The Talkhouse. Be Mine? Why It’s Smart to Court Your Friends. I could tell she was courting me. The constant compliments about my accessories. The invitations to lectures at the library. The birthday card on my desk with an offer to buy me a celebratory bourbon. In hindsight, it seems so obvious that we were destined to be more than co-workers. If I had made a list of qualities I desire in a friend (willingness to participate in impromptu dance parties, commitment to late-night snacking, tendency to get into spirited arguments while drunk, equal interest in classic literature and celebrity gossip), Lavanya would have met all of them.
I just didn’t know it yet. These days, she freely admits that she actively pursued me for friendship, just as I admit I sort of had to be wooed. We still don't have a good way of talking about pursuing friendship. “Nearly all friendships are based on a spark of mutual attraction. Sometimes the feeling isn’t immediately mutual, and it takes a little bit of pursuit. It's Nice That : Home. Brain Pickings. Onswipe. Cool Hunting. Lost At E Minor: For creative people » GOOD Mobile. We're sorry, but something went wrong (500) Salon. Vanity Fair.