7 ways to practice emotional first aid You put a bandage on a cut or take antibiotics to treat an infection, right? No questions asked. In fact, questions would be asked if you didn’t apply first aid when necessary. Pay attention to emotional pain — recognize it when it happens and work to treat it before it feels all-encompassing. Yes, practicing emotional hygiene takes a little time and effort, but it will seriously elevate your entire quality of life. See Guy Winch’s TED Talk, Why we all need to practice emotional first aid. Can My Hardened Heart Be Fixed? Question from a Site ViewerI just read with great interest your article In What Sense Does a God of Love Harden Hearts? and I feel compelled to seek your council as this pertains to my own hardened heart. First a bit of background information is necessary. I received Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior a little over 20 years ago. Can my heart recover from being hardened? Tim’s AnswerI agonize with you in your struggle. I can readily answer your question with “yes, you can recover.” The problem then is not in a God who no longer wants to have fellowship with us. I want to encourage you on this truth. I have a friend who has a young child. So it is with our spiritual lives. I encourage you to not give up on your pursuit after God. May you come to know the joy of the forgiveness and removal of sins and of a right relationship with our dear Savior. with my prayers, tim
A Letter From Ray Jasper, Who Is About to Be Executed How can we help put pressure on Texas to get this man's sentence commuted? As for the imbeciles writing here about how he has it coming, three quick points. 1) If you object to the goverment's right to raise your taxes, regulate your business, or spend "your money" on various social programs, how can you then grant the government the power of life and death? You can't. Unless the killing is done in secret, and limited to a despised population. 2) Even if you believe the government should have the power of life and death over it's citizens (and I bet you don't), there is absolutely no defense to be made for the indiscriminate use of that power. If the family of a murder victim were to avenge him or her in hot blood, as a private citizen, that's one thing; but for the state to commit the act, impersonally, as a bureaucratic matter like revoking driving privileges, is simply obscene.
Life is a game. This is your strategy guide 682k shares Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Real life is the game that – literally – everyone is playing. But it can be tough. This is your guide. Basics You might not realise, but real life is a game of strategy. Most importantly, successful players put their time into the right things. Childhood Life begins when you’re assigned a random character and circumstances: The first 15 years or so of life are just tutorial missions, which suck. Young adult stage As a young player, you’ll have lots of time and energy, but almost no experience. This is the time to level up your skills quickly. Now that you’re playing properly, your top priority is to assign your time as well as possible. This may sound simple, but the problem is you won’t always know what tasks to choose, and your body won’t always obey your commands. How to obey your own commands Many players find that when they choose to do something – say “go to the gym” – their body ignores them completely. This is not a bug. Where you live
Trigger Positive Emotions People who see the glass half-full are certainly happier than the pessimists of the world, and learning to think positively is worthwhile. However, changing the way you think can be surprisingly tricky, especially when the going gets tough. What if there were a way—a shortcut or hack—that positively affected how you feel when you just can’t seem to shake the blues? A few years ago, I came across a simple idea that has been validated in hundreds of experiments and has given rise to quick and effective exercises that can help you feel happier, avoid anxiety, increase your willpower, deepen relationships and boost confidence. The idea dates back to the turn of the 20th century and to the work of Victorian philosopher William James. According to James’s theory, forcing your face into a smile should make you feel happy, and frowning should make you feel sad. In the late 1960s, psychologist James Laird from the University of Rochester stumbled across James’s theory and decided to test it. 1.
Are you thriving? Here is a checklist In my last post I advocated that we move beyond resiliency as a goal to as a goal. Why settle for less? But what does thriving look like? I feel like I am thriving in my life right now (it has not always been the case). So here is my own personal take on what contributes to thriving. {*style:<b>DAILY PRACTICES </b>*} Laughing in delight Being playful with others Getting good sleep (in the dark to prevent cancer) Being physically active Mindfulness Attending to the beauty of the natural world Eating well and enjoying healthy food Expressing creativity (for me: cooking, writing, playing music, singing, writing poems) Caring for others and getting caring when you need it Practicing gratitude Enjoying uplifting experiences that take you beyond yourself (e.g., music, religious or spiritual practices) Confiding in at least one close friend (most days) Not succumbing to temptations too frequently (like dessert!) Finding a mentor for areas where you want to improve Taking risks to connect to and help others
Grace: The Power Of The Gospel - Article Grace: The Power Of The GospelBy Andrew Wommack The Gospel is the most basic, foundational message of the New Testament, yet it’s the most misunderstood. Today’s religious system is not preaching the same Gospel that Paul did. The book of Romans was written to explain the Gospel so that anybody could understand it. Paul started off with this statement in Romans 1:16: For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. That is a radical statement. But Paul said he was not ashamed of the Gospel. The next verse in Romans 1 says, For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith. Notice that righteousness is not revealed from Law to Law, from good deed to good deed—it’s revealed from faith to faith. When you talk like this, people with a religious mindset immediately say, “Well, what about sin? Romans 1:18-19, brackets mine
18 Things Highly Creative People Do Differently This list has been expanded into the new book, “Wired to Create: Unravelling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind,” by Carolyn Gregoire and Scott Barry Kaufman. Creativity works in mysterious and often paradoxical ways. Creative thinking is a stable, defining characteristic in some personalities, but it may also change based on situation and context. Inspiration and ideas often arise seemingly out of nowhere and then fail to show up when we most need them, and creative thinking requires complex cognition yet is completely distinct from the thinking process. Neuroscience paints a complicated picture of creativity. And psychologically speaking, creative personality types are difficult to pin down, largely because they’re complex, paradoxical and tend to avoid habit or routine. While there’s no “typical” creative type, there are some tell-tale characteristics and behaviors of highly creative people. They daydream. According to Kaufman and psychologist Rebecca L. They observe everything.
