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10 Common Mistakes Parents Today Make (Me Included) 

10 Common Mistakes Parents Today Make (Me Included) 
When I became a mom, I got lots of advice on how to love my child. But not until a few years ago did someone actually point out that loving a child means wanting what's best for them long-term. When my four daughters were young, long-term didn't resonate with me. Back then it was about survival, meeting daily needs and keeping my head above water. Now that my kids are maturing, however, the fog is lifting. These days, I put more thought into long-term. A while back I came across some interesting articles and books that dig into what psychologists today are seeing: a rising number of 20-somethings who are depressed and don't know why. One reason given is that parents today are too quick to swoop in. One article mentions incoming college freshmen known to deans as "teacups" for their fragility in the face of minor problems. Here's psychiatrist Paul Bohn's response, as paraphrased in the piece: Why am I sharing this information? Mistake #10: Worshipping our children. Like Us On Facebook | Related:  Raising Kids

10 Ways to be more interesting Be more interesting. This is a note to self on things to keep in mind every day. Life is there for us to use and enjoy at our will. Being interesting isn’t a job of life, it’s an option. Images & text by Jessica Hagy / Forbes. 1. Continue reading to see more suggestions. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Raising a Moral Child Photo What does it take to be a good parent? We know some of the tricks for teaching kids to become high achievers. For example, research suggests that when parents praise effort rather than ability, children develop a stronger work ethic and become more motivated. Yet although some parents live vicariously through their children’s accomplishments, success is not the No. 1 priority for most parents. Despite the significance that it holds in our lives, teaching children to care about others is no simple task. Are some children simply good-natured — or not? Genetic twin studies suggest that anywhere from a quarter to more than half of our propensity to be giving and caring is inherited. By age 2, children experience some moral emotions — feelings triggered by right and wrong. Many parents believe it’s important to compliment the behavior, not the child — that way, the child learns to repeat the behavior. But is that the right approach? Continue reading the main story

How Long To Nap For The Biggest Brain Benefits Taking a nap, we’ve seen time and again, is like rebooting your brain. Everyone likes to get a quick nap in every now and then, but napping may be as much of an art as it is a science. The Wall Street Journal offers recommendations for planning your perfect nap, including how long to nap and when. The sleep experts in the article say a 10-to-20-minute power nap gives you the best “bang for your buck,” but depending on what you want the nap to do for you, other durations might be ideal. For a quick boost of alertness, experts say a 10-to-20-minute power nap is adequate for getting back to work in a pinch. For cognitive memory processing, however, a 60-minute nap may do more good, Dr. “If you take it longer than 30 minutes, you end up in deep sleep. Finally, the 90-minute nap will likely involve a full cycle of sleep, which aids creativity and emotional and procedural memory, such as learning how to ride a bike. The Scientific Power of Naps: Via Lifehacker, Huffington Post

The Trouble With Bright Girls Successful women know only too well that in any male-dominated profession, we often find ourselves at a distinct disadvantage. We are routinely underestimated, underutilized, and even underpaid. Studies show that women need to perform at extraordinarily high levels, just to appear moderately competent compared to our male coworkers. But in my experience, smart and talented women rarely realize that one of the toughest hurdles they'll have to overcome to be successful lies within. Chances are good that if you are a successful professional today, you were a pretty bright fifth grade girl. She found that bright girls, when given something to learn that was particularly foreign or complex, were quick to give up--and the higher the girls' IQ, the more likely they were to throw in the towel. Why does this happen? How do girls and boys develop these different views? Boys, on the other hand, are a handful.

Home | Fikket The Rules Making sense of race and privilege By Lawrence Otis Graham ’83 Published in the October 8, 2014, issue Michael Falco/Black Star Lawrence Otis Graham ’83 I knew the day would come, but I didn’t know how it would happen, where I would be, or how I would respond. My wife and I, both African-Americans, constitute one of those Type A couples with Ivy League undergraduate and graduate degrees, who, for many years, believed that if we worked hard and maintained great jobs, we could insulate our children from the blatant manifestations of bigotry that we experienced as children in the 1960s and ’70s. But it happened nevertheless in July, when I was 100 miles away. Family photo: Christine Butler The Graham family at home It was a Tuesday afternoon when my 15-year-old son called from his academic summer program at a leafy New England boarding school and told me that as he was walking across campus, a gray Acura with a broken rear taillight pulled up beside him. But he had heard correctly. Post Comments

