3 Things You Need to Know Before Getting Married | Tyler Ward. I can feel the veins in my neck bulging. The veins in my neck never bulge. I'm the guy who internalizes everything -- no matter how much the circumstance warrants a reaction (for better or worse). The more she explains how my negligence in our relationship makes her feel, the more I want to jump in my truck and spend the weekend alone on the open road -- neglecting our relationship. Instead, we resort to our increasingly popular nightcap. I walk out, slamming the door behind me for dramatic effect.
She crawls under the covers, in tears -- but not before setting up her wall of pillows down the middle of the bed, just to remind me, when I do come to sleep, that things are not okay. We were 18 months in and though our first year was bliss, pillow walls were now becoming our norm. We weren't supposed to be the ones in a perpetual fight. We were the couple who highlighted and dog-eared our marriage books. 1.
But what if I told you happily ever after isn't the point? 2. 9 dating tips from happily married couples. How to Become an Author. The Secret to Intimacy | The Science of Love. The Benjamin Franklin Effect | The Science of Love. The Single Life | The Science of Love. The Science of Love | Can Men and Women Be Just Friends? The Marriage Project | Why This Arranged Marriage Worked. Behind The Scenes of The Science of Love. Literary Agents Who Represent Christian Authors. Aspiring authors routinely ask me to recommend an agent.
This is more difficult than you might think. For starters, we work with numerous agents and enjoy good relationships with all of them. Photo courtesy of ©iStockphoto.com/Viorika Second, it’s often just as difficult to find an agent as a publisher. Rather than recommend a specific agent, I hoped to be able to point authors to a list of agents on the Internet.
This may not be all the agents that could be listed, but these are the forty or so we work with at Thomas Nelson. Also, please note: before you approach any agent, you should prepare a formal proposal. Regardless, this list does not constitute my recommendation. Keep in mind that agents typically charge a 15 percent commission. Note: If you are one of the agents listed below and want your information edited or removed, please send me an email. WestBow Press Guide to Success. Request Your Free Publishing Guide to Get Started Every author's success story begins with a leap of faith. With WestBow Press, you now have the opportunity to begin or advance your career as an author, share your story and start shaping your future today. At WestBow Press, we understand that your work is more than just a book. It is a passion and dream.
A Division of Thomas Nelson & Zondervan, Christian Publishers As a division of Thomas Nelson & Zondervan, WestBow Press titles will be regularly reviewed by the parent companies. Our experienced team is here to assist you throughout the publishing process, but it's up to you to start your author journey. Write for Us. How can I submit my manuscript to Thomas Nelson or Zondervan to be published? Currently, only unsolicited manuscripts fitting the following criteria are being accepted by the Zondervan Academic publishing team: Academic (only college and seminary textbooks in the areas of theology, Biblical studies, church history, etc.)
Reference (commentaries, handbooks, encyclopedias, etc.) Ministry Resources (books and resources for pastors and ministry professionals). To submit an Academic, Reference or Ministry Resource manuscript or proposal, please visit here. All other unsolicited manuscripts are not accepted by Thomas Nelson or Zondervan publishers. How do I begin the path to becoming a published author? There are two paths to publish a book that we encourage: traditional publishing through either Thomas Nelson or Zondervan publishing groups or self-publishing through WestBow Press, HarperCollins Christian Publishing’s self-publishing division. The second option is to self-publish. Amazon Publishing. Self-publishing a book: 25 things you need to know. Note to readers: I originally published the article back in 2008 and have updated it a few times, most recently on June 13, 2012. This article primarily addresses self-publishing a print book, though many of the tips apply to e-books as well.
For specific information about publishing an e-book, see my companion article, "How to self-publish an ebook. " I know, I know. This is a column about cutting-edge electronics. So, apologies to gadget-heads as I take a brief sojourn into the land of self-publishing, which has become a lot more high-tech than a lot of people realize. A few years ago I wrote a book. A novel. Its short history is this: I worked on it for several years, acquired a high-powered agent, had some brushes with major publishers, then, crickets. I could have tried to go for a small publisher, but I was told mine was "a bigger book" with more commercial aspirations and prestigious small publishers were interested in more literary tomes. 1.
