When Should You Play Hard to Get? Sometimes dating and relationship advice can conflict. For example, some advice suggests that people should "play hard to get" in order to increase attraction and desire. Other advice suggests we should be more direct and straightforward, improving trust and liking. So, which do you choose? I began to address this very topic in a previous article, where I reviewed research that showed playing hard to get does indeed work. In general, being on the receiving end of someone else's aloof and uncertain signals does increase desire.
But does that mean you should play hard to get? Not necessarily. What We Know Researchers Dai, Dong, and Jia (2014) investigated the question, "When does playing hard to get increase romantic attraction? " The team hypothesized that playing hard to get might only work under certain circumstances—specifically, that such a strategy would only work when partners were already committed and emotionally invested in the relationship. What It Means for You Dr. Reference. The art of mindreading: Empathy or rational inference?
The ability to infer what another person is thinking is an essential tool for social interaction and is known by neuroscientists as "Theory of Mind" (ToM), but how does the brain actually allow us to do this? We are able to rationally infer what someone knows, thinks, or intends, but we are also able to "slip into their shoes" and infer how they feel, and it seems that the brain processes these different types of information in different ways, as confirmed by a new report in the June 2010 issue of Elsevier's Cortex. Prof. Elke Kalbe and colleagues from the Institute of Neuroscience and Medicine at the Research Centre Juelich and the Neurological University Clinic Cologne, Germany, studied a group of male volunteers as they performed a computerized task, which assessed their abilities in both emotional and rational inference.
Coauthor Prof. Habilidades sociales curso GRATIS. Communication Success. The Power of Hello. It remains one of the most influential memories of my time as a college professor. I was in my office over the summer, reading through written comments from the back of my teaching evaluations (yes, we read those). While this was a large class with close to 100 students, one set of remarks in particular made me stop and think. The comment: I don't share this paraphrased student comment to toot my own horn. In the interest of equal time, I could just as easily show you those evaluations that have taken offense at things I've said, criticized my grading, or expressed more general dissatisfaction with my classroom performance.
No, I share the comment above for a different reason: because, as I mentioned, it made a lasting impression. I'll admit, though, that I had a mixed reaction upon reading it. My university is a wonderful place. This week's effort at campus self-improvement is a "Say Hello" campaign launched by our new Office of Intercultural and Social Identities Programs. Deception. If You're Looking for Customer Satisfaction, Psychology Can Help You. You've just made a large purchase-say a computer, a television, or a couch. A few days later, something horrible goes wrong. The product doesn't work or turns out to have a fatal flaw. As your blood pressure start to soar and your emotions spill over, you try to start figuring out how you're going to deal with this situation. Your first impulse is to call the retailer. Angrily, you pick up the phone and start to holler at the first person who answers, probably after going through a lengthy phone tree.
Your frustration makes it impossible for you to carry on anything approaching a reasonable conversation, and after a few minutes, you hang up in even greater frustration. Scenarios like these occur constantly. These situations don't have to have unhappy endings. Now that you've turned down the heat and your brain has stopped boiling, you can start to take action by following these five simple psychology-based steps: 1. 2. 3. </b>*} 4. 5. Consumer satisfaction is all about psychology. 1. Get Anyone to Like You, Instantly. Get anyone to like you - Instantly - Guaranteed If you want people to like you, make them feel good about themselves. This golden rule of friendship works every time - guaranteed! The principle is straightforward. If I meet you and make you feel good about yourself, you will like me and seek every opportunity to see me again to reconstitute the same good feeling you felt the first time we met.
Unfortunately, this powerful technique is seldom used because we are continually focused on ourselves and not others. We put our wants and needs before the wants and needs of others. The irony is that people will fulfill your wants and needs in any way they can if they like you. The simple communication techniques that follow will help you keep the focus of the conversation on the person you are talking to and make them feel good about themselves. The Big Three Our brains continually scan the environment for friend or foe signals. Eyebrow Flash Head Tilt Smile A smile sends the message "I like you. " Seven Ways to Say “No” and Keep Good Relations. O you have trouble saying “No”? Many women and men are traditionally taught to avoid saying “no”, especially when facing authority figures. Some of us are told from a young age that we’re not supposed to say “no” to our parents , relatives, teachers, bosses, and others.
There may be cultural, gender , social, religious , or institutional pressure to conform and please. Often there’s a fear of rejection, a desire to avoid confrontation, or guilt over hurting others’ feelings. Of course, it’s important to say “no” when necessary, in order to protect our boundaries and maintain one’s own priorities. For example, if your friend asks to borrow your car, and you’re uncomfortable with the idea, you can either be direct and say “no”, or you can use any of the following, assertive yet diplomatic expressions to draw the line: " be the only one driving my car “ lend out my car.” “ lend out my car.” “ I keep my car for my own use.” “ , I’m not going to be able to lend you my car.”