How lack of clarity leads to workplace drama Where there is backstabbing, gossip, insubordination or any other type of drama, there is always a lack of clarity in some area. And when employees are unclear about policies and procedures, when there are too many dropped balls or hidden agendas, or there is confusion about who is leading, drama is sure to follow. If you are experiencing the signs of drama and negativity, look at these seven easy-to-spot areas to see where you might be giving incongruent messages leading to a lack of clarity. Mission Statement Having no mission statement is not much worse than having a bad mission statement. Tell the truth about what your company is committed to and make your mission statement so easy to remember that the guy on the front floor can recite it. Policies If you have policies in place that you don't enforce, either start enforcing the policy or tweak the policy so that it's fair, easy to understand and easy to enforce. Promises Be careful what you promise. Roles Who is really in charge?
Highly Trusting People Better Lie Detectors Contrary to our intuition, research suggests that more trusting people are better than cynics at detecting when others are lying. Humans can be an untrusting race. People are often very cynical about human nature, tending to think that strangers will happily lie to us if there is something in it for them. We intuitive believe that being cynical is an advantage in detecting lies. Or so Nancy Carter and J. The results were as we’d expect: 85% thought low trusters are better than high trusters at lie detection. Is this the right answer though? Liar liar Carter and Weber weren’t so sure, so they measured how trusting 29 participants were and had them watch videos of a staged job interview. In these videos, interviewees had been told to do their best to get the job, but half were told to tell three lies in the process. These videos were then shown to participants who rated the honesty of the interviewees, along with how likely they would be to hire them. What is going on? Social intelligence
Conflict Escalation Stages 30 Habits that Will Change your Life Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve. The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life. You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. Health habits Exercise 30 minutes every day. Productivity habits Use an inbox system. Personal Development habits Read 1 book per week. Career habits Start a blog. What do you think? Update: A reader put together a downloadable copy of all these habits.
25 Beautifully Illustrated Thought-Provoking Questions 405 Flares Facebook 137 Twitter 5 Google+ 194 StumbleUpon 1 Pin It Share 68 68 405 Flares × A question that makes you think is worth asking… At the cusp of a new day, week, month, or year, most of us take a little time to reflect on our lives by looking back over the past and ahead into the future. Remember, these questions have no right or wrong answers. Here’s a sample of 25 recent thought questions posted on the site: Few extra questions Thank you for visiting, we hope you find our site, enjoyable, informative and educational.
How to Cope With Hostile People How to Cope With Hostile People by Dr. Steve Frisch, Psy.D. What can be more difficult in your relationships than coping with people who are angry, confrontational, obnoxious, intimidating, aggressive, manipulative, and/or hostile? Who doesn’t encounter difficult, hostile people in some area(s) of their life—within your family, at work, with your lover, and in leisure time activities? You know what you feel like after an encounter with a difficult person—provoked, angry, helpless, powerless, frustrated, perhaps even vulnerable. Difficult people are difficult for one very good reason. So what’s the answer? First off, let’s see if understanding what lies beneath their bluster and hostility helps you any. Having been the victim of their venom and anger, I know it must be hard for you to see a bully as a frightened and insecure person, but that’s exactly what he or she is. 1.) 2.) 3.) Try the following suggestions and see if they make emotionally detaching a little bit easier for you. 1.)
How to Detect Lies - body language, reactions, speech patterns Interesting Info -> Lying Index -> How to Detect Lies Become a Human Lie Detector (Part 1) Warning: sometimes ignorance is bliss. After gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you. Introduction to Detecting Lies: This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions. This is just a basic run down of physical (body language) gestures and verbal cues that may indicate someone is being untruthful. If you got here from somewhere else, be sure to check out our Lie Detection index page for more info including new research in the field of forensic psychology. Signs of Deception: Body Language of Lies: • Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. • A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact. • Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Final Notes:
The Secret To Dealing With Passive-Aggressive People Ah, passive aggression. The best way to handle conflict. Not. There’s a reason why passive-aggressive behavior gets such a bad rap. And for the target of the passive aggression, experiencing this kind of behavior can “make you feel like a crazy person,” explains Scott Wetzler, Ph.D., vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Montefiore Medical Center and author of Living With the Passive-Aggressive Man. At its heart, the behavior “really is a sugar-coated hostility,” Wetzler tells HuffPost. Passive-aggressive behavior, while expressed in many different ways, has the same roots: There is an underlying fear and avoidance of direct conflict, yet a feeling of powerlessness and helplessness. Sometimes people are passive-aggressive because of how they grew up, Brandt says. So how can you best deal with a passive-aggressive person? 1. The biggest mistake people make is to be lenient. 2. 3. 4. OK, so everyone can be passive-aggressive sometimes.