Avant Rilke, je ne savais pas aimer Fabrice Midal. Adolescent, j’ai lu le livre aujourd’hui le plus célèbre de Rainer Maria Rilke, « Lettres à un jeune poète ».
Je l’ai trouvé ennuyeux. Je me demandais qui était cet homme qui avait osé écrire : « Les êtres jeunes, neufs en toutes choses, ne savent pas encore aimer ; ils doivent apprendre. » Cela me semblait inconvenant. Comment cela, je ne savais pas aimer ? Pour qui se prenait-t-il ? Je ne savais même faire que cela, aimer ! Quelques années plus tard, engagé dans la pratique de la méditation, j’ai découvert que dans la tradition bouddhiste, de nombreux maîtres « reçoivent » des textes poétiques et prophétiques « sous la dictée d’une inspiration », avec le sentiment de n’en être en rien les auteurs. Intrigué, je me suis plongé dans l’œuvre de Rilke. J’ai découvert qu’il existe des paroles de vérité qui ne témoignent pas des idées de l’individu, mais qui viennent de plus haut, de ce que les Anciens nommaient les Muses – et que l’on retrouve dans toutes les cultures.
Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasons — Quartz. When I got married nearly three years ago, at the wedding reception I asked some of the older and wiser folks who were attending for a few words of advice from their own relationships to make sure my wife and I didn’t shit the (same) bed.
I think a lot of newlyweds do this—ask for relationship advice, I mean, not shit the same bed—especially after a few cocktails from the open bar they just paid for. But then I figured that with access to hundreds of thousands of smart, amazing people through my website, I could go one step further. Why not consult my readers? Why not ask them for their best relationship/marriage advice? Why not synthesize all of their wisdom and experience into something straightforward and applicable to any relationship, no matter who you are?
Why not crowdsource THE ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP GUIDE TO END ALL RELATIONSHIP GUIDES™ from the sea of smart and savvy partners and lovers who come to markmanson.net? The response was overwhelming. Got Relationship Problems? Tobie Nathan - "Est-il possible de rendre l'autre amoureux ?" To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This. I Googled Dr.
Aron’s questions; there are 36. We spent the next two hours passing my iPhone across the table, alternately posing each question. They began innocuously: “Would you like to be famous? In what way?” And “When did you last sing to yourself? But they quickly became probing. In response to the prompt, “Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common,” he looked at me and said, “I think we’re both interested in each other.”
I grinned and gulped my beer as he listed two more commonalities I then promptly forgot. The questions reminded me of the infamous boiling frog experiment in which the frog doesn’t feel the water getting hotter until it’s too late. I liked learning about myself through my answers, but I liked learning things about him even more.
Helen Fisher - Love biology and anthropology. Lab notes #6: Secrets of a long marriage. This article was taken from the March 2011 issue of Wired magazine.
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