The Important Things and Advice to know that People Generally Aren't Told about. What are important things and advice to know that people generally aren’t told about? Here’s a great answer we found in Quora by Marcus Geduld who provides some valuable tips on life improvement. 1. Marry your best friend. I am truly amazed that I have the most successful marriage of all my friends — going strong after fifteen years. Most of my friends are amazed, too, because, growing up, I was the geek who couldn’t get a girlfriend. I had almost no relationships until I was in my mid twenties. I got married at 29. What I’ve noticed about these people is that, 90% of the time, (a) they got married really young and (b) they mistakenly thought that long-term romances work best when when they’re based entirely on lust and trivial shared tastes (e.g. Sometimes, I hear people say things like, “I’ve been dating this guy for a year.
If you don’t know that the other person is ‘the one,’ he or show is not. (Let me be really clear about what I mean by “don’t settle.” See also: 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Marcus Geduld's answer to Research: How do I overcome my thought that there are so many people smarter than me. 7 Harsh Truths That Will Improve Your Life. Truth hurts, but someone has to say it. Your life is what you make of it and the only person who can help you is yourself.
If you’re ready to take personal responsibility and improve your life, I invite you to apply these seven harsh truths today. 1. No One Is Going to Fix You If you are waiting for a knight in shining armor to gallop into your life and heal your broken heart, you will be waiting forever. 2. If you are waiting for the “right” time to do something — pursue self-employment, begin a fitness plan, dive into the dating pool, or move to a new town — you’re going to be waiting forever. 3. If you attempt to achieve an ambitious new goal, then it is possible that you will fall on your face while pursuing said goal. 4. Have you ever made a mistake so monumental that you wish you could go back in time and do it all over again? 5. Steve Jobs said it best, so I’m going to defer to him for this harsh truth: 6. 7. Talk to us I know truth hurts, but someone had to say it.
Assertivité. L’assertivité, ou comportement assertif, est un concept de la première moitié du XXe siècle introduit par le psychologue new-yorkais Andrew Salter (en)[1][réf. à confirmer] désignant la capacité à s’exprimer et à défendre ses droits sans empiéter sur ceux d'autrui. Il a été développé plus récemment par Joseph Wolpe, psychiatre et professeur de médecine américain, qui le décrivait comme une « expression libre de toutes émotions vis-à-vis d’un tiers, à l’exception de l’anxiété ». Plusieurs ouvrages de vulgarisation ont été publiés dans la seconde moitié du XXe siècle pour faire la promotion de l’assertivité, en particulier dans le cadre du développement personnel[N 1].
Origines[modifier | modifier le code] Le mot assertivité vient de l’anglais assertiveness, substantif formé à partir du verbe « to assert » : affirmer, assertion, s’affirmer, défendre ses droits, défendre son opinion. Définition[modifier | modifier le code] Applications[modifier | modifier le code] Bower S. Daily Quote: Great Mind Discuss Ideas. Learning To Accept Yourself As An Introvert. If you identify as a natural introvert like myself, you’ll understand the problems and obstacles we sometimes have to face. Whether it is pressure we put on ourselves or stigmas created due to remarks made by others, it can often feel as though we are expected to be different. As though being quieter than our extroverted counterparts is a bad thing. At times it can feel like, due to repetitive demands from others to be a little more outgoing, you are expected to start climbing on tables swinging a microphone around your head shouting all of your daily activities. Or that one might just be me. Here, Louise Watson of Tiny Buddha explores her journey to accepting herself as the natural introvert that she is: “What other people think of me is none of my business.”
~Wayne Dyer “You’re too quiet.” This comment and others like it have plagued me almost all my life. The older I got, the angrier I became. At 17, I thought I’d found the perfect solution: alcohol. Or maybe not. 10 Steps to Improve Your Personal Relationships. Psychology studies show that, in the long term, the most important thing in your life is your personal relationships. More important than your circumstances, hardships or successes, stuff you own or places you go, good quality relationships increase your resilience, your happiness and protect you from depression and other related “afflictions”. This can only be said about mature, fulfilling relationships, which we define based on one principle: “win-win”. In “win-win” relationships (be it friendships or romantic ones), all parties bring their best and leave out the worst.
They focus on increasing the value of the partnership, the time spent together, the amount of sharing and avoid, conscientiously, pointing fingers and turning each interaction into a competition. They say that you don’t get to choose your parents and siblings; however, you get to choose your friends and lovers. 1. Those based on sharing, learning, fun, empathy or listening? 2. 4. 5. With people that make you feel good. If You Don't Do These Now, You'll Regret 10 Years Later.
When you’re nearing the summit of this turbulent climb through life, will you reach the top with wild enthusiasm or will you be hobbling with the aching knees of regret? You’ve climbed through storms, passed over green patches and had help from friends, and now it’s almost over. Your whole life has been leading you to this moment and one thing is certain: this final ascent we all have to do alone. What thoughts will flash through your mind? You will be faced with tough questions such as: Did I do enough, love enough, was I happy?
You might leave these questions simmering on the back burner, thinking tomorrow will be a good day to contemplate the answers, but remember—tomorrow might not come! So here’s what you can do today. Let’s call this an insurance policy for tomorrow’s happiness. 1. There is an old saying: “If you don’t have your health you have nothing,” and this is very true. 2. This may sound cliché, but work less and play more. 3. Why are you taking life so seriously anyway? 4. 13 Most Precious Things To Give Your Loved Ones. We’re already experiencing the “-ber” months. Pretty soon, Christmas will be coming and your loved ones will be requesting the gifts and presents that they would like to have. Why don’t you stand out from the crowd and skip the materialistic gifts for now? These 13 valuable things are priceless — you can’t see them by window shopping, you can’t buy them from any store, and you can only derive them out of the goodness of your own heart.
Which items made the list? 1. Once you’re motivated to see the good in everyone, giving sincere compliments will be a walk in the park for you. 2. In a busy world, it’s understandable for you to have a lot on your plate right now. 3. One of the best (and hardest!) 4. Turn that frown upside down and show your smile to the people you love. Receive smiles and give smiles. 5. Trust isn’t something that you can readily give, so the people you’re giving it to must be pretty special. 6. 7. Don’t forget to tell your loved ones just how much you love them. 8. 9.
The No. 1 Habit of Highly Creative People. “In order to be open to creativity, one must have the capacity for contructive use of solitude. One must overcome the fear of being alone.” ~Rollo May Post written by Leo Babauta. Creativity is a nebulous, murky topic that fascinates me endlessly — how does it work? What habits to creative people do that makes them so successful at creativity? I’ve reflected on my own creative habits, but decided I’d look at the habits that others consider important to their creativity.
I picked a handful of creatives, almost at random — there are so many that picking the best would be impossible, so I just picked some that I admire, who came to mind when I thought of the word “creative”. This was going to be a list of their creative habits … but in reviewing their lists, and my own habits, I found one that stood out. It’s the Most Important Habit when it comes to creativity. The No. 1 Creativity Habit In a word: solitude. Creativity flourishes in solitude. I was honored with a response from Ali as well. 20 Timeless Tips to Make the Most Out of Life. The first step to making the most out of life is deciding what you hope to accomplish.
What is it you desire? There is no right or wrong answer. Maybe you aspire to do satisfying work that will allow you to add value to the world. Maybe you’re looking for a fulfilling relationship that brings you joy. Maybe you want to become fit and healthy so you can be a positive example that your children can look up to. 1. “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” – Albert Einstein The greatest minds are not filled with facts, but creativity. 2.
“If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun.” – Katharine Hepburn Why should you follow a list of rules without questioning their validity? 3. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt That person you feel inferior to? 4. “There is more to life than increasing its speed.” – Mahatma Gandhi Why are you in such a hurry all the time? 5. “Now, we must all fear evil men. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. “Life moves pretty fast. 11. 12. 10 Secrets to Making Lifelong Friends. Ever since college, it has been harder and harder to meet and keep friends. But with these ten secrets to making lifelong friends, you’ll be rocking new and deeper friendships before you know it. Here they are: 1. Say, “Yes” Be open to connection. When your friend calls, pick up. Get a message? 2. Phone calls, emails, texts: if you’re keeping track of whose turn it is, give it up and reach out more. 3. Doing the little extras can be really fun and can help deepen your friendship. 4.