Self-publishing a print book is easy. Blog | Sara Eckel | It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single (Perigee Penguin, 2014) I had a really nice chat with Julie Naughton at Publishers Weekly a few weeks ago. Here’s the interview: Modern Love Guide: PW Talks with Sara Eckel By Julie Naughton | Dec 13, 2013 In her upcoming book, It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single, Sara Eckel debunks the conventional wisdom as to why women of a certain age are still single. Along the way she shares her own story, giving women still looking for their special loved one a hopefully outlook. What inspired to you write the book? I was single for most of my adult life. I wrote a piece [that was a forerunner for the book] for the New York Times Modern Love column in September of 2011. Too many women buy into these seeming truisms, such as being more positive or loving yourself more—how would you suggest women react to that? What was really transformational for me personally was realizing that I was buying into it.
How do you feel about self-help books and dating services? How did you meet your husband? I met him at work. The Guaranteed Way to Get Any Guy (Or Girl) Wanna know how to get any guy (or girl), guaranteed? Easy, you’ve just gotta be SUPER hotttttt. Or rich. Or famous or charming or blah-blah-blah. Right?? Wrong. By the time you finish reading this article today, you’ll be at least 10x smarter. 1. So lets get started, awesomeness! Most of us live our entire lives in pursuit of external validation, in pursuit of someone else’s standard, someone else’s stamp of approval.
“Am I good enough?” The only problem? In doing so, we give others the power to define us. It doesn’t matter if you’re at the bottom or the top at any given moment– riding this rollercoaster ain’t no fun. Sometimes we’re at the bottom of the rollercoaster, and being at the bottom of the rollercoaster sucks. We’re getting rejected. We’re getting ignored.
Maybe we’re getting mistreated. Whatever the case may be, being at the bottom of the rollercoaster makes us feel like worthless crap. “I am not good enough.” “I am not valuable. “I fall short.” I mean, that is the answer, right? Nothing. Why You Will Never Find Your “Other Half” Believe it or not, you are not half-a-person walking around and looking for your other half. You are not a starving monkey in need of a banana. You are not a car without gas. And unlike Jerry Maguire, you do not need another person in order to be complete. Thinking that you need someone else to complete you is not only untrue, it’s dangerous– it implies that you are somehow inherently incomplete. And this, my friend, could not be farther from the truth. As cheesy as it sounds, owning your wholeness can and will change your life. 1.
Let’s face it: when you’re only half-a-person, you don’t have a whole lot to give—after all, half of you is missing. 2. Half-people like to whine to their friends about how every girl or guy they date is sucky. Newsflash: the sort of person you’re looking for, the one with the “whole package,” isn’t looking for half-a-person who has little to give.
Of course not. 3. Half-people allow others to trample on them far too often. Image credit: Princessan_J. How To Turn a Friend Into a Boyfriend - TheDatingDiva. Steve Harvey gives us 5 dating tips every woman needs to know - Newark Dating Advice. Steve Harvey, host of one of the most popular radio shows in the country, The Steve Harvey Morning Show, and author of best selling book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, has a lot of advice for women in the dating pool. A guest on Oprah last March, Harvey says this book holds special meaning for him because, aside from his charity work, he wrote this book purely to empower women. With the holidays right around the corner and all the parties, gatherings and outings to meet new people, it’s the perfect time for you ladies to brush up on your dating skills.
And if you’re already dating someone, holiday time is the best time to find out if your sweetie is here to stay or if it’s time for someone new. Visit www.thedatingdiva.net for more dating advice and to subscribe to our free dating newsletter with dating tips, Q&As and videos delivered to your inbox weekly! Introductions say it all. Men have an agenda. Set your standards high. Set the pace of the relationship. For Men Only: Men in a No-Win Situation - Denver Relationship Advice. Over the years, you men who have come into my Denver psychotherapy office have had a constant theme, “No matter what I do, I feel I can’t win with her.” The woman in your life says she wants you to be more open and emotional, but when you are she accuses you of being weak. She says she doesn’t want a man to take care of her, but she is insulted if you don’t pay for dinner. If you like her and tell her that, she pulls away because you’re being too emotional and pressuring her.
When you act strong and knowledgeable, she says you’re cold and self-righteous. Since you don’t know what women want, you often tiptoe around them, telling them what you think they want to hear. Here’s what to do instead: Don’t protect her from your feelings.When you hide your negative feels (& positive ones), you are being dishonest and not giving her the real intimacy she wants. Men today feel like they “can’t win” because they’ve had no practice. Dating Tips for Women: How to get into his head, so he can't get you out of his mind! Contact Us. Three Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Marry for Love. Those who don’t marry for love in our culture are considered unlucky, suspect, manipulative, exploitative, and bad. We feel they are either doing something wrong or there is something wrong with them.
