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Can Teenage Defiance Be Manipulated for Good? An interesting pattern emerged. Teenagers who had read the exposé article chose fewer junk food items than those in the control groups. They were 11 percentage points more likely to forgo at least one unhealthy snack, like Oreos, Cheetos or Doritos, in favor of fruit, baby carrots or trail mix, and seven percentage points more likely to choose water over Coca-Cola, Sprite or Hi-C. That might seem like a small difference, but if sustained it would translate to the loss of about a pound of body fat every six to eight weeks, the researchers said — a public health triumph.

What I like about this study is that it doesn’t just reframe healthy eating for adolescents; it recasts adolescent defiance for adults. Of course, we don’t know if this behavior change will last longer than a day. “What’s really exciting about this study and other work like it is that if you can appeal to kids’ sense of wanting to not be duped, you empower them to take a stand,” said Dr. From her experience, Ms. Mr. When Teenagers Bristle at ‘How Was School?’ Glogin?URI= To save articles or get newsletters, alerts or recommendations – all free. Don't have an account yet? Create an account » It’s never too early to teach children about consent and boundaries. (iStock) Children need to learn about healthy consent and boundaries.

That might seem like a simple concept, but there are a lot of ideas and practices surrounding this topic that need to be unpacked and examined. For example, how soon do we start these discussions? There’s a misconception that ideas about consent and bodily autonomy should be lumped in with sexual education, but that’s actually far too late. Healthy boundaries apply to so much more than just sex or partnership, and we should begin teaching our children as early as possible.

Of course, these discussions need to be age-appropriate, and parents might struggle with figuring out how to communicate a huge topic like consent to someone whose vocabulary and understanding are still developing. Model consent for your children Parents can model consent and boundaries for small children “by respecting their personhood,” says Horton. Remember that your child is watching and learning from your interactions. Lifestyle on-parenting Help! Top 10 skills middle school students need to thrive, and how parents can help. By Phyllis L. Fagell February 29 (istock photo) In elementary school, I was too shy to address my teachers by name. I would hover nearby, hoping they would realize I had a question. By middle school, I was ready to throw myself into the mix. On the plus side, I figured out how to connect with teachers, and I learned I could solve math problems when I made an effort. There is no manual to develop “soft” skills like perseverance and resilience.

Top 10 Social Emotional Skills For Middle School Students 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Phyllis L. Like On Parenting on Facebook for more essays, advice and news. You might also be interested in: What do you do with a “bad” kid in your child’s class? Tips to help kids keep learning, even when the going gets rough No, honey, you can’t be anything you want to be. How to raise a happy teen — Stie's Thoughts. Number Six: Don't sweat the small stuff. When living with teenagers, it can be so easy to see the backpack dropped in the middle of the living room as laziness. Or the bedroom scattered with dirty clothes as irresponsible. Instead, and before you open your mouth to yell at them, put yourself in their shoes. Find out about their day first. Maybe they are feeling beaten down, and they just need to unwind for a minute and tell you about it. That being said, do I completely ignore the state of my boys' bedrooms all the time?

I will not have a bad relationship with my kid over a pile of clothes on the floor. Number Seven: Last, but not least, is to stand back and watch the magic happen. They are just about the greatest gift that god gave to parents. And I'm beyond lucky to call this crazy group mine. Navigating life's highs and lows with teenage girls. College Parents Matter Home. Middle school moms the most stressed, per study. Infancy? Sure, dealing with a newborn is beyond stressful, as you try to figure out how to care for an infant and adjust to a new role all on zero sleep. It would be no surprise if those years were the most taxing. But I -- and probably many of you reading this -- would guess adolescence, namely the high school years, which I might add I am already dreading.

But it turns out the most stressful time for moms is middle school, at least according to a new study by Arizona State University researchers published in the January issue of Developmental Psychology. "I was a little taken aback to see that apparently preadolescence is the new adolescence or junior high school or middle school is the new high school," said Suniya Luthar, one of the study's co-authors and a professor of psychology at Arizona State University. This probably shouldn't be a surprise. "You see this person who is almost but not quite grown-up physically, saying at one moment, 'Leave me alone. The 'Botox brow' Family/Parenting 2015.

