i’ve spent a lot of my day thinking about what i want to say about this, since i saw it on my dash earlier. here is where this argument goes spectacularly, blindingly, gloriously flamingly wrong: words are actions. there is no such thing as the thought police in the real world, because nobody can possibly know what you’re thinking, or control it. in fact, i’m a big proponent of not condemning people for what’s inside their head; my thoughts are pretty fucking impure and judgmental a lot of the time. where you go wrong is when you open your mouth and turn your hurtful thoughts into words. using the word “retard” to mean stupid or bad or wrong is A SLUR. there is no way around it. you are equating a word that means “a person with mental handicaps” with “something that sucks.” if you take away the idea that a mentally disabled person is stupid, the word simply has no punch: it relies on this assumption, however buried. On words and actions. | Dear Coquette
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Friday DIY News, Video and Gossip - Jezebel Maybe a random place to ask this, but this thread made me think: I have a dress that I love, but I never wear because it has these darts on the bust that end in such a way that they look nipple-ish. Since a friend commented on it the first time I wore it, I'm now too self-conscious about these slightly droopy nipple-darts that I'm not wearing this custom made dress. Is there any hope for alteration? (I would be bringing it to a pro.) This is the dress: [www.etsy.com]
How To Turn Your Dress Ideas Into Reality By Making A Custom Pattern hey! do you have some cool ideas for an easy big bag? Basically, just cut out big rectangles and sew them together. The strap is easy, too. Just pick cool, funky, durable (not synthetic fibers) fabrics like a good twill, and use a strong interfacing/stabilizer.
Dear Coquette, He’s the worst person I’ve ever known and simultaneously the most amazing. He does the worst things you can imagine. Lying, cheating, lying about cheating. Here I am, a smart woman with no illusions about who this guy she loves really is, sticking around and letting him flay her again and again. I could explain why and what I think about it but it’s inconsequential. On kicking him to the curb. | Dear Coquette
Miriam Badyrka is The Doodler: leaf & pod doodles I didn't post anything last week, and I am unrepentant. Company on Friday, daughter leaving Sunday morning. Sometimes life gets in the way of blogging, and that is all there is to it. If I had posted a doodle last week, it would have been this one. What happened to that bottom circle?
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Jerry Seinfeld's Productivity Secret It stirkes me that this technique is one that most elem. school teachers use. Remember large poster boards on one side of the room with everybodys name down the side, then rows of star stickers for various thing. Things like attendance or homework.
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I have a question for everyone: When I try to reason with my friends (and I use this term loosely, since some of them are more acquaintances) about abortion, I tend to lean on the fact that it endangers women's health and I use my family as a direct example: my great grandmother was raped by an uncle and gave herself an abortion with a coat-hanger when my grandmother was 5. My grandmother was subsequently put in an orphanage run by brutal nuns (it sounds like a joke, but it really isn't). My grandmother came out of that experience a very cruel, insecure person, who went on to raise four insecure and kind of cruel children. I feel, with every fiber of my being, that if my great-grandmother hadn't died, my grandmother would have been a more loving person and would have passed that on to her children instead of the cruelty. Instead, we have a legacy of a vicious cycle in my family that I'm hoping ends with me and my son. America Without Abortion Would Be An Absolute Horror Show