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The Four Mantras of True Presence. When you love someone, you have to be truly present for him or for her.

The Four Mantras of True Presence

A ten-year-old boy I know was asked by his father what he wanted for his birthday, and he didn’t know how to answer. His father is quite wealthy and could afford to buy almost anything he might want. But the young man only said, “Daddy, I want you!” His father is too busy – he has no time for his wife or his children. To demonstrate true love, we have to make ourselves available. The greatest gift we can make to others is our true presence. When you are concentrated – mind and body together – you produce your true presence, and anything you say is a mantra. When we're Triggered: How to Stop Reacting Defensively. Get elephant's newsletter Every single moment you live—awake and aware inside your life—is another tiny (or huge) opportunity for healing, even your moments on Facebook.

When we're Triggered: How to Stop Reacting Defensively.

I recently opened up a discussion about this topic in one of my favorite healing groups on Facebook. When We Judge a Person Harshly With a Label or Dismissal, We Kill the Human Being Inside of Them. By Tim Hjersted / No person or group of people is ever one thing.

When We Judge a Person Harshly With a Label or Dismissal, We Kill the Human Being Inside of Them


Grief. Jackson Pollock on Art, Labels, and Morality, Shortly Before His Death. Anthropology of the Brain: Consciousness, Culture, and Free Will. In this unique exploration of the mysteries of the human brain, Roger Bartra shows that consciousness is a phenomenon that occurs not only in the mind, but also in an external network, a symbolic system.

Anthropology of the Brain: Consciousness, Culture, and Free Will

He argues that the symbolic systems created by humans in art, language, in cooking or in dress, are the key to understanding human consciousness. Placing culture at the centre of his analysis, Bartra brings together findings from anthropology and cognitive science and offers an original vision of the continuity between the brain and its symbolic environment. The book is essential reading for neurologists, cognitive scientists and anthropologists alike. The Nature of the Self: Experimental Philosopher Joshua Knobe on How We Know Who We Are.

“The fate of the world depends on the Selves of human beings,” pioneering educator Annemarie Roeper wrote in her meditation on how poorly we understand the self.

The Nature of the Self: Experimental Philosopher Joshua Knobe on How We Know Who We Are

Indeed, while philosophers may argue that the self is a toxic illusion and psychologists may insist that it’s forever changing, we tend to float through life anchored by a firm conviction that the self is our sole constant companion. But when psychologist David DeSteno asks “Can the present you trust the future you?” In his fantastic exploration of the psychology of trust, the question leaves us — at least, leaves me — suddenly paralyzed with the realization that the future self is in many ways fundamentally different from the present self.


The Self-Acceptance Project. What's Your MBTI Personality Type? Enrich Your Life Through Self-Discovery. Get elephant's newsletter The first time I heard of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test (MBTI), it was because my husband had to take this assessment at work.

What's Your MBTI Personality Type? Enrich Your Life Through Self-Discovery.

Actually, many work places use this assessment due to its accuracy and easy-testing method. PL 015: The Power of Mirrors – Take A Look At What You Are Missing. Podcast: Play in new window | Download In order to change, we need to be able to see what needs to change.

PL 015: The Power of Mirrors – Take A Look At What You Are Missing

Which Character Strengths Are Most Predictive of Well-Being? - Beautiful Minds - Scientific American Blog Network. Ask better Questions: Algorithms for everyone! I finish my series of 5 community rules, 4 principles of engagement, 3 approaches that work, 2 ½ change caveats, with One Ask.

Ask better Questions: Algorithms for everyone!

My one ask is: Ask Better Questions. 1. Local-level practitioners should be using our 5 community rules. Ruth Chang: How to make hard choices. What Is Philosophy For? A Beautiful Animated Manifesto for Undoing Our Unwisdom, Cultivating Our Character, and Gaining Perspective. Young vs. Old, Male vs. Female, Intuition vs. Intellect: Susan Sontag on How the Stereotypes and Polarities of Culture Imprison Us. Isabel Allende: Tales of passion. I Am Cow, Hear Me Moo: A Charming Illustrated Ode to Courage and Confidence. By Maria Popova.

I Am Cow, Hear Me Moo: A Charming Illustrated Ode to Courage and Confidence

Aamer Rahman (Fear of a Brown Planet) - Reverse Racism. Burnout: Experiences & Advice. The concluding questions of our ‘activist health and wellbeing survey’ focused on one of the biggest barriers to sustaining activism: burnout.

Burnout: Experiences & Advice

This is the final post in this series. Defining burnout Burnout can be defined in a number of ways, uses this definition; Burnout is a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion caused by long-term involvement in situations that are emotionally demanding. Rilke on Embracing Uncertainty and Living the Questions. A Spiritual Response to the Ecological Crisis. What a Shaman Sees in A Mental Hospital. In the shamanic view, mental illness signals “the birth of a healer,” explains Malidoma Patrice Somé.

Thus, mental disorders are spiritual emergencies, spiritual crises, and need to be regarded as such to aid the healer in being born. What those in the West view as mental illness, the Dagara people regard as “good news from the other world.” The person going through the crisis has been chosen as a medium for a message to the community that needs to be communicated from the spirit realm. “Mental disorder, behavioral disorder of all kinds, signal the fact that two obviously incompatible energies have merged into the same field,” says Dr.

"You Teach People How to Treat You" Why We Lie : TED Radio Hour. Steven Pinker and Rebecca Newberger Goldstein: The long reach of reason. The Unaddressed Business of Filling Our Souls: Mood Science and the Evolutionary Origins of Depression. By Maria Popova What language and symbolism have to do with mood and how light exposure and sleep shape our mental health. “Depression is a disorder of the ‘I,’ failing in your own eyes relative to your goals,” legendary psychologist Martin Seligman observed in his essential treatise on learned optimism. But such a definition of depression, while true, appears somehow insufficient, overlooking the multitude of excruciating physical and psychological realities of the disease beyond the sense of personal failure. Why Americans Are the Weirdest People in the World.

In the Summer of 1995, a young graduate student in anthropology at UCLA named Joe Henrich traveled to Peru to carry out some fieldwork among the Machiguenga, an indigenous people who live north of Machu Picchu in the Amazon basin. The Machiguenga had traditionally been horticulturalists who lived in single-family, thatch-roofed houses in small hamlets composed of clusters of extended families. For sustenance, they relied on local game and produce from small-scale farming. They shared with their kin but rarely traded with outside groups. The 13 Best Books of 2013: The Definitive Annual Reading List of Overall Favorites.

By Maria Popova. Givers, Takers, and Matchers: The Surprising Social Science of Success. By Maria Popova.

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Habit Change. Intuition. Out of Character: The Psychology of Good and Evil. By Maria Popova. Responding to Anger. Irrationality. Connection. Anxiety.

Emotion. Trust. Empathy. Music, the mind, and medicine: A Q&A with Robert Gupta. Can music be a medical instrument? In a moving talk from TEDMed, Robert Gupta reveals that it certainly can be. Eight Things I Learned from Pain. Eleanor Longden: The voices in my head. Psychologists: Getting Liberals to Agree Really is Like Herding Cats. When he was President, Bill Clinton famously (and perhaps apocryphally) complained that getting Democrats to agree on a course of action was like herding cats, while the Republicans didn’t seem to have this problem. All political parties are large coalitions of people with varied interests and beliefs, but is it possible that ideological differences between the parties could play a decisive role here?

A new paper by researchers at New York University, in press at Psychological Science, suggests that the answer is yes. A large body of psychological research has shown that people tend to overestimate how much others share their beliefs, feelings, and practices. Jonathan Haidt: The moral roots of liberals and conservatives.