10 Things Not to Say to Your Kids - The Kid Counselor™ When I think about all of the phrases, anecdotes, and sayings about the power of the spoken word I am reminded of how I changed my way of communicating with children upon learning Play Therapy principles. I realize that using Play Therapy based language is a learned and practiced skill that requires time and effort, so I thought it would be helpful to share ten commonly used phrases parents say to their kids. I will also give the Play Therapy based alternative with a short explanation of why it is more effective. 1. No (running, hitting, yelling, fill in the verb)! Kids hear the word “no” far too frequently (Read more about that here). 2. I have spent a good deal of time on articles on the difference between Praise vs. 3.
Children are programmed to question, analyze and wonder about situations. 4. This does two things. 5. I can’t tell you the number of times I hear that phrase when around other parents, even though it is highly ineffective. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Please share this post.