It makes us feel everything from sympathy to contempt for these folks because most of us were taught that love is the only “right” reason to tie the knot. But if you really think about it, love is a luxury. When you marry for love, it generally means you have all — or at least most — of your other needs met (like food, shelter, warmth, etc). That may explain why those with fewer financial resources also have lower marriage rates: If you’re worried about your survival or safety, you’re not going to be focusing on finding the man or woman of your dreams — unless of course this dream person is your ticket out of your terrible home life, dreary financial picture or scary “singledom.” Some people call this settling, but we are seeing the wisdom of marriages like these more and more. 1. 2. 3. Seduction Strategies Don't Lead to Love—These Skills Do. The search for love is one of our greatest life-tasks.
Unfortunately, the quality of much dating advice and the atmosphere of most dating venues ranges from superficial to downright demeaning. The skills of dating are the skills of intimacy—not game-playing. These seven techniques will speed your path to love and strengthen your sense of self. Consider giving them a try. In the land of dating, the rewards can be profound, but the risks are daunting.
Dating demands sexual and emotional maturity, vulnerability, patience and bravery. Single people should be honored simply for tackling the challenge. 1) Discover the Art of Squinting If you’ve ever seen an artist working on a portrait, you may have noticed that he or she pauses to squint. 2) Focus on the quality of your connection This technique builds upon the previous one. We all have a fear-based way of handling the discomfort and insecurity of dating situations.
Each of these two forms of attraction follows its own trajectory. Make Them Love You by Taking (Not Giving) In the mood for love | Playlist. Bad Dating Tips: The 3 Ways Women Ruin a Date. Many women seem to think that just because nothing obvious was bad about a date, that a man should be interested and attracted to her and want to go out again... or else something was wrong with him. Maybe they think that a few more “okay” dates would cause him to open his eyes and heart and see the light. This is the kind of thinking that gets women into a lot of trouble and leaves them wondering why they’re single. Here’s what I mean. See if you recognize yourself in any of these scenarios: Problem 1: Playing It Safe Have you ever been so intent on getting a man to like you that you tried to act cool and watched every word you said? Playing it safe like this doesn’t do anything to spark a man’s interest or attention. “A man falls for a woman who makes him FEEL good and who is exciting and fun to be around - even if she is a little ‘bad’.”
Problem 2: Acting “Formal” This is death when it comes to interest and attraction. Problem 3: Being Boring And guess what happens then? Why a Man Chooses One Woman over Another —eHarmony Blog. In this weeks blog, psychologist, author and relationship expert Dr. Seth Meyers answers a question he hears quite frequently in his practice. Perhaps you imagine that love is mysterious and that what draws two people together is subject to the alignment of the stars in the sky. The truth, however, is that several factors are magnets which draw two people together in the beginning, and the glue that holds them together in the end. In my practice as a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, I can tell you that I hear first-hand each day about the factors that turn on – and turn off – men and women as they date in search of the right romantic match.
One of the most common questions I hear from women is, Why does a man choose one woman over another? In general, men love to be touched. One of the main factors that goes into a how a man chooses one woman over another has to do with what social group he believes she fits into. Learn more about Dr. The Real Reason You May Not Have Met 'The One' Yet —eHarmony Blog. I love today’s guest blog by author/relationship expert Debi Berndt, who isn’t afraid to get deep when it comes to the reasons you may be single, even if you are longing for a relationship.
Sometimes it really is about looking inward… Do you keep attracting the non-committal man or woman? You can see a pattern, but feel like the cause is outside of you. You blame your love problems on online dating or the city that you live in or the men or women your age, but the reason you don’t have your true partner isn’t about any of those things. The answer for your loneliness is unconscious and, since you can’t see your unconscious, you can start by looking at your actions. There is a quote in the Hindu text, The Upanishads that says, “As your deepest driving desire is, so is your will, as your will is, so is your deed, as your deed is, so is your destiny.” Here is an example: If you have a fear of heartache, your deepest driving desire may be to keep you safe. More articles by Debi Berndt: