Consejos para que tu relación de pareja evolucione. Algunas personas tienen la firme creencia de que el amor es una amistad con momentos románticos… pero a pesar de ello, muchas parejas no evolucionan y se quedan en la etapa del hechizo, aquella en la que todo huele a cuento de hadas. Lo malo de los hechizos es que tarde o temprano se rompen y es entonces cuando se despejan las nubes del corazón. El amor de pareja debe partir de una relación de complicidad, en la que se conocen no sólo en la luz sino también en la oscuridad, en la que se es consciente de que no nos amamos por ser perfectos sino por ser aquel mundo que me enamora cada vez que lo volvemos a descubrir, por ser aquella persona que hace sonreír a nuestro corazón, que nos cautiva con cada mirada y nos hace amar con los ojos abiertos… Éstos son algunos consejos que pueden ayudarte a romper el hechizo del enamoramiento: 9 consejos para que tu relación de pareja mejore: Lluvia.
People Who Can't Control Themselves Control The People Around Them. " People who can’t control themselves control the people around them. When you rely on someone for a positive reflected sense of self, you invariably try to control him or her. " Do your feelings, anxieties, and insecurities run away with you and dominate your relationships? Are you chronically late or procrastinating, and expecting other people to put up with it?
Do you always have to be right in an argument? Do you get triggered and lash out verbally or physically in ways you later regret? Do you need your partner to apologize and say he or she is sorry after a fight in order to get over it? These are all signs of difficulty regulating and modulating your inner emotional world. During the course of conducting workshops or doing therapy I often talk about learning to regulate your own emotions, calm your own anxieties, soothe your own mind, and lick your own emotional bruises. They can never need or ask for help. Attitude" and ignoring people's healthy dependency needs. How Values and Needs Play Out in Relationships. The 7 D’s of Relationship Destruction. All of us sometimes engage in behaviors that make our partners uncomfortable.
The actions listed below can tear your relationship apart and if they have become part of how you relate to each other, you will have significant problems sooner or later. It's important to avoid the following: 1. If you don't tell the whole truth as soon as possible, when your mate finds out, it could kill your relationship. Whatever it was you did that you need to fess up to, do it now, so it can be forgiven and dropped. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. When you puts chemicals into your body, it puts you on a different level than your partner and relating will be more difficult. Avoid these actions and you may actually find yourself living happily ever after. Dr. Why Do Runaway Brides Run Away? "In Hollywood, brides keep the bouquets and throw away the groom. " Groucho Marx "A bride at her second marriage does not wear a veil.
She wants to see what she is getting. " Helen Rowland. A runway bride is a woman who cancels her wedding very close to the time of the ceremony or who even runs away from the ceremony itself. Consider the following true story. Quite a few women get cold feet on their way to the altar. Some runway brides jilt their potential grooms because most of their lives, they have always tended to run away from serious problems—this is their way of coping with difficult challenges. Other brides flee at the last minute because they have a commitment phobia. Other brides take flight because they do not really love their partners; at the last minute, they realize that they do not want to make a romantic compromise on such an important life-decision.
Many people realize, even on their wedding night, that they have compromised on the overall value of their spouse. Who Are The "Keepers?" The Behaviors of Successful Long-Term Partners. Many long-term relationship seekers have failed to find their ideal partners despite sincere and intense efforts. They have read dozens of self-help books and Internet articles, watched dating videos, and sought competent therapists to help them.
They have learned every phase of finding the right person, correcting their own dysfunctional behavior, and keeping competitive in the dating market. Yet, they have not been successful in maintaining lasting relationships. As a relationship therapist for forty years, I believe that the most important evidence has been overlooked. Most all relationship advice has focused on the "popular" traits and behaviors people think will ensure success, and have largely ignored those that consistently create great relationships. Operating under the radar, people with these qualities don't appear in tabloids or reality TV shows. I've watched these people carefully over many years.
Keepers have fifteen consistent identifying traits. When words get hot, mental multitaskers collect cool. Public release date: 11-May-2011 [ Print | E-mail Share ] [ Close Window ] Contact: Susan Griffithsusan.griffith@case.edu 216-368-1004Case Western Reserve University How useful would it be to anticipate how well someone will control their emotions? To predict how well they might be able to stay calm during stress? To accept critical feedback stoically? Heath A. "People differ with regard to how well they can control their emotions, and one factor that predicts it is non-emotional in nature – it is a 'cold' cognitive construct," Demaree explains referring to Working Memory Capacity.
Working memory capacity, or WMC, is the "ability to process a stream of information while engaging in a separate task or while being distracted" he said. People with a high level of working memory capacity were best at using a coping mechanism to make themselves feel better and control negative emotions after being harshly criticized. In the study, Demaree and Brandon J. . [ Print | E-mail AAAS and EurekAlert! Go to Bed Angry. Kate's parents had this mantra that if they ever had an argument they would agree to hang in there and resolve it, and never go to bed angry. In her own marriage, Kate has tried a few times with mixed results to follow in her parents footsteps. A couple of times her husband refused to talk and simply went and slept on the couch, much to Kate's dismay. Other times, they were able to work through it (albeit late at night), and more or less comfortably go to bed together.
One intent behind Kate's parents' common folk-maxim is a good one—namely, that you make the commitment to work things out, rather than stomping off and making little real effort to put things to rest. The problem is our brains. And this can take a while depending on how worked up everyone gets. What you do want to do with all this is be responsible with your emotions. So what does this mean for Kate?
Then do it. More Love, More Hurt: New Study Looks At Hurt Feelings In Relationships. A study publishing in the latest issue of Personal Relationships explores why romantic relationships sometimes break down. Using a two-part research program, author Judith Feeney focused on people's perceptions of the appraisals and emotions involved in hurtful events in couple relationships. The research tested the proposition that we feel 'hurt' when a relationship partner commits a relational transgression that seems to devalue the relationship, and that evokes a sense of personal injury by threatening positive mental models of the self and/or others.
Hurt was strongly linked to violations of supportiveness, fidelity, openness, and trust. In the first study, participants gave retrospective accounts of an experience of being hurt by a romantic partner. These accounts supported the above proposition, and although different types of hurtful events differed in important ways, a sense of pain and injury emerged as the dominant theme in accounts of emotional reactions.
How Good Are You at Loving? It is often said that love is a feeling. Since feelings are subjective, this makes it very difficult to describe love let alone determine how much someone loves another person. However, I want to take a different approach. Love, I will show, is not merely a feeling. Rather it is an activity. Moreover, this activity involves skill-building. "To love," said Stendhal, "is to derive pleasure from seeing, touching, and feeling through all one's senses and as closely as possible, a lovable person who loves us.
" But are these really the questions we should be asking when we ponder whether we are in love or whether others love us? The answer I want to suggest is in the affirmative; for in my view, love is not a feeling in the first place. To be sure, love does take different forms depending on the type of relationship.
Love, I submit, is a undertaken by two (or more) people in a close, intimate relationship such as the aforementioned ones. Loving involves being a relationship with another. 10 cosas que pueden arruinar una relación de pareja. Aunque parezca absurdo, algunas conductas o hechos cotidianos pueden causar graves problemas en una relación, al punto de acabar con ésta. Por ello, a continuación te dejamos con algunas situaciones, recopiladas por Yahoo! , a las que tienes que poner ojo… 1. Televisión ¿Sueles cenar o pasar tu poco tiempo libre frente al televisor?
Si es así, comienza a abandonar este hábito, pues estás perdiendo tiempo valioso que podrías compartir con tu pareja, en lugar de con un objeto sin vida. Habla más con tu “media naranja” y cultiva la complicidad. 2. Cuando te sacas los zapatos y te pones zapatillas, transmites el mensaje de que no volverás a salir de la casa. 3.
