How To Build Your Tribe - Finding ‘Your People’ Email This is a guest post by Marelisa of Abundance Blog at Marelisa Online.
One of the most fundamental human needs is the need to belong. Noted psychologist, Abraham Maslow, identified it as one of the five basic needs. We want to be part of a group and to feel loved and accepted by others. That is, we want to be a member of a tribe . Your tribe members are those people who accept you just as you are, and who want the very best for you. To paraphrase Sam Adams–from the Onion A.V.
Sir Ken Robinson–author of “The Element,” a book on how to find work that you’re passionate about–argues that your tribe is essential in helping you to find your element. If you feel tribe-less, rest assured in the knowledge that your tribe is out there. Twelve Tips for Finding or Expanding Your Tribe American journalist and writer Jane Howard is credited with the following quote: “Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. How To Treat Others: 5 Lessons From an Unknown Author.
Five Lessons About How To Treat People -- Author Unknown 1.
First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady" During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school? " Surely this was some kind of joke. Do Me A Favor So You'll Like Me: The Reverse Psychology of Likeability. Catch the twist in the title?
If you do a person a favor, you would expect that person to like you more. However, the research shows something different. Get anyone to like you – Instantly – Guaranteed. Get anyone to like you - Instantly - Guaranteed If you want people to like you, make them feel good about themselves.
This golden rule of friendship works every time - guaranteed! The principle is straightforward. If I meet you and make you feel good about yourself, you will like me and seek every opportunity to see me again to reconstitute the same good feeling you felt the first time we met. Unfortunately, this powerful technique is seldom used because we are continually focused on ourselves and not others.
The simple communication techniques that follow will help you keep the focus of the conversation on the person you are talking to and make them feel good about themselves. The Big Three Our brains continually scan the environment for friend or foe signals. Eyebrow Flash. How to Improve Conversation Skills - 7 Ways. Note: This is a guest post from Eduard Ezeanu of People Skills Decoded I believe that one of the best ways to connect with people and build quality relationships is through making conversation.
Although most people can hold a conversation, only a few are smooth and charismatic when they talk. Working as a communication coach, I have explored and tested many techniques for improving conversation skills. I have discovered 7 simple and effective ways to be a smooth talker. Here they are: 1. Typically, good talkers don’t rush into a conversation. 2. Most people keep eye contact about 2/3 of the time or less when they talk. 10 Psychological Effects of Nonsexual Touch. A simple (nonsexual) touch can increase compliance, helping behaviour, attraction, and signal power. To get around in the world, we mainly rely on our eyes and ears. 21 Keys to Magnetic Likeability.
This is a great list….for the U.S..
I think it is paramount, though, that we recognize that each of these points are but the surface layer of deep, cultural values. For example, one would not want to make frequent eye contact in Japan, or too little in the Netherlands. There is a story of a Dutch man who was under suspicion of sexual predator because all the American women at the company complained. The man had worked diligently for the company for many years, so they brought in a consultant.
The consultant observed that when the man thought he was simply being attentive and respectful by leaning in to listen and maintaining constant eye contact (which is the norm in his culture), the women thought he was “creepy.” In a collectivist culture, perhaps India, speaking your beliefs might be construed as distracting- as putting your own needs before the good of the group. . #10 is another good example. (sorry this was so long) 28 Dignified Ways to Impress Everyone Around You. Post written by: Marc Chernoff Email Far more often than any of us like to admit, our actions are driven by an inner desire to impress other people.
This desire is often reflected in the brand name products we use, the bars and restaurants we frequent, the houses and cars we buy and the careers we choose. But are name brand products, fancy bars, houses and cars really that impressive? What about a person who holds an elite position in a career field they dislike? Why? Consider the following questions: He drives a Porsche, but can he truly afford the car payment? You get the idea. Now take a moment and imagine a person who loves what he does for a living, smiles frequently and bleeds passion in every breath he takes.