Chômage : comment rebondir, comment retrouver du travail, comment changer de vie © Jupiter Et si le chômage était l’occasion d’une reconquête, non seulement d’un emploi, mais aussi de soi ? D’une renaissance ? Car il est possible de transformer cette épreuve en opportunité : celle de se retrouver et pourquoi pas, de changer sa vie, en surmontant les peurs qui nous empêchent d'avancer. La coach Hélène Picot bouscule les idées reçues et nous donne ses conseils. Margaux Rambert Considérer le chômage comme une opportunité Choc de perdre son emploi, inquiétude pour l’avenir, perte d’une part de son identité… Se retrouver au chômage est une épreuve, une source de stress considérable. « Le discours très anxiogène véhiculé autour de la question du chômage empêche les gens de rebondir par eux-mêmes, estime Hélène Picot, coach et auteure de Sans emploi ? Le conseil d’Hélène Picot : « Un chômeur n’est pas un paria. Ne pas se poser en victime « Pourquoi moi ?
How Long It Takes to Form a New Habit by Maria Popova Why magic numbers always require a grain of empirical salt. “We are what we repeatedly do,” Aristotle proclaimed. “Could the young but realize how soon they will become mere walking bundles of habits, they would give more heed to their conduct while in the plastic state,” William James wrote. But how, exactly, do we rewire our habits once they have congealed into daily routines? We already know that it takes more than “willpower.” When he became interested in how long it takes for us to form or change a habit, psychologist Jeremy Dean found himself bombarded with the same magic answer from popular psychology websites and advice columns: 21 days. In a study carried out at University College London, 96 participants were asked to choose an everyday behavior that they wanted to turn into a habit. This notion of acting without thinking — known in science as “automaticity” — turns out, perhaps unsurprisingly, to be a central driver of habits. Donating = Loving Share on Tumblr
4 scientific studies on how meditation can affect your heart and brain Many people have tried to sell me on the idea of meditating. Sometimes I try it, and have an incredible, refreshing experience. But usually, as I close my eyes and focus on my breathing, while I know that I’m supposed to be letting all thoughts go, more and more fly through my mind. Soon I have a laundry-list of “to-dos” in my head … and then my legs fall asleep. Today’s TED Talk, however, might actually convince me to give meditation another shot. “We live in an incredibly busy world. In this talk, Puddicombe — who is as equally as turned off by incense as me — shares the fascinating story of how he become a monk, and gives a convincing argument for why it is worth it to take 10 minutes a day to refresh the mind. “Most people assume that meditation is all about stopping thoughts, getting rid of emotions, somehow controlling the mind, but actually it’s much different than that,” says Puddicombe. To see a demonstration, with juggling, watch this surprising talk.
7 Ways You Can Easily Increase Your Willpower In general, people have an overly positive vision of themselves and their abilities. But what’s the one thing surveys show most everyone will admit they have a problem with? Self-control. And who is most likely to give in to temptation? Ironically, it’s the people who think they have the most willpower. Via The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It: Research shows that people who think they have the most willpower are actually the most likely to lose control when tempted. So how can we really increase willpower? I’ve posted a lot about the subject — from research to interviewing the foremost expert on the subject. Here are 7 ways you can increase your own willpower and live a better life: 1) “Keystone” Habits Are A Magic Bullet Everyone wants a magic bullet. The primary one is exercise. It also makes you eat better. Exercise leads people to create other, often unrelated, good habits: Going to the gym is too much for you? At night.
6 studies of money and the mind Paul Piff shares some of his research on the science of greed at TEDxMarin. How does being rich affect the way we behave? In today’s talk, social psychologist Paul Piff provides a convincing case for the answer: not well. Paul Piff: Does money make you mean? The swath of evidence Piff has accumulated isn’t meant to incriminate wealthy people. The good news: it doesn’t take all that much to counteract the psychological effects of wealth. To hear more of Piff’s thoughts on the effects of having—or lacking—wealth, watch his compelling talk. Finding #1: We rationalize advantage by convincing ourselves we deserve it The study: In a UC Berkeley study, Piff had more than 100 pairs of strangers play Monopoly. The results: The rich players moved their pieces more loudly, banging them around the board, and displayed the type of enthusiastic gestures you see from a football player who’s just scored a touchdown. Finding #2: People who make less are more generous…on the small scale
7 Techniques d’Orateur Efficace (et Intéressant… pour Changer) C’est la troisième fois que je me prête à l’exercice et même si je dois avouer que j’ai toujours le trac, j’ai développé quelques petites techniques d’orateur qui pourront vous aider lors de votre prochain séminaire ou prochaine conférence. Pour cette troisième édition, nous allons nous focaliser sur la motivation et j’ai donc appelé cette conférence : alors heureux(se) ? (De vous lever le matin ?). En passant si vous êtes libre ce jeudi 6 décembre 15h, vous pouvez vous inscrire pour y participer ici, et c’est gratuit ! Durant 30 minutes je vais parler de ma vision de la motivation dans le cadre professionnel bien sûr, mais aussi dans un cadre perso. Comment présenter ses idées de manière efficace et intéressante ? 1. Pour mon séminaire de Jeudi, j’ai ressorti 5 livres que j’avais adorés sur le sujet. 2. Voici mes objectifs : Vous l’aurez compris, j’insiste sur la fluidité ! 3. Pour ma part il s’agit d’un public de managers plus ou moins haut dans la hiérarchie de leur boite. 4. 5. 6. 7.
Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives By Maria Popova “If you imagine less, less will be what you undoubtedly deserve,” Debbie Millman counseled in one of the best commencement speeches ever given, urging: “Do what you love, and don’t stop until you get what you love. Work as hard as you can, imagine immensities…” Far from Pollyanna platitude, this advice actually reflects what modern psychology knows about how belief systems about our own abilities and potential fuel our behavior and predict our success. Much of that understanding stems from the work of Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, synthesized in her remarkably insightful Mindset: The New Psychology of Success (public library) — an inquiry into the power of our beliefs, both conscious and unconscious, and how changing even the simplest of them can have profound impact on nearly every aspect of our lives. One of the most basic beliefs we carry about ourselves, Dweck found in her research, has to do with how we view and inhabit what we consider to be our personality.
The Science of Self-Control: 6 Ways to Improve Your Willpower One of the key parts of our culture at Buffer is a focus on self-improvement. We each pick an area to improve on each week and share our daily progress and challenges, making it a social, supportive way to adjust, create or change our habits. There’s still a lot of work to be done for self-improvement to be effective, though. I’ve been through a bunch of different improvement focuses in the last few months, including positivity, running, reading more and learning French. Each one has been fun to focus on, but it’s hard to keep more than one new habit going at a time—partly because it takes so much willpower. What willpower is and how it works in the brain Kelly McGonigal, PhD and author of The Willpower Instinct says willpower is a response that comes from both the brain and the body. The willpower response is a reaction to an internal conflict. To be effective at controlling our urges and making sound decisions, the prefontal cortex needs to be looked after. How to increase your willpower
Can bytes save the future? The money value delusion King Midas got his highest wish granted: All he touched turned to gold. Here seen with his golden daughter. He starved to death shortly after. On behalf of us all, investors make the same mistake as King Midas did. Human behavioural ecology knows why this paradox exists. Mate choice and sexual selection is the ultimate evolutionary force that has shaped the human mind. Fortunately, attractive mate strategies also include the urge to display generosity and cooperation. "I’ll die before I’m 25, and when I die I will have lived the way I wanted to." The universal locations of cognitive mechanisms are now read with brain scanning techniques. A model of the ultimate representative democracy, adjusted for Norway. Cultures are in this way manifestations of the roots of sexual selection. 1. 2. Is it possible to design a democratic, solidary and sustainable society, stabilised by human ingroup drivers? 1. 2. 3. A safer future can be planned.
Overcome the Eight Barriers to Confidence - Rosabeth Moss Kanter by Rosabeth Moss Kanter | 10:00 AM January 3, 2014 To get a more confident You in the new year — or a more confident company, community, family, or team — first know what gets in the way. The best resolutions will go nowhere without the confidence to stick with them. Confidence is an expectation of a positive outcome. It is not a personality trait; it is an assessment of a situation that sparks motivation. To muster the confidence to work toward your goals, avoid these eight traps: Self-defeating assumptions. Goals that are too big or too distant. Declaring victory too soon. Do-it-yourself-ing. Blaming someone else. Defensiveness. Neglecting to anticipate setbacks. Over-confidence. Remember, it’s not enough just to feel confident.
William James on Habit by Maria Popova “We are spinning our own fates, good or evil, and never to be undone. Every smallest stroke of virtue or of vice leaves its never so little scar.” “We are what we repeatedly do,” Aristotle famously proclaimed. “Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Perhaps most fascinating in Michael Lewis’s altogether fantastic recent Vanity Fair profile of Barack Obama is, indeed, the President’s relationship with habit — particularly his optimization of everyday behaviors to such a degree that they require as little cognitive load as possible, allowing him to better focus on the important decisions, the stuff of excellence. I found this interesting not merely out of solipsism, as it somehow validated my having had the same breakfast day in and day out for nearly a decade (steel-cut oats, fat-free Greek yogurt, whey protein powder, seasonal fruit), but also because it isn’t a novel idea at all. He proceeds to offer three maxims for the successful formation of new habits:
Triumph of the Willpower Are you an impulsive marshmallow eater? Your success—or failure—in life may depend on how you answer that question, says New York Times science writer John Tierney. He is the co-author, with Roy F. Baumeister, of the new book Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength (Penguin).... Reading the Seven Universal Expressions | Big Think Mentor The human face is a universal signal system. In fact, it is the most precise signal system we have for our emotions. We can read seven different emotions and we can read whether they're being falsified or whether they are genuine expressions. These emotions are: AngerFearSadnessDisgustEnjoymentSurpriseContempt As renowned psychologist Paul Ekman explains, each of these emotional words stands for a family of feelings. We also experience different types of anger. In a new 5-part workshop on Big Think Mentor, Ekman introduces viewers to key principles and techniques for mastering the art of reading emotions. Sign up for a free trial of Big Think Mentor and learn more about microexpressions and other non-verbal communications here: Why was the universality of emotions so important to Charles Darwin? Darwin published his thoughts in the book The Expression of Emotion in Man and Animals, published in 1872. How important are our facial expressions and why did they evolve the way they did?
Raison de se mettre à la méditation : Faire le bilan positif de sa journée Se ressourcer, se retrouver, sortir d’un quotidien stressant et apprendre à se détendre sont les promesses de la méditation. Découvrez 8 raisons pour lesquelles il est important de savoir s’arrêter pour méditer. La méditation est avant tout une prise de contact avec soi-même : il s’agit de se sonder et de mieux se connaître. Faire le bilan de sa journée lorsqu’on médite aide à atteindre un état d’apaisement. Suivant