How to Avoid "Catching" a Bad Mood. A recent University of Notre Dame study of 103 pairs of roommates found that negative thinking patterns can be passed from person to person, just like the flu.
“Cognitive vulnerability”—the mindset that you’re at fault for stressful life events and unable to change them—is particularly catching, increasing the symptoms of depression in others even six months later. How To Deal With Rude People – Co-Workers, Associates, Customers, Managers, etc. By Celes on Jul 1, 2010 | ShareThis Email This Post This is part-1 of the series on how to deal with rude people – especially your co-workers, associates, customers and managers.
I rarely deal with rude people in my life. Whenever I encounter someone rude, I shed them away. Behaviour of the serial bully: attention seeker, wannabe, guru and sociopath including industrial psychopath, corporate psychopath and workplace psychopath. Constant criticism, nit-picking, no empathy, control freak, denial, charm, glib, compulsive liar, devious, manipulative?
Read this On other pages: Serial bully attitudes to life and workSerial Bully character profile Written by Tim Field Foundation. "Serial Bully" is a term that Tim Field coined to describe the character he came to realise was behind the majority of cases that came to his attention when he ran the UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line between 1996 and 2004. Tim's ground-breaking insights and their value to society are recognised by the Tim Field Foundation, which is grateful for the privilege of preserving and updating Tim's work.
Introduction This is a bully who will move from one target to another, and whose depravity is only constrained by the realisation that they have to appear normal to fit in among civilised people. A serial bully could be anyone. (This example is a male, but a bully can also be female.) 6 Easy Ways to Reduce Stress. Stress sucks.
According to the American Psychological Association, stress can result in headache, muscle tension, muscle pain, chest pain, fatigue, upset stomach, insomnia, anxiety, restlessness, lack of motivation, lack of focus, irritability, depression, eating problems, addiction ... and social withdrawal. Yow! Fortunately, stress isn't inevitable, even in today's hyper-connected, highly competitive world. Here are six techniques that I've picked up over the years and now use on a daily basis. 1. In the past, people worked 9 to 5; in today's business environments, there's pressure to work (or at least be available) 24/7. An absurdly easy way to get reduce that stress is to shut down your computer and your cell–not just while you sleep, but also an hour before and after you sleep.
Issendai's Superhero Training Journal - Sick systems: How to keep someone with you forever. So you want to keep your lover or your employee close.
Bound to you, even. You have a few options. You could be the best lover they've ever had, kind, charming, thoughtful, competent, witty, and a tiger in bed. You could be the best workplace they've ever had, with challenging work, rewards for talent, initiative, and professional development, an excellent work/life balance, and good pay. But both of those options demand a lot from you.
You create a sick system. A sick system has four basic rules: Rule 1: Keep them too busy to think. Rule 2: Keep them tired. This is also a corollary to keeping them too busy to think. Rule 3: Keep them emotionally involved. Also note that if you set up a system in which personal loyalty and devotion are proof of your lover's worthiness as a person, you can make people love you. Rule 4: Reward intermittently.
You are the Average of the 5 People You Spend the Most Time With. By Celes on Jan 27, 2009 | ShareThis Email This Post “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn This is a quote made by Jim Rohn, motivational speaker and self help guru.
To be honest, I don’t fully agree with this statement because it negates the fact we have our own consciousness as well. The quote will be more accurate if we revise it to: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with, including yourself”. Regardless, I believe the key underlying intent of Jim’s quote is who you spend time with influences the person you eventually become. My experiences with different groups of people The type of people you interact with influences the (1) consciousness level you operate in and (2) the subject matter you engage in. Junior college years In my junior college (JC) years during 2001-2002, I was immersed with people who were of pretty low consciousnesses. Working in my previous company Sleepwalkers Millionaires 1. 2. How are they like? Joyful Days. Being the flawed persons we all are, you will not like everybody you come across, and not everybody will like you.
No matter how hard you try, there will occasions when people are nasty to you when you did nothing to provoke them. Every now and then, someone will give you unsolicited criticism, send you a rude email, verbally spit in your face, or basically push your button in some way or another. How do you respond when this happens? 1. Disengage. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) : Traits discussed. Almost everyone has some narcissistic traits, but being conceited, argumentative, or selfish sometimes (or even all the time) doesn't amount to a personality disorder.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a long-term pattern of abnormal thinking, feeling, and behavior in many different situations. The traits on this page will seem peculiar or disturbing when someone acts this way -- i.e., you will know that something is not right, and contact with narcissists may make you feel bad about yourself. It's not unusual for narcissists to be outstanding in their field of work. But these are the successful people who have a history of alienating colleagues, co-workers, employees, students, clients, and customers -- people go away mad or sad after close contact with narcissists. How many narcissists does it take to change a light bulb?
(a) Just one -- but he has to wait for the whole world to revolve around him. The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. Negativity At Work - Turning Negativity in the Workplace into Positive Change. Negativity at work can be harmful.
Negativity often results in a loss of productivity and a high rate of turnover. Negativity is contagious. The expression "misery loves company" rings true when it comes to spreading negativity around the office. Those who have negative feelings will first seek out others who feel the same way, and then try to influence those who don't. Negativity isn't always bad. Get Along With Colleagues - Learn How to Get Along With Your Colleagues. Your relationships with your colleagues are important.
Good workplace relationships can help you do your job better. They can make going to work everyday enjoyable. Bad relationships with colleagues can distract you and can turn a so-so job into a nightmare. Be your own NLP master. I’m a big fan of NLP – or neuro linguistic programming – so I thought I’d devote this particular blog post to some of my favourite NLP techniques. NLP is a personal development system based on an understanding of how the mind works – how people use thoughts, feelings, words and actions – and using this understanding to enhance our potential. How to deal with difficult people at work. Dealing with Difficult People. Photo by Stock Photo Can you recall the last time you had to deal with a negative or difficult person?
Or the last time someone said something with the intention of hurting you? How did you handle it? What was the result? What can you do in the future to get through these situations with peace and grace? No matter where we go, we will face people who are negative, people who oppose our ideas, people who piss us off or people who simply do not like us. In these instinctual moments, we may lose track of our higher selves and become the human animal with an urge to protect ourselves when attacked.
I regularly get asked “How do you deal with the negative comments about your articles? I know it’s not easy, if it was easy, there wouldn’t be difficult or negative people to begin with. Why Bother Controlling Our Responses? 1. One of my favorite sayings is “Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Photo by Kara Pecknold.