5 Ways to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationships When I was younger I often felt inadequate and “not good enough” to be friends, lovers, or business partners with certain people. Sometimes I simply couldn’t understand what others saw in me. I was very insecure. I ended many promising relationships because of my insecurity. In my mind, it felt easier for me to end it before they did. So what did I do, and what can you do if insecurity is damaging your relationships? You need to understand that a good relationship is about sharing ideas and enjoyable moments with another, to help each other grow in healthy ways, both together socially and as individuals. 1. Most relationship problems and associated social anxieties start with bad communication, which in turn leads to attempted mind reading. If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. It’s also important to remember that you aren’t suppose to know every little thing going on in the minds of others, even the people closest to you. 2. 3. 4. 5. The floor is yours…
How to Choose the Right Person For You When you’re looking to build a healthy relationship, how do you make sure someone is right for you? For a long time, I had no idea. So I asked other people what they looked for in a partner, and I got answers like… “A sense of humor, attractiveness, intelligence, creativity, sexual compatibility, passion, an active lifestyle, a stable career.” I knew those qualities were important. After a breakup, I asked a former boss who had been happily married for over 20 years for advice. “Do they respect you?” This simple guideline has profoundly changed the relationships in my life. Once you like someone, respect is the first thing you should be screening for. None of the other qualities will matter if you aren’t treated well. By prioritizing your self-respect you immediately: Avoid wasting time on unfulfilling relationships that make you feel miserable.Spend time being happy and building healthy relationships with good people.Reinforce your self-worth. Want to build healthy relationships with women?
How to Be a Better Conversationalist Being able to hold good conversation is the foundation of every social interaction. Without this ability, getting past small talk and building stronger connections is damn near impossible. We talk to people every single day yet we get nervous and struggle during the moments that matter most. I’ve always been decent at riffing with people I already knew or was introduced to in a casual setting, like school or parties. But over the last few years in the real world, I’ve had to learn how to converse with many different people in many different situations. Stay in the conversation Get out of your own head and into the conversation. If you’re thinking about what to say next you’re not involved enough. Make statements Asking questions are great for getting to know someone, when used wisely. Statements are much more comforting and natural. Rephrase your questions as statements. Use hook points Have no idea what to say next? Let’s use the example above, “You’re definitely from Boston.”
25 Psychological Life Hacks that Will Help You Gain the Advantage in Social Situations Social situations are among the most important in our lives. Yet, there is a huge chance that you are oblivious to the plethora of unwritten social rules that structure everybody’s behaviour. Failing to comply to these cultural imprints can cause irreversible damage. Just following them blindly will not get you ahead. Hacking them, however, will give you the best results possible. Therefore we bring to you these – 25 psychological life hacks that will help you gain the advantage in social situations 1) Assume comfort in any interaction. Our brain is an incredibly complicated instrument. In most of our social interactions, we find it difficult to feel comfortable among strangers because our brain tries to protect us from exposure. This however isn’t helping us when trying to be social and meet new people, is it? This is why assuming comfort is so powerful. 2) Pay attention to people’s feet when you are approaching them. If they turn both torso and feet, it means you are welcome. Admit it.
A Quick Guide to Gaining Confidence When You Socialize By Leo Babauta I’m a shy person by nature, not a natural extrovert and definitely not comfortable in large groups of people. So if you’re like me at all, then this guide is for you. I’ve had to learn to be more confident in social situations, and it hasn’t exactly been easy. But some things I’ve learned how to do over the years: Introduce myself to new people and quickly find common ground.Be semi-comfortable in a party where I don’t know most of the people.Be myself, or some version of that, rather than trying to impress people.Speak in front of a crowd of strangers (not comfortably, but I do OK).Talk comfortably one-on-one or in a small group, and not worry too much about whether people will like me.Make fairly authentic friendships with just a handful of deeper conversations. On Relationships First, we should quickly answer the question: why even bother? Because relationships matter. So it’s worth the effort. On Practice But how can you practice if you don’t have the confidence yet?
9 Ways To Know For Sure Whether You’re Actually In Love At a New Years party last Thursday night, between sips of champagne and joining in the chorus of ‘Auld Lange Syne’, my best girlfriend and I got into a discussion about her current relationship. She’d been seeing the same guy for about five months and definitely had feelings for him but she said they came and went. She said that about half the time she felt almost neutral toward him and then she would have this kind of emotional breakthrough and suddenly love him endlessly again. She’s a wonderful person that I love very much but she’s genuinely confused about what she’s feeling. I’ve experienced this myself in the past and it’s a very difficult place to be and can cause a lot of pain in a relationship when it’s avoidable. 1. My friend’s complaint about only feeling affection for her boyfriend (who’s crazy about her, btw) was a real alarm bell to me. 2. That means that you’re willing to sacrifice some of your own happiness sometimes if that means that they will be happier. 3. 4. 5. 6.
Fairy Tales Can Come True Here's a "photo story" based on the book, Fairy Tales Can Come True (Just Not Every Day!), published by Shake It! Books. You'll have a few giggles... and learn a few things as well! Falling in love is the easy part. "This relationship stuff. Try to change your attitude a bit. "Okay, I'm taking notes!" Tip #1 Make a list. "Hmmm... Pretty soon, you'll find yourself thinking... "Say, he's not so bad after all!" And making that list goes for both of you —to help you both remember the good. "That's what we do. Click to continue 50 Things Men Wish Women Knew I just came across this article and thought it would be great for all of us ladies on here. I know my single friends and I always question what guys really want and this gives us a little more insight into that. Not to mention it's some great advice from men about what they wish we ladies knew/understood about them. Hope you enjoy!! What He Wishes You Knew #1 Express yourself. What He Wishes You Knew #2 You look hot in running shoes and shorts. What He Wishes You Knew #3 Bare, tan shoulders are underrated. What He Wishes You Knew #4 If you think I'm speeding now, you should see me drive when you're not in the car. What He Wishes You Knew #5 If you're truly interested in us, don't play hard to get. What He Wishes You Knew #6 Shopping is a chore, not an activity. What He Wishes You Knew #7 When I screw up, go ahead and tell me—once. What He Wishes You Knew #8 No question need ever be asked through a closed bathroom door if I'm inside. What He Wishes You Knew #9 What He Wishes You Knew #10