¿Trabajar hasta más tarde se está transformando en “pan de cada día”?. 4. Si bien tu pareja te quiere tal y como eres, también es agradable que te vea arreglada (o) y con un cabello reluciente. 5. Nadie te pide que le hagas regalos todos los días y gastes mucho dinero en él. 6. 7. 8. Muchas peleas entre las parejas son por los suegros. Contrary to widely held beliefs, romance can last in long-term relationships, say researchers. Romance does not have to fizzle out in long-term relationships and progress into a companionship/friendship-type love, a new study has found. Romantic love can last a lifetime and lead to happier, healthier relationships.
"Many believe that romantic love is the same as passionate love," said lead researcher Bianca P. Acevedo, PhD, then at Stony Brook University (currently at University of California, Santa Barbara). "It isn't. Romantic love has the intensity, engagement and sexual chemistry that passionate love has, minus the obsessive component. These findings appear in the March issue of Review of General Psychology, published by the American Psychological Association.
Acevedo and co-researcher Arthur Aron, PhD, reviewed 25 studies with 6,070 individuals in short- and long-term relationships to find out whether romantic love is associated with more satisfaction. Couples who reported more satisfaction in their relationships also reported being happier and having higher self-esteem. 10 señales de que estás en una buena relación de pareja.
¿Cómo saber si estás con la persona correcta? ¿Cómo saber si tu relación es buena o dañina? Todas esperamos encontrarnos en una buena relación de pareja, una que nos haga bien, que tenga futuro y sea sana para los dos… En este artículo estudiaremos 10 cosas que nos indican que estamos en una buena relación, una que nos conviene. 10 señales de que estás en una relación saludable: Te ríes con él.La risa es saludable, especialmente dentro de una relación. Si de vez en cuando eres capaz de reír con él, es una muy buena señal de que las cosas van bien, que ambos se sienten cómodos el uno con el otro. No es justo que tú o él siempre escoja qué hacer, o que siempre tome las decisiones la misma persona.Hay apoyo en los momentos duros. Si parece que estás en una relación que no cumple estos requisitos debes considerar romper la relación o si es posible rescatarla. Con cariño, Shoshan. Psicóloga advierte cómo la convivencia prematrimonial puede arruinar tu relación.
La sociedad ha cambiado mucho en 70 años. Si a mediados del siglo pasado la convivencia -sin haber pasado por el sagrado vínculo matrimonial- era mal vista e incluso causa de marginación social, hoy no sólo es algo corriente, sino buscado por los jóvenes, quienes muchas veces prefieren pasar un tiempo a prueba junto a sus parejas antes de comprometerse de por vida. De hecho, sólo en Estados Unidos la convivencia se disparó un 1500% en ese lapso. Es decir, si en los años 60 se contaba a 450 mil parejas cohabitando sin haberse casado, en los albores del siglo XXI estas se incrementaron hasta los 7.5 millones. Y siguen creciendo. Porque claro, ¿quién querría arriesgarse a un matrimonio “a ciegas”, sin saber lo que nos espera? Más aún, dos tercios de los veinteañeros indicaron que vivir juntos antes del matrimonio era la mejor forma de evitar un divorcio.
Pero… ¿qué pasaría si en la realidad sucediera justamente lo contrario? La respuesta es el llamado “efecto de cohabitación“. 6 Big Relationship Busters — Are You Doing Them? The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships. That crazy thing we call love is perhaps one of the most studied and least understood areas in psychology. One reason is that many studies of romantic relationships are carried out not in real life, but in the lab. Making matters worse, many of these studies involve dating relationships between samples of convenience, consisting of undergraduate students. Though these students are certainly capable of close relationships, many of them haven’t matured enough to know themselves, much less what they want out of a romantic partner.
What better way to find out about love than to survey the experts? Not the psychology experts—the expert members of couples who have been married 10 years or longer. The surprising findings of this study, reported in the prestigious journal Social Psychological and Personality Science , showed not only that many people were still in love even after 10 years of marriage , but also which factors predicted the strength of their passion.