The Gone Fishin' Portfolio: The Ultimate Index Fund Portfolio by Alexander Green, Chairman, Investment U When I speak about my Gone Fishin' portfolio at financial conferences around the nation, I often tell investors not to watch MSNBC, CNBC or any of the other investment networks. Members of the audience sometimes find this comical - or even hypocritical - since I'm on these networks occasionally myself. But if you watch these channels regularly, I promise it will make you dumber and poorer. Why? Oil prices are up. The financial media parades one so-called "expert" after another in front of you. Of course not. Wall Street and the financial press spew out so much analysis and so many opinions each week, most investors lose sight of the big picture. 6 Factors That Determine Your Investment Portfolio Value In essence, there are only six factors that determine the long-term value of your investment portfolio. How much you save.How long your investments compound.Your asset allocation. That's it. No, you don't. A "Lazy" Index Fund Portfolio In 1990, Dr.

Dog ETA: 3 Quick Ways to Assess Friendliness Walking in a local park yesterday with a client and her sweet pup, a dog came toward us.The two dogs met and had a happy, mutual exchange. Another dog headed our way; I instantly nixed any contact using my simple Dog ETA assessment. ETA = Estimated Time to Aggression. Actually, it stands for Eyes, Tail and Alignment. Eyes Staring ain’t caring. The dog pictured here is showing ETA posture I avoid See how intently this dog is staring? This is not a dog I would allow Pip to greet. I hope the Dog ETA allows you to enjoy your dog walks more and feel more confident about your choices. Pat your dog for me. *This is NOT a breed thing. Related: Protection from Loose Dogs: What I Carry

10 Search Engines to Explore the Invisible Web Not everything on the web will show up in a list of search results on Google or Bing; there are lots of places that their web crawlers cannot access. To explore the invisible web, you need to use specialist search engines. Here are our top 12 services to perform a deep internet search. What Is the Invisible Web? Before we begin, let's establish what does the term "invisible web" refer to? Simply, it's a catch-all term for online content that will not appear in search results or web directories. There are no official data available, but most experts agree that the invisible web is several times larger than the visible web. The content on the invisible web can be roughly divided into the deep web and the dark web. The Deep Web The deep web made up of content that typically needs some form of accreditation to access. If you have the correct details, you can access the content through a regular web browser. The Dark Web The dark web is a sub-section of the deep web. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

The 8 Secrets of Dutch Kids, the Happiest Kids in the World - Finding Dutchland According to Unicef’s most recent Child Well Being in Rich Countries survey, Dutch kids ranked as the happiest kids in the world. Dutch kids led the way in three out of the five categories, namely- material well being, educational well being, and behavior and risks. Unicef Germany isn’t the first research organization to come to this conclusion. Surveys conducted by Britain’s Child Poverty Action Group, the World Health Organization, and Unicef International have all reached unanimous conclusions as to the happy state of Dutch children. Why exactly are Dutch kids the happiest in the world? As a seasoned expat mom living in stereotypical Dutch suburbia, it isn’t too hard for me to indulge in 8 secrets as to why I think Dutch kids are the happiest kids in the world. 1. It shouldn’t be surprising that the happiest kids in the world also have parents who are also among the happiest people in the world. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Dutch children are the type that are both seen AND heard. 7. 8.

100 Websites You Should Know and Use In the spring of 2007, Julius Wiedemann, editor in charge at Taschen GmbH, gave a legendary TED University talk: an ultra-fast-moving ride through the “100 websites you should know and use.” Six years later, it remains one of the most viewed TED blog posts ever. Time for an update? To see the original list, click here. And now, the original list from 2007, created by Julius Wiedemann, editor in charge at Taschen GmbH.

Without Janitors, Students Are In Charge Of Keeping School Shipshape : NPR Ed Back in 2011, Newt Gingrich was running for president, and he proposed a radical idea to help schools cut costs: Fire the janitors and pay students to do the cleaning. Needless to say, the idea to turn students into moonlighting janitors had about as much support as Gingrich's presidential campaign. But ask Kim De Costa and she'll say there isn't anything radical about asking students to clean up after themselves. At her school, there are no janitors. Instead, students in grades 6-12 meet in teams once or twice a week to clean assigned areas. De Costa is the executive director of the Armadillo Technical Institute. For 30 minutes after lunch, students sweep, mop, take out the trash and even clean the bathrooms — but responsibilities rotate so no one is stuck scrubbing toilets more than two or three times a year. De Costa says it's easy to encourage students to respect their environment when they're the ones responsible for preserving it. UNESC0/You Tube YouTube Many Hands Make Light Work

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