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The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About | Drifting Through My Open Mind. Image: Shutterstock There’s this thing that happens whenever I speak about or write about women’s issues. Things like dress codes, rape culture and sexism. I get the comments: Aren’t there more important things to worry about? Is this really that big of a deal? Every. And every single time I get frustrated. I think I’ve figured out why. They don’t know. They don’t know about de-escalation. Hell, even though women live it, we are not always aware of it. We have all learned, either by instinct or by trial and error, how to minimize a situation that makes us uncomfortable. It doesn’t feel good. It’s not something we talk about every day. So maybe they don’t know. So routine that we go through the motions of ignoring it and minimizing. We learn at a young age how to do this. We go through a quick mental checklist. It happens all the time.

It is the boss who says or does something inappropriate. We see it happen to our friends. But all the other times? Maybe we need to explain it better. The Ultimate Misandrist Holiday Gift Guide. Want To Be An Ally To Sex Workers? Here’s What You Need To Understand To Help Keep Us Safe - BGD. By TS Piper Darling Each year on December 17th International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers is observed around the world. Even though it is an international event, I want to talk about violence against sex workers in the United States because it has the highest rate of sex worker murders worldwide.

The criminalization of sex work in the United States is largely the reason why it can be so dangerous. Many people hold the idea that harsher policing will ‘save’ more sex workers, but that approach actually serves to continue violence and destroy many of our tactics for safety. The more that sex work is pushed underground and harshly policed, the more unsafe the work becomes. Several years ago, I received a violent message from a potential client. Almost a year later, I heard that he’d harmed other trans women sex workers by robbing, attacking, and stalking them. But it’s not uncommon for sex workers who survive violence to go to the police. Follow BGD: Reddit "ask a rapist" thread is now the subject of a research study:

Icsnaps/Shutterstock Garden-variety cultural sexism lays the foundations for extreme violence against women, according to a study published this month in the journal Psychology of Violence. Which means that in educating teens and college students about consensual sex, ideas about women as “gatekeepers” and men as captives to their high libidos need to be the first notion to go.

Researchers at Georgia State University drew these conclusions from analyzing a 2012 Reddit thread. In July of that year, a poster commented, “Reddit’s had a few threads about sexual assault victims, but are there any redditors from the other side of the story? What were your motivations? Do you regret it?” The Georgia State academics saw the anonymous confessions that followed as a rare chance to study “the interpretive lens perpetrators use to justify their actions.” The Reddit discussion in question, dubbed the “ask-a-rapist thread,” was predictably controversial when it originally appeared. Rapists Explain Themselves on Reddit, and We Should Listen. I'm A Bad Feminist, But Not Because I Don't Like Iggy Azalea | Olivia Cole. Roxane Gay, who is much wiser (and certainly a better writer) than I am, said the following in Bad Feminist: "I embrace the label of bad feminist because I am human. I am messy. I'm not trying to be an example. I am not trying to be perfect.

I am not trying to say I have all the answers. I am not trying to say I'm right. I am just trying -- trying to support what I believe in, trying to do some good in this world, trying to make some noise with my writing while also being myself. " I think of this quote often when being trolled by people (both men and women, both in real life and on the Internet) who latch on to any given aspect of my humanity and poke the various bears of my beliefs with "Oh you like ____?

Well, no. And granted, Iggy has faced sexism. Certainly this isn't an argument of "I'm a bad feminist, but Iggy Azalea is a worst feminist! " Feminism does not exist to serve as a magical shield to protect women from criticism. In another world, I might have liked Iggy Azalea. I Read 50 Books by Women of Color This Year!

For the past two years, I set myself a goal of reading 50 books by people of color. I decided on the challenge after listening to a podcast with speculative fiction writer Nalo Hopkinson, who talked about how books by people of color tend to be overlooked by publishers and readers alike. If you don't seek out new voices, it's easy to fall into reading books primarily, if not solely, by white authors. The challenge has introduced me to new authors, some of whom I’d never read but are widely known and some whose first novels debuted this year (Zen Cho—when can I read your next novel?). By July, I had met my challenge. Then I looked at my reading list and frowned.

