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Why You Do What You Do (And Why It Should Scare You)

Why You Do What You Do (And Why It Should Scare You)
Jun 16, 2009 When it comes to getting things done, most people think of words like productivity, willpower, and goal setting. But if you’re frustrated at where your life is right now and you’re having trouble pushing past the things that are holding you back, willpower isn’t the problem. Goal setting isn’t it, either. And no amount of productivity cult-ism is going to turn your life around. There’s something more important than that – something so important it determines whether taking action is a pleasure or a chore: It’s the set of personal standards you hold yourself to on a daily basis. Not willpower. Standards determine what you’ll settle for. Standards drive your behavior because they’re linked to what you will and will not tolerate in life. How messy does your car/house/office have to get before you can’t tolerate it anymore? In one sense, standards are part of how we want to identify ourselves. But standards can also lock you into a personal hell. Don’t believe me? Absolutely. Dave

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Wayne Dyer’s Top 8 Tips for Building a Better Social Life Image by kalandrakas (license). “Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.” “Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” "The 36 Rules of Life1. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill ..." - mendel's soup The 36 Rules of Life 1. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

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30 Funny Illustrations about Simple Truths of Life While surfing Internet the I came across the blog of Alex Noriega an illustrator from Barcelona, he has some interesting life lessons that our parents and teachers may have forgotten to tell us and he presented them in the form of some really funny illustrations. In this post I am posting 30 Funny Illustrations about Simple Truths of Life that I have picked from his blog. Hope you all will enjoy this post.

28 Dignified Ways to Impress Everyone Around You post written by: Marc Chernoff Email Far more often than any of us like to admit, our actions are driven by an inner desire to impress other people. This desire is often reflected in the brand name products we use, the bars and restaurants we frequent, the houses and cars we buy and the careers we choose. But are name brand products, fancy bars, houses and cars really that impressive?

Eye tracking study reveals 12 website tactics Eye tracking studies have revealed valuable information about how people read and interact with websites. One study, Eyetrack III, published a summary of their eye tracking results for news sites. While this is just one eye tracking study focused on a particular type of site, I think there are instructive nuggets here for any informational website. In no particular order, here are 12 results I found particularly interesting. 1.Headlines draw eyes before pictures. This might be surprising for some people since the trend has been to add photos and graphics specifically to draw the eye.

40 Belief-Shaking Remarks From a Ruthless Nonconformist If there’s one thing Friedrich Nietzsche did well, it’s obliterate feel-good beliefs people have about themselves. He has been criticized for being a misanthrope, a subvert, a cynic and a pessimist, but I think these assessments are off the mark. I believe he only wanted human beings to be more honest with themselves. He did have a remarkable gift for aphorism — he once declared, “It is my ambition to say in ten sentences what others say in a whole book.” A hundred years after his death, Nietzsche retains his disturbing talent for turning a person’s worldview upside-down with one jarring remark. Even today his words remain controversial. 15 GREAT THOUGHTS BY CHANAKYA 1) "Learn from the mistakes of others... you can't live long enough to make them all yourselves!!" - Chanakya 2)"A person should not be too honest. Straight trees are cut first and Honest people are screwed first." 3)"Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be venomous."

8 Harsh Truths that Will Improve Your Life They say life is what we make of it. By the end of this post, I hope to have helped you decide whether that statement is true or not. There is no doubt that life has its ups and downs. However, how we deal with them can sometimes make all the difference. Today I want to share eight harsh truths that I’ve come to learn from life. 25 Beautifully Illustrated Thought-Provoking Questions A question that makes you think is worth asking… At the cusp of a new day, week, month, or year, most of us take a little time to reflect on our lives by looking back over the past and ahead into the future. We ponder the successes, failures and standout events that are slowly scripting our life’s story. This process of self reflection helps us maintain a conscious awareness of where we’ve been and where we intend to go.

Negotiation Skills Devashish Chakravarty Your colleague is slacking off and increasing your burden at work. Are you angry with yourself for avoiding a showdown with her? What will future generations condemn us for? Once, pretty much everywhere, beating your wife and children was regarded as a father's duty, homosexuality was a hanging offense, and waterboarding was approved -- in fact, invented -- by the Catholic Church. Through the middle of the 19th century, the United States and other nations in the Americas condoned plantation slavery. Many of our grandparents were born in states where women were forbidden to vote. And well into the 20th century, lynch mobs in this country stripped, tortured, hanged and burned human beings at picnics. Looking back at such horrors, it is easy to ask: What were people thinking?

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