Calm Parent: AM & PM.

" The bottom line is that as parents, we're teaching our kids how we want them to behave in similar situations; modeling the desired behavior is key. Leaves via Facebook privacy and kids: Don’t post photos of your kids online. Photo by Hemera/Thinkstock I vividly remember the Facebook post. It was my friend’s 5-year-old daughter “Kate,” (a pseudonym) standing outside of her house in a bright yellow bikini, the street address clearly visible behind her on the front door.

A caption read “Leaving for our annual Labor Day weekend at the beach,” and beneath it were more than 50 likes and comments from friends—including many “friends” that Kate’s mom barely knew. The picture had been uploaded to a Facebook album, and there were 114 shots just of Kate: freshly cleaned and swaddled on the day of her birth … giving her Labradoodle a kiss … playing on a swing set. But there were also photos of her in a bathtub and an awkward moment posing in her mother’s lacy pink bra.

I completely understood her parents’ desire to capture Kate’s everyday moments, because early childhood is so ephemeral. Last week, Facebook updated its privacy policy again. Six thousand respondents to Slate’s survey show a clear trend. 5 Parental Dick Moves You Hate (Until You're a Parent) Dad plays best prank ever on teenage son | Moments Of Motherhood. The Poster Every Parent Should Show Their Kids. 2011 Lesson #2 : Don’t Carpe Diem. Disarming the Bully via