Why the Spark Fades in a Relationship. Countless couples complain of losing the “spark” in their relationship.
Some chalk it up to evolved differences, a slow growing apart, or sheer familiarity. The wave of “deadness” that can submerge a relationship after the first thrilling months or years have caused many couples to lose hope, and even look elsewhere for the excitement of newfound intimacy. With researchers estimating that 30-60 percent of married individuals in the United States will have an affair at some point in their relationship, it may be time to really examine what causes our affections to wane.
What prompts the shift from helpless love to deep disinterest? What turns our heart-racing enthusiasm for another person to boredom and dissatisfaction? In order to identify the wedge that’s driving couples apart, it’s helpful to understand the concept of the “ fantasy bond .” The state of physical closeness and emotional distance is what characterizes a fantasy bond. Fantasy bonds exist on a continuum. Is Divorce Immature and Selfish? Last week, the best-selling author and popular blogger Penelope Trunk declared divorce "immature and selfish.
" She claimed divorce is "nearly always terrible for kids" (and "your case is not the exception"); that it is a sign of mental illness (specifically, of Borderline Personality Disorder ); and that it is something that "dumb people" do at higher rates than well-educated ones. Trunk tends to base most of her writing, for her blog and for national media outlets like CNN, on pretty solid scientific research, so I was surprised by this post. That said, she's most famous for blogging about highly personal and controversial topics, and so this might be, in part, a publicity stunt. Unfortunately, her post is freaking out thousands of people who are doing their best to raise happy and well-adjusted children. Is Trunk correct? There is no denying that divorce is pretty tough on everyone involved. The 5 Ultimate Ways to Make People like You. Making people like you is the first step to making long lasting relationships, and long lasting relationships are what bring you happiness and success.
For this one reason I personally work on this certain idea religiously, and can quite confidently say that I have finally figured out how to make “any” person almost instantly like me. I have condensed all that I have learnt into 5 main points. Hope these strategies help you become a people magnet as well. 1. Be Genuinely Interested in People You can’t make people truly like you, unless you are interested in them as well. Friendships are all about give and take. 2. 10 Ways Happy People Choose Happiness. Post written by: Marc Chernoff Email All the happiness you ever find lies within you.
Happiness is a choice. For every minute you are angry or irritated, you lose 60 seconds of happiness. Be happy. If you have the courage to admit when you’re scared, the ability to laugh even as you cry, the nerve to speak up, even if your voice is shaking, the confidence to ask for help when you need it, and the wisdom to take it when it’s offered, then you have everything you need to get yourself to a happier state of mind. Begin today by taking responsibility for your own contentment. What Romance Taught Me About Letting Go. In high school I was hooked.
I was a senior and she was a sophomore when we started dating. When I went out-of-state for college, my girlfriend and I broke up. She and I hadn't been together for very long, so although the heart break was painful, it wasn't emotionally devastating. At least that's what it felt like the first time around. During second year of college, I transferred to a university closer to home. When it was time for her to start college, she enrolled in the same school as me. As the saying goes, "The only guarantees in life are death and taxes. " Imagine that you're floating in a river. Even Wonderful Husbands Like Breasts. Are You Faithful? Why Love Matters More (And Less) Than You Think - Umair Haque. By Umair Haque | 6:14 PM February 14, 2012 So, how was your Valentine’s Day?
Me? I had an anti-Valentine’s day at my local bar with the ghost of Albert Camus, an existential crisis, and a decent bottle of wine. Here’s what occurred to the four of us while we were angsting out. I’ve made the point before that our economy seems especially good at mass-producing toxic junk. Throw The Art of War at me if you must, waterboard me, glue my eyes wide open and dress me in one of Rick Santorum’s sweater vests if you have to, but I’d suggest, when it comes to real human prosperity: the truest denominator of a life searingly well lived is love. Hence, here are a few things I’ve learned along the way — thanks to a long string of catastrophically failed relationships, imploding corner offices, living in between multiple cities, a couple of fistfights, and long evenings of solitude at the bar.
Experience. Act. Suffer. Mean it.