Being inquisitive and listening to others is the hallmark of a good friend. 5. Again, there must be heartfelt sharing in order to foster a strong and healthy friendship. 6. Physical touch is incredibly nurturing and, personally, I can never get enough hugs and snuggles. 7. Different from compliments, which only go skin deep, offering gratitude and acknowledgment is a way to share your heart and deepen your connections with everyone in your life. 8. 9.
If you feel there’s something wrong, talk about it. 10. Are You Wasting Time with Bad Friends? Here Are 5 Traits of True Friends. As we go through life, we have the opportunity to meet a variety of different people. Some become casual acquaintances who we just smile and wave at when we see them and others don’t merit a second thought after they walk out the door, but a select few will make it into the inner circle and become friends. There are different types of friends, however, and it often takes a while to determine whether the person you enjoy spending time with is a true friend or not. Sure, it’s great to get to know new people, and you might really enjoy hanging out with a particular group on weekends, but how do you feel when you’re around them? Do they elevate your spirits, or put you down? Would the person you go clubbing with on Friday nights come and visit you if you were really sick?
What about bailing you out of jail? Let’s take a look at a few traits of solid, amazing friends. The Ability to Listen “A friend asks, ‘Tell me one word which is significant in any kinds of relationship.’ Honesty/Sincerity. How to Break-Up With a Friend. Friendships make up a huge chunk of our support system. They are the glue that holds it all together. If one friendship disappears, a gaping hole is left in the support web. But sometimes in life, it is necessary to let go of people that no longer serve as a support, but instead lead to stress and to problematic situations commonly referred to as “drama”. It is a hard truth to accept that not all the people that come into our lives are meant to stay. Just because you have a big blow-out does not mean the friendship is over. No one is the perfect friend. I do not advocate the breaking up of friendships. Communication.When was the last time you actually called up your friend just to ask them how they’ve been or what’s new with them?
These three things are the bare bones of any friendship. How To Deal With Loneliness. If you find yourself feeling lonely, you need to be patient. Most people are not alone much and loneliness can be hard to deal with if you’re not used to it. But this shouldn’t worry you because being alone can be great, once you’ve learned to embrace it.
If you think about it, there are already many places where you are alone. The bathroom, the coffee shop, the library, and on the bus during your morning commute. When you’re alone in the bathroom, you have time think or read the paper. But that’s not all–there are plenty of other places where it’s more than okay to be alone. If you think about it, it’s also totally fine to go out to lunch by yourself. You can go pray or mediate alone in a church, synagogue, or mosque. When you’re ready, take yourself out to dinner alone. Go to the movies alone. You can go on a hike in the woods alone and find comfort among the birds, trees, and forest animals. You can be alone in a unfamiliar city and find comfort in a park or on a bench somewhere.
32 Things You'll Miss Out If You're Not In A Relationship. The Top 10 Things Everyone Needs To Know In Life. What are the top 10 things we need to know in life? “Life is short, you need to…blah blah blah….” I knew this already, anything I haven’t been informed yet? Justin Freeman got us an answer on Quora: 1. Got a new car? 2. Occasionally, people in your life will defy the odds and actually care about you. 3.
Marry them. 4. I mean, there’s a lot of it—trillions upon trillions of dollars floating around the world, largely made up of cash whose value is made up and ascribed to it, anyway. 5. I mean, it’s difficult to get your hands on sometimes—and you never know when someone’s going to pull the floorboards out from under you—so don’t be stupid with it. 6. The elements of rhetoric, in all of their forms, are what make the world go around—because they are what prompt the decisions people make. 7. I believe we’re responsible to everyone for something, even if it’s something as basic as an affirmation of their humanity. 8. 9. 10. 11.