How To Build Your Tribe - Finding ‘Your People’ Email This is a guest post by Marelisa of Abundance Blog at Marelisa Online.
One of the most fundamental human needs is the need to belong. Noted psychologist, Abraham Maslow, identified it as one of the five basic needs. How To Treat Others: 5 Lessons From an Unknown Author. Five Lessons About How To Treat People -- Author Unknown 1.
First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady" During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school? " Surely this was some kind of joke. "Absolutely," said the professor. I've never forgotten that lesson. 2. One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Do Me A Favor So You'll Like Me: The Reverse Psychology of Likeability. Catch the twist in the title?
If you do a person a favor, you would expect that person to like you more. However, the research shows something different. If you do someone a favor, you tend to like that person more as a result. The reason is that we justify our actions to ourselves by assuming that we did the person a favor because we like them. This phenomenon is dubbed the Ben Franklin effect, who quipped: He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged.
According to legend, Franklin used this discovery to curry the favor of a rival Pennsylvania legislator by asking the legislator to lend him a rare book and then thanking him profusely. When we next met in the House, he spoke to me (which he had never done before), and with great civility; and he ever after manifested a readiness to serve me on all occasions, so that we became great friends, and our friendship continued to his death.
Get anyone to like you – Instantly – Guaranteed. Get anyone to like you - Instantly - Guaranteed If you want people to like you, make them feel good about themselves.
This golden rule of friendship works every time - guaranteed! The principle is straightforward. If I meet you and make you feel good about yourself, you will like me and seek every opportunity to see me again to reconstitute the same good feeling you felt the first time we met. Unfortunately, this powerful technique is seldom used because we are continually focused on ourselves and not others.
The simple communication techniques that follow will help you keep the focus of the conversation on the person you are talking to and make them feel good about themselves. The Big Three Our brains continually scan the environment for friend or foe signals. Eyebrow Flash The eyebrow flash is a quick up and down movement of the eyebrows. Head Tilt. How to Improve Conversation Skills - 7 Ways. Note: This is a guest post from Eduard Ezeanu of People Skills Decoded I believe that one of the best ways to connect with people and build quality relationships is through making conversation.
Although most people can hold a conversation, only a few are smooth and charismatic when they talk. Working as a communication coach, I have explored and tested many techniques for improving conversation skills. I have discovered 7 simple and effective ways to be a smooth talker. Here they are: 1. Typically, good talkers don’t rush into a conversation. 2. Most people keep eye contact about 2/3 of the time or less when they talk. 10 Psychological Effects of Nonsexual Touch. Psychological research on how a simple (nonsexual) touch can increase compliance, helping behaviour, attraction, and signal power.
To get around in the world, we mainly rely on our eyes and ears. Touch is a sense that’s often forgotten. But touch is also vital in the way we understand and experience the world. Even the lightest touch on the upper arm can influence the way we think. To prove it, here are 10 psychological effects which show just how powerful nonsexual touch can be. 1. 21 Keys to Magnetic Likeability. Post written by: Marc Chernoff Email Your true potential is enhanced by the sum of all the people who like you, and thus would go out of their way to assist you in a time of need.
Unfortunately, there is no quick-fix guide for becoming extremely likeable. Likeability is tied deeply into some of your most stubborn, long-standing habits and behaviors. Here’s what you should practice: Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Also, check out these best selling books on likeability: Photo by: Proserpina If you enjoyed this article, check out our new best-selling book. And get inspiring life tips and quotes in your inbox (it's free)... 28 Dignified Ways to Impress Everyone Around You. Post written by: Marc Chernoff Email Far more often than any of us like to admit, our actions are driven by an inner desire to impress other people.
This desire is often reflected in the brand name products we use, the bars and restaurants we frequent, the houses and cars we buy and the careers we choose. But are name brand products, fancy bars, houses and cars really that impressive? What about a person who holds an elite position in a career field they dislike? Why? Consider the following questions: He drives a Porsche, but can he truly afford the car payment?