Two weeks before 2015 comes to a close, I’ve met my challenge. Speculative Fiction, Sci-Fi, and Fantasy Readers may remember my early interview with Zen Cho about her first novel, Sorcerer to the Crown. I also discovered N. Of course, Jemisin isn’t the only author to build a whole new world that sucks a reader in. Mysteries Memoirs. A girl narrates a letter to her dad as she grows up, and it makes rape culture obvious. Dear daddy, I just wanted to thank you for looking after me so well, even though I'm not yet born. I know you already try harder than Superman, you won't even let mommy eat sushi, but I need to ask you a favor.

Warning, it's about boys, because I will be born a girl, which means that by the time I'm 14, the boys in my class will have called me a whore, a bitch, a cunt, and many other things. It's just for fun, of course, something boys do, so you won't worry, and I understand that. Perhaps you did the same when you were young, trying to impress some of the other boys. No wonder I'm raped when I'm 21. 21 and on my way home in a taxi driven by the son of a guy you went swimming with every Wednesday. Then finally, I meet Mr. One thing I do know, I'm not the victim type. Dear daddy, this is the favor I want to ask. Dear daddy, I know you will protect me from lions, tigers, guns, cars, and even sushi without even thinking about the danger to your own life. 5 Simple Ways Men Can Better Respect Women. I’m noticing a trend lately — over the past couple of years especially — where we feminists really want to get dudes on board. “Come on, guys,” we’re collectively calling.

“It’s time to get your shit together.” Based on the countless outlets and publications I’ve seen boasting headlines along the lines of “10 Really Awesome Feminist Guys You Should Follow on Twitter” and “20 Ways to Be a Super Cool Feminist Man,” I get the impression that we’re fed up with the microaggressions committed against us on the daily and want to show how fun being on the right side of social change can be.

And all right. But I’m a little concerned about how inaccessible a lot of these pieces tend to be. Because they’re either sarcastic – and I love me some sarcasm; I just don’t think it’s the best educational tool – or they’re larger than life, exploring big-name activists with a lot of social capital who don’t really need more exposure in the first place. So here’s a short introduction, guys. 1. Cue side-eye. 2. How to Introduce Your Partner to Feminism. I didn’t identify as a feminist when I first met my partner seven years ago.

I didn’t become a self-identifying feminist overnight. I’ve always had feminist beliefs; I just didn’t know they were feminist. Perhaps it’s the scrutiny and negative connotations that come with identifying as a feminist, but there’s something different between having feminist ideals and outwardly identifying as a feminist. But as I became more comfortable identifying as a feminist, I began to feel wary about coming out as a feminist to one of the closest people in my life – my partner. Seeing one another’s growth is one of the most beautiful privileges of being in a long-term relationship. But I couldn’t expect the worst without even knowing the end result. So if you’re in the same proverbial boat, then this article is for you. You’re a Feminist – Own It Own who you are, a feminist. This was personally the hardest thing for me to do.

But I couldn’t hide who I was, especially not from my partner. Be Realistic. White Feminist Fatigue Syndrome. A reply to Nancy Fraser In her re­cent piece in Comment is Free, “How fem­inism be­came capitalism’s hand­maiden — and how to re­claim it” Nancy Fraser draws on her own work in polit­ical theory to argue that fem­inism at best has been co-​opted by neo­lib­er­alism and at worst has been a cap­it­alist ven­ture of the neo-​liberal pro­ject. What ap­pears at first glance to be a reasoned self-​reflection, one that takes stock and re­spons­ib­ility for past al­li­ances and cel­eb­ra­tions of stra­tegic moves for the bet­ter­ment of women’s lives, at second glance re­veals the in­nate and re­pet­itive my­opia of White fem­inism to take ac­count, to con­verse and think along with Black and Third World Feminists.

