How to save a marriage - aom. Does your marriage feel flat?
Studies show that after three years of marriage, many couples start complaining about their relationship being stale and boring. It’s no surprise then that most divorces occur within the first three years of marriage. How can you beat the marital blahs and consequently beat divorce? The answer is simple: date your wife all over again. Relationships are easy. Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Corey Allan of Simple Marriage.
~Robert Brault A few years ago it happened, and it couldn’t have come at a better moment. At the time I was involved in a monthly get together with my cousins. We were a group of eight cousins getting together to talk about family and life in general. It had started off when my sister was going through a nasty divorce, and one of the cousins came up with the idea of getting together to celebrate my sister’s birthday to bring some cheer into her life. Why you're not married. You want to get married.
It's taken a while to admit it. Saying it out loud -- even in your mind -- feels kind of desperate, kind of unfeminist, kind of definitely not you, or at least not any you that you recognize. Because you're hardly like those girls on TLC saying yes to the dress and you would never compete for a man like those poor actress-wannabes on The Bachelor. You've never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box. Monogamy. Dealing with different types of people. Personality typing systems abound on the Internet, some of them more reputable than others.
Facebook quizzes and other social media sites will tell you everything from which cartoon character you are most like to what love story your life most resembles. Art of listening. We should all know this: that listening, not talking, is the gifted and great role, and the imaginative role.
And the true listener is much more beloved, magnetic than the talker, and he is more effective and learns more and does more good. And so try listening. Listen to your wife, your husband, your father, your mother, your children, your friends; to those who love you and those who don't, to those who bore you, to your enemies. It will work a small miracle. Men, women & stress. Hmh. Happy marriage strategies. ‘The Marriage of Figaro’ courtesy of TheIntelligencer Despairingly, he looked at her, shook his head, and asked, “Whatever happened to us?
We don’t laugh any more; we used to always be laughing!” With contemptuous expression and voice, she retorted, “Yes, but not at the same time.” This one line from a classic moment of the British sitcom Fawlty Towers illuminated Basil and Sybil Fawlty’s entire relationship. Is a happy, long-lasting marriage really still possible? How ironic that the recent obsession with ‘personal fulfilment’ – the importance of oneself at the expense of others – has resulted in more people feeling unfulfilled, sad, and lonely. Happy marriages for greater health To some, marriage may seem old-fashioned, but research repeatedly shows that people who stay married to one partner are the happiest (1) and that married people are statistically happier and longer-lived (2) than their unmarried counterparts. Certainly no marriage is perfect, but many are happy. 1. What women should know about men.
Couples therapist Jason Fierstein introduces himself and recalls some important tidbits of information that women should know about men.
Jason Fierstein: Well hi, my name is Jason Fierstein and I’m a counselor for men and couples. I work in private practice here in Phoenix and I help guys who are struggling in the relationships and help the women who are in relationships with them understand their guys a little bit better. 75 ways to show love. Relationships are easy. Don't hope ... decide. It's Now Or Never Don't Hope Friend....Decide By Michael D.
Hargrove While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life changing experiences that you hear other people talk about, the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly. This one occurred a mere two feet away from me. First he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe nine or ten) and while cupping his son's face in his hands said, "You're already quite the young man. While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one-and-a-half) was squirming excitedly in her mother's arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, "I've saved the best for last," and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. "Two whole days!
" Two days? Connecting in relationships. “Excellence can be obtained if you care more than others think is wise, risk more than others think is safe, dream more than others think is practical, expect more than others think is possible.”
~Unknown I liked this quote because I find that we often we lose sight of our truest selves in the world of dating. I have noticed that a common theme among my clients is the confusion and frustration that comes when trying to determine if someone is “the one.” Fidelity & genetics. Stuart Bradford Why do some men and women cheat on their partners while others resist the temptation? To find the answer, a growing body of research is focusing on the science of commitment. Scientists are studying everything from the biological factors that seem to influence marital stability to a person’s psychological response after flirting with a stranger.
Their findings suggest that while some people may be naturally more resistant to temptation, men and women can also train themselves to protect their relationships and raise their feelings of commitment. Recent studies have raised questions about whether genetic factors may influence commitment and marital stability. Over all, men who carried a variation in the gene were less likely to be married, and those who had wed were more likely to have had serious marital problems and unhappy wives. Although the trait is often called the “fidelity gene,” Mr. No pattern emerged among the study participants who imagined a routine encounter. 40 healthy relationship signs.
True love lost.