Parenting Shouldn’t Be About Self-Sacrifice, Whatever Your Income | The New Republic. Since becoming a mother five years ago, I’ve been careful about how I discuss parenting with my childless friends. I try to avoid clichés. I try not to describe it as a more noble and sacred act that I’m experiencing it to be. I tell them it’s fun; it can be like reliving my own childhood, playing a new role in each familiar scene. It makes me cry—and laugh—far more than I am used to. It’s terrifying and interminable. And yes, I can imagine my life without parenting. Last weekend, I stumbled upon a new Buzzfeed video called, "Children From Black Families Reveal Sacrifices Their Parents Made.”

Their gratitude is both moving and relatable. The idea of high-stakes trade-offs—overtime at work instead of quality time at home, sleep traded for attentiveness, retirement as opposed to a job that afforded the children free tuition—are familiar to parents, especially working- and middle-class ones. So much of our experience of parenting has to do with how we think and talk about it. How Schools Are Handling An 'Overparenting' Crisis : NPR Ed. Have you ever done your children's homework for them? Have you driven to school to drop off an assignment that they forgot? Have you done a college student's laundry? What about coming along to Junior's first job interview?

These examples are drawn from two new books — How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims and The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey. The books make strikingly similar claims about today's youth and their parents: Parents are "too worried about [their children's] future achievements to allow [them] to work through the obstacles in their path" (Lahey) and "students who seemed increasingly reliant on their parents in ways that felt, simply, off" (Lythcott-Haims). I asked them to join me for a conversation about the problem — and what parents and schools can do about it. What is the core of what's happening with kids and parents today? Lahey: We really need to stop looking to our kids for validation.

Lythcott-Haims: Yeah. How are schools playing into this dynamic? 1. 2. 3. Power of Parents. Mental Health a Greater Worry than Substance Abuse for Parents of Teens, Survey Finds - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids. Parents are more concerned about their teens’ mental health than about their use of drugs or alcohol, a new survey finds.

While 65 percent of 3,100 parents surveyed said they are concerned their teen suffers from anxiety or depression, more than three-quarters say they think their teen never uses drugs or alcohol, according to the survey by Silver Hill Hospital in New Canaan, Connecticut. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has found that 66 percent of students say they have had at least one drink of alcohol, and 41 percent of students have used marijuana at least once, Yahoo Parenting reports. “This reflects a dramatic underestimate of teenage substance use and again points toward the need for education for parents both with respect to communicating with their teens about drug and alcohol use as well as looking for telltale signs of drug and alcohol consumption,” said Dr.

Aaron Krasner, an adolescent medicine specialist at Silver Hill. Parents Get Advice on Talking to Their Teens About Marijuana With New Toolkit - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids. As more states legalize the recreational use of marijuana, parents are finding it more challenging to talk to their teens about drug use. A new resource for parents, called the “Marijuana Talk Kit” takes this new landscape into account. It provides specific examples for starting conversations and answering teens’ questions about marijuana. The free resource is being released today by the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids.

“With more states legalizing marijuana for recreational use, we were getting a lot of questions from parents about how to talk to their teens about marijuana,” said Heather Senior, LCSW, Parent Support Network Manager at the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids. “Teens are saying to their parents, ‘How can this be so bad if states are legalizing it?’” The Talk Kit explains that although marijuana is legal in some states, it does not change the fact that all mind-altering substances — including marijuana — are harmful for the still-developing teen brain. Marijuana Talk Kit for Parents.

Between marijuana legalization, the normalization in pop culture and new ways of using (edibles, vaporizers, concentrates), it’s becoming more complicated for parents to talk to their teens. So where do you start? And what should you say? The Partnership for Drug-Free Kids is here to help. Facts about marijuana Why weed is still risky for teens Ways to talk with your teen about marijuana What you should - and shouldn't say - when talking with your teen How to respond to your teen’s questions and arguments Resources to help The Marijuana Talk Kit will help you have meaningful, productive conversations with your teen.

“Marijuana is a plant. “Would you rather I drink alcohol? “But you smoked weed when you were younger.”