The 'Busy' Trap. The manic defence is the tendency, when presented with uncomfortable thoughts or feelings, to distract the conscious mind either with a flurry of activity or with the opposite thoughts or feelings. A general example of the manic defence is the person who spends all of his time rushing around from one task to the next, and who is unable to tolerate even short periods of inactivity. For this person, even leisure time consists in a series of discrete programmed activities that he needs to submit to in order to tick off from an actual or mental list. One needs only observe the expression on his face as he ploughs through yet another family outing, cultural event, or gruelling exercise routine to realize that his aim in life is not so much to live in the present moment as it is to work down his never-ending list.
Why Do Depressed People Lie in Bed? If you've personally suffered from depression or known someone who has, you know that when people are really depressed, they have a strong urge to stay in bed.
How to Create a Happy Mood. How Your Greatest Insecurities Reveal Your Deepest Gifts. In my decades of practice as a psychotherapist, this is the insight that has inspired me most: Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts.
I've found that the very qualities we're most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to reshape or hide, are in fact the key to finding real love. I call them core gifts. It's so easy to get lost in the quest for self-improvement. Every billboard seduces us with the vision of a happier, more successful life. Over the years, I realized that the characteristics of my clients which I found most inspiring, most essentially them, were the ones which frequently caused them the most suffering. Salvador Dali's Creative Thinking Technique. You're Stronger than You Think. Famous Failures. The 7 D’s of Relationship Destruction. All of us sometimes engage in behaviors that make our partners uncomfortable.
The actions listed below can tear your relationship apart and if they have become part of how you relate to each other, you will have significant problems sooner or later. It's important to avoid the following: 1. If you don't tell the whole truth as soon as possible, when your mate finds out, it could kill your relationship. Surviving Tough Times. Dick Marcinko, author of and other books about the Navy Seals and related topics, says that when he is looking for tough men for his units, he looks for warthogs, not gazelles.
A gazelle is fast, lovely, and elegant. Warthogs are ugly and slow. To Marcencko, a gazelle is someone who does things effortlessly and well. They're smart and talented. Everything comes easily to them. Are you thriving? Here is a checklist. In my last post I advocated that we move beyond resiliency as a goal to as a goal.
Why settle for less? But what does thriving look like? I feel like I am thriving in my life right now (it has not always been the case). So here is my own personal take on what contributes to thriving. {*style:<b>DAILY PRACTICES </b>*} Laughing in delight Being playful with others Getting good sleep (in the dark to prevent cancer) Meat Eaters Downplay Animal Minds. The decision about whether to eat meat has a moral dimension to it.
The animals that we use for food are complex creatures. Deciding to eat them means accepting that they will be killed so that you can eat them. That is not to say, of course, that people grapple with this decision at every meal, but in some way everyone has to make some decision about whether to eat animals. And before I go any further with this discussion, I should mention that I have been a vegetarian for about 10 years now for a combination of economic, health, and moral reasons. An interesting question about eating meat involves how people grapple with the issue that many animals people eat are reasonably intelligent creatures.
Study Smarter, Not Harder. Good students don't just study harder, they study smarter.
A study published this week identifies some habits of successful college students. I'll describe the new study shortly, but first: How should students study ? A growing body of cognitive psychology research emphasizes the value of two principles: Principle one is space your studying out over time . If you study something and then study it again right away, it's fresh in your mind the second time.
Principle two is test yourself . Developing Good Study Habits Really Works. Knowledge is the essence of smart thinking. No matter how much raw intelligence you have, you are not going to succeed at solving complex problems without knowing a lot. Sometimes, Happiness is a Choice. {*style:<b>Marcus Aurelius </b>*} “Hey, that’s not !”
Do you remember the first time you heard or said these words? Maybe it was while playing hopscotch, tag, or “Monopoly” with your friends or siblings. Or, like me, you may recall that expression from the school playground, when someone broke the rules of the touch football game. There’s just one problem with this noble ideal: the world simply doesn’t work that way.