Writing from the early 1970s on­wards, these scholars and act­iv­ists have sys­tem­at­ic­ally en­gaged a fem­inist cri­tique of not only state cap­it­alism, but of a glob­al­ised cap­it­alism rooted in co­lo­nial legacies. The work of A.Y. Geek Feminism Wiki. Megan rosalarian gedris. Harassment. New Comic! NOTE: A version of this comic with the term ‘fuck’ edited to f&@k for use in fuck-restricted environments can be found here. TRANSLATIONS:PortugueseFrench (French translation credit Simon B., proofreading Juliette L.).Japanese (translation credit Nisreen)Traditional ChineseSimplified Chinese (translations credit: Asmin Chen)Spanish (translation: Carmen) TRIGGER WARNING: This comic discusses harassment, sexism, rape culture, and toxic attitudes towards women and femmefolk. It includes examples of slurs, harassment, and quotes from sexual offenders.

This is the longest comic I’ve ever done and it’s a monster and it took me forever and I never want to draw again. Ok, that’s not true. I used to take a certain route fairly frequently, a couple of times a week. “Hey, red!” “Good seeing you again” “Looking good, red!” (I had red hair back then) And I thought I didn’t care so much, but then I found myself altering my route, or feeling stressed, knowing I’d likely encounter them again. Commute. Stranger Danger. New Comic! TRANSLATIONS:Spanish (Credit: Taller de Teoría Queer) All of the experiences in this comic are either directly from my own life or related to me by people I know and care for.

I don’t know, I’m all mad today. In the elevator in my building a woman decided she had an opinion about something I was wearing around my neck and grabbed it so she could tell me what she thought, and got mad when I told her to fuck off. I’m tired of my body and my life being public property, of my identity and choices being used by others for leverage, at that entitled hurt or anger in their eyes when I don’t want to play along.

20140501 190032. WlYQBzK. Ninja Sex Farty. O5scowi.jpg (JPEG Image, 960x480 pixels) U4KeKaE. What are kid-friendly movies that show more powerful women? I got this 5 year old au-pair kid and she's loves action and loves them women protagonist : AskTrollX. The 10 Tallest Women In Celebdom | Celebrity Gossip + Entertainment News. A lot of focus is always put on how short men in Hollywood are. It’s like the ultimate optical illusion, right? They seem so larger-than-life on screen, but in real life they’re itty-bitty Lilliputs with lifts in their shoes (we’re looking at you, Tom Cruise). The awkward part of the equation? There are a ton of super-tall female stars in celebdom!

Pairing Amazonian beauties with legs up to their chins with tiny guys only makes the dudes look smaller — and the women look enormous. Hence, the lowkey platform man-shoes. Seems unfair. [Photos: Getty Images] Patricia Lockwood, "Rape Joke" The rape joke is that you were 19 years old. The rape joke is that he was your boyfriend. The rape joke it wore a goatee. A goatee. Imagine the rape joke looking in the mirror, perfectly reflecting back itself, and grooming itself to look more like a rape joke. “Ahhhh,” it thinks. “Yes. A goatee.” No offense. The rape joke is that he was seven years older.

Then suddenly you were older, but not very old at all. The rape joke is that you had been drinking wine coolers. The rape joke is he was a bouncer, and kept people out for a living. Not you! The rape joke is that he carried a knife, and would show it to you, and would turn it over and over in his hands as if it were a book. He wasn’t threatening you, you understood. The rape joke is he once almost murdered a dude by throwing him through a plate-glass window. How can a piece of knowledge be stupid? The rape joke is that his best friend was named Peewee. OK, the rape joke is that he worshiped The Rock. It gets funnier. Admit it. Pk4dVQC. iXGsQV1.png 600×371 pixels. 5 Minutes Of What The Media Actually Does To Women. FKeWzUs.