How to connect deeply with anyone (in 5 minutes) 468k shares Share on Facebook Share on Twitter I’m going to share a game with you. This game will reveal incredible things about whoever plays it; surprise, shock and delight complete strangers, and has kickstarted more friendships than I know how to count. Play along and you’ll see. I want you to imagine a desert, stretching out as far as your eyes can see. Your first task is to describe the cube. There are no right answers here, only your answers. As you look at the desert and your cube, you notice there is also a ladder. Now imagine that in the scene there is a horse. We’re nearly there now. Final question. If you’ve been playing along, this is going to be fun. Ready? The cube is yourself. The size is ostensibly your ego: a large cube means you’re pretty sure of yourself, a small cube less so. The vertical placement of the cube is how grounded you are. The ladder represents your friends. Are your friends leaning on the cube? The horse represents your dream partner. But I’ll tell you what.
Releasing Unexpressed Emotion Randi G. Fine, ContributorWaking Times “Unexpressed emotion will never die. Most of the feelings that interfere with our lives today, our negative emotional responses, have little to do with what is occurring in the present. When these memories are subconsciously triggered, all rationality goes out the window. We may think we know why we are reacting the way we are, though we seldom do. Triggers bring the pain of our past to the surface for a very specific reason. That is not easily accomplished. That lack of understanding is a result of having been conditioned to bury our most uncomfortable feelings – to remain calm and to show our happy face to the world. Our emotions embarrass us. As a result, many of us have been denying our emotional pain for a very long time. The only requirement for existing in the physical world is that we breathe air. Emotion is a natural response to living. Our emotions are indicators of what is going on inside of us. About the Author
Piotrowski: Wisdom from Tony Robbins Tony Robbins is a hot commodity. Featured on the October cover of Fortune magazine, and described as the CEO whisperer, Robbins is paid upward of $1 million per year by execs to coach them to their next level of greatness. In preparation for a spectacular 2015, I decided that I wanted some of that awesomeness, too, so I just completed an extensive 6-day conference led by Robbins. If you’ve ever been to one of his events, you know it’s an all-out, blow-the-roof-off experience. Along with 3,000 other followers, I dissected my personal patterns, learned cutting-edge life-improvement strategies, and danced on chairs to ear-blasting music. By the end of the second 15-hour day I felt both transformed and exhausted, and there were still four days to go. •Rejection breeds obsession, and whatever you resist persists. Dig in to understand the story behind the story, and then work toward changing what it means to you. •The quality of your life is directly tied to the quality of your emotions.
9 Types of Food to Help Manage Depression ActiveBeat | Page 9 9. Water Drinking lots of water is a great way to alleviate depression and anxiety. It’s the most important element when it comes to boosting your mood. You see, when your body is dehydrated, your body suffers in several ways. You May Also Like Initially, the flu may be shrugged off as just a common cold due to similar symptoms—such as a seem runny nose, sinus congestion, sneezing, and sore muscles and throat. Kicking a smoking habit can be a painfully aggravating journey of nagging cravings, irritable mood swings, appetite roller coasters, and embarrassing failures. Most of us have the best intentions when deciding to go vegetarian—but while you may be cutting the animal kingdom a break; you may be doing your health a disservice if you’re not sure how to maintain a balanced diet.
8 Things Unhappy People Refuse to Admit Email “People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” ―Abraham Lincoln Everyone experiences an unhappy mood on occasion, but there is a big difference between experiencing a temporary bout of unhappiness and living a habitually unhappy life. Over the years, Angel and I have helped thousands of unhappy people rediscover their smiles, and, in the process, we’ve learned a lot about the negative beliefs and behaviors that typically hold them back. 1. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself. Be the person you will be happy to live with for the duration of your life. 2. The minute you stop overwhelming your mind with caring about what everyone else thinks, and start doing what you feel in your heart is right, is the minute you will finally feel freedom and peace of mind. You have to put your life in your own hands. 3. 4. Remember that the way you’ve always done it isn’t the only way. 5. 6. 7. 8.
What motivates us at work? 7 fascinating studies that give insights “When we think about how people work, the naïve intuition we have is that people are like rats in a maze,” says behavioral economist Dan Ariely in today’s talk, given at TEDxRiodelaPlata. “We really have this incredibly simplistic view of why people work and what the labor market looks like.” Dan Ariely: What makes us feel good about our work?When you look carefully at the way people work, he says, you find out there’s a lot more at play—and a lot more at stake—than money. During the Industrial Revolution, Ariely points out, Adam Smith’s efficiency-oriented, assembly-line approach made sense. “When we think about labor, we usually think about motivation and payment as the same thing, but the reality is that we should probably add all kinds of things to it: meaning, creation, challenges, ownership, identity, pride, etc.,” Ariely explains. To hear more on Ariely’s thoughts about what makes people more productive – and happier – at work, watch